Is it fair to arbitrarily increase punishment to your child?

[Staci]

i have read this thread and honestly dont understand why certain people feel the need to name call, try to insult, etc. why are you all letting someone who has 380 odd posts, and who some think is a troll get the best of you? everyone is entitled to their opinion. this is the internet, people will twist things to piss you off and get a reaction from you.

 

[Roxi]

And if you add arbitrary punishment, you show your child that even the you are not fair.
Nice thought for a child to grow up with. Great example.

Regards
DL

First off all your arrogance is amazing, how dare you judge others when you are no more than a self rightous
Moron. I happen to live with Moonowl and she is a wonderful parent and a fine example of a mother to her child, so bite you tounge before you insult those you know nothing about.

B S.

If the rule is either or then why is chosing or disrespectful. He is following your rules?

Regards
DL

And how is this not disrespectful...... you never answered my question either, do you hve children??

 

[Greatest I am]

i have read this thread and honestly dont understand why certain people feel the need to name call, try to insult, etc. why are you all letting someone who has 380 odd posts, and who some think is a troll get the best of you? everyone is entitled to their opinion. this is the internet, people will twist things to piss you off and get a reaction from you.

Or show them what they really are and they do not like what they see.
Good to see you on the job.

If you usually participate in issues, can I invite your thoughts here.
Either I will learn something or some others may see that their perspective can use adjusting.

Regards
DL

 

[Greatest I am]

First off all your arrogance is amazing, how dare you judge others when you are no more than a self rightous
Moron. I happen to live with Moonowl and she is a wonderful parent and a fine example of a mother to her child, so bite you tounge before you insult those you know nothing about.



And how is this not disrespectful...... you never answered my question either, do you hve children??

4 boys.
I spanked the first one the one time and that was enough to show me that it was my parenting skills that were at fault and not his skill at being a child.

The choice is yours as well. Brute force of brute mental power.
You might have noted that those here who choose brute force are not the brightest flames and as to me judging,
"First off all your arrogance is amazing, how dare you judge others when you are no more than a self righteous Moron."

Is that a judgment call?

Pardon my judgment but I think so. Oh my.
Show your judgment, am I right?
Let's see if you can self judge as I think I can.

Regards
DL

 

[MoonOwl]

I happen to live with Moonowl and she is a wonderful parent and a fine example of a mother to her child, so bite you tounge before you insult those you know nothing about.

You're too kind :cool I hadn't realized I'd been responded to until now...

And if you add arbitrary punishment, you show your child that even the you are not fair.
Nice thought for a child to grow up with. Great example.

Regards
DL

To soothe your worry, I just asked PBBB if she thought we were fair parents. She thought about it and said compared to some, yes. Compared to others, no.

Works for me.

Of course, she knew I'd beat her ass if she said NO. :24:

 

[Roxi]

4 boys.
I spanked the first one the one time and that was enough to show me that it was my parenting skills that were at fault and not his skill at being a child.

The choice is yours as well. Brute force of brute mental power.
You might have noted that those here who choose brute force are not the brightest flames and as to me judging,
"First off all your arrogance is amazing, how dare you judge others when you are no more than a self righteous Moron."

Is that a judgment call?

Pardon my judgment but I think so. Oh my.
Show your judgment, am I right?
Let's see if you can self judge as I think I can.

Regards
DL

First of all sir I never once said anything about brute force, I do not believe in that form of punishment so how bout you stop twisting what I say to fit your agendaeven though that seems to be you best skill even though you fail at it as no one on here sees you more than the troll you are...

And yes you attacked her parenting skills as they do not fit yours that is a judgement call as for me being judgemental I have not judged your skills as a parent I merely asked if you had kids, everyones parenting is different and its a case of what ever works for your family. You sarcastically said she was a fine example for her child is that not judgement... I called you a self rightous moron it is an insult and judgement on a string of posts you have made, you read one thing she said nd made a snap judgement so you may call me judgemental all you like cause your posts do nothing but prove my statement...

Regards....
RM

 

[Springsteen]

everyones parenting is different and its a case of what ever works for your family.

Exactly, this is what I have been saying. No parent is the same in terms of child discipline because it's too subjective, like how that parent was themselves brought up, what they read/listen to in the media of child development, stuff like that. There's no right or wrong way of being a parent (unless you abuse the child, that's too much), it's just what you believe.

 

[itsmeJonB]

they're kids, fuck em.
as the parent you have every right to look at the gravity of the action and determine the punishment even if you promised the kid you wouldnt punish them before knowing what they did.

 

[Staci]

Exactly, this is what I have been saying. No parent is the same in terms of child discipline because it's too subjective, like how that parent was themselves brought up, what they read/listen to in the media of child development, stuff like that. There's no right or wrong way of being a parent (unless you abuse the child, that's too much), it's just what you believe.

:homo: end of debate

 

[Tuffdisc]

4 boys.
I spanked the first one the one time and that was enough to show me that it was my parenting skills that were at fault and not his skill at being a child.

The choice is yours as well. Brute force of brute mental power.
You might have noted that those here who choose brute force are not the brightest flames and as to me judging,
"First off all your arrogance is amazing, how dare you judge others when you are no more than a self righteous Moron."

Is that a judgment call?

Pardon my judgment but I think so. Oh my.
Show your judgment, am I right?
Let's see if you can self judge as I think I can.

Regards
DL

I wish you would look at the picture you have just posted here, ponder on it for a second and go back to the other thread(s) where you have just done that to me, talk about hypocritical, huh?

 

[MoonOwl]

:homo: end of debate

:homo:ette :nod:

 

[Greatest I am]

First of all sir I never once said anything about brute force, I do not believe in that form of punishment so how bout you stop twisting what I say to fit your agendaeven though that seems to be you best skill even though you fail at it as no one on here sees you more than the troll you are...

And yes you attacked her parenting skills as they do not fit yours that is a judgement call as for me being judgemental I have not judged your skills as a parent I merely asked if you had kids, everyones parenting is different and its a case of what ever works for your family. You sarcastically said she was a fine example for her child is that not judgement... I called you a self rightous moron it is an insult and judgement on a string of posts you have made, you read one thing she said nd made a snap judgement so you may call me judgemental all you like cause your posts do nothing but prove my statement...

Regards....
RM

Well. If you read my post I was speaking to my lack of parenting skill and did not speak to yours skills, whatever they are, at all.

As to judging. I see you dancing about instead of admitting you did it as well. Oh well.

Regards
DL

 

[Greatest I am]

they're kids, fuck em.
as the parent you have every right to look at the gravity of the action and determine the punishment even if you promised the kid you wouldnt punish them before knowing what they did.

Lying to children is ok then. Ok.

How about the reward side. Should parents promise pay, let's say, for shoveling the walk, and afterwards not pay the child?

A double standard on your part says that you would not hold back payment and that goes against your arbitrary adding on of punishment.

Your child will be confused.

Regards
DL

 

[Greatest I am]

I wish you would look at the picture you have just posted here, ponder on it for a second and go back to the other thread(s) where you have just done that to me, talk about hypocritical, huh?

Thanks for another guessing game child.

You hide your questions as well as your beefs.
Can you not find another child to play with?

Regards
DL

 

[Guyzerr]

:rockon:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mqm7lvdRFIs


opcorn2:

 

[Tuffdisc]

Thanks for another guessing game child.

You hide your questions as well as your beefs.
Can you not find another child to play with?

Regards
DL

Sorry, but I am not a pedo :thumbup

Hey, also, what is it with these insults you are trying to intimidate me with? Can't you answer a simple question? Oh, I have already said you already stuck in that dilemma, that is why you don't answer :24:

 

[Roxi]

Well. If you read my post I was speaking to my lack of parenting skill and did not speak to yours skills, whatever they are, at all.

As to judging. I see you dancing about instead of admitting you did it as well. Oh well.

Regards
DL

I do not have kids of my own but at 11yrs old I was taking care of my 1yr old sister due to having a mum who worked so much... I raised my little sister and you know what she is a wonderful girl so I have parenting skills...

And are you blind or just so far up your own ass sniffing you shit and telling the world it smells like roses I actually stated I made ajudgement just not a snap one like yours... if you want to debate maybe you should read others replies fully....

 

[Tuffdisc]

I do not have kids of my own but at 11yrs old I was taking care of my 1yr old sister due to having a mum who worked so much... I raised my little sister and you know what she is a wonderful girl so I have parenting skills...

And are you blind or just so far up your own ass sniffing you shit and telling the world it smells like roses I actually stated I made ajudgement just not a snap one like yours... if you want to debate maybe you should read others replies fully....

He likes judging people, then tells other people not to judge him, pffft

 

[Roxi]

He likes judging people, then tells other people not to judge him, pffft

Lol I noticed. Like I said self richous

 

[Minor Axis]

I did, I said that the punishment system varies from parent to parent. No parent is the same, some believe in spanking their child, some believe in locking their child in their bedroom for 3 days, some in banning them from their PC for a week, some believe in...I could go on. It also depends on what they did. Let's say a child went on Facebook and posted "I hate niggers and Jews", the parent would, in all probability, ban them from using Facebook. I mean they might get a beating, but the banning from FB would be the primary punishment.

So there's no right or wrong way of punishing a child, because it varies from parent to parent.

Now on punishments. I don't condone violent beatings towards a child and I also believe that a child should be encouraged to do good thing, I'm not talking about bribes but something like "Oh that's a good thing you did, keep on with that". And the child would know right from wrong, but then we're entering into an entirely different debate.

In the example given, the parent threatened a specific punishment, and when the child broke the rule, he, the child got 3 times what was originally threatened. Parent to parent with individual rules is not an adequate answer for this situation imo. I say this based on law enforcement. If our law says armed robbery is punishable by 10 years in prison, but the judge issues a death sentence, would you say that was fair? I'd say no.