Should Same Sex Couples Be Allowed To Adopt?

[Jack Sparrow]

mixed emotions we have over here !!!! hey launch a poll instead will help !!! I am on both sides, its better for child to be with a gay couple rather than spend his/her life as an orphan out in that PIRATE world.

 

[Gabe]

This is a very interesting question. I believe they should be allowed to adopt; they are no different from heterosexual couples. However, there is the issue of how this will influence the life of the child. How does a heterosexual child live with homosexual parents? The child in question may find it disturbing (no offense intended), especially at a younger age. I know that many homosexual children find it very hard to live with their parents, especially if his or her parents are not supportive of them. And even if the child was fine with that, what of the other children? We have to face the possibility that the child's pears would consider him something less and make fun of him, or worse, even though this is as far from the truth as is possible. The ideal solution would be for the child to make their own choice, but that would only be possible if the child was old enough. So the real question is one that has appeared in many other situations, abortion and euthanasia among them; how does one make a life altering decision for someone who is incapable of making that decision himself/herself?

Cheers,

Gabe

 

[spaz]

Yer,....damn they would make better parents than some i could think of...

As long as that child is brought up with love and structure...thats absolutely no reason why not.

i absolutely, 100%, agree.

 

[Mase]

My answer to the thread.

Yes. I think they should be able to marry, too. Sexual orientation shouldn't affect anything on rights or privileges at all.

 

[Tim]

It's funny that this exact conversation could have taken place 50 years ago, just swap out homosexual couple with mixed ethnicity couple.

"That damn black man is trying to have a child with that poor white woman", the shame.

Amazing, isn't it?

Maybe someday we can ALL grow up.

 

[wednesday]

Unfortunately Tim, i think some still feel the same...*sighs*

 

[katt]

I think they should be allowed to adopt as long as they fulfill the rest of the criteria...

 

[Ryder]

Of course!

 

[Makedde]

There is no reason why they shouldn't be allowed to adopt. There is no evidence to suggest that children raised by same sex parents are worse off than those raised by opposite sex parents.

 

[Accountable]

It's funny that this exact conversation could have taken place 50 years ago, just swap out homosexual couple with mixed ethnicity couple.

"That damn black man is trying to have a child with that poor white woman", the shame.

Amazing, isn't it?

Maybe someday we can ALL grow up.

50 years ago?? Try today, when it comes to adoption. Many people think white people shouldn't be allowed to adopt kids of different ethnicities for fear of the kids not learning about thier heritage.

 

[Dana]

I'd say yes. I have a friend who's bi and married to a woman. She seems to be making out fine.

 

[dazner]

It's funny that this exact conversation could have taken place 50 years ago, just swap out homosexual couple with mixed ethnicity couple.

"That damn black man is trying to have a child with that poor white woman", the shame.

Amazing, isn't it?

Maybe someday we can ALL grow up.

it's different than a mixed race couple...

in a mixed race couple there is still a mom and dad....


in a gay couple there is either a mom and mom or dad and dad...

how would anyone who's had both thier parents mom and dad feel to not have one of them...mom or dad and have two of the same mom and mom or dad and dad I think there would be a missing emotional bond that a child needs...


a daddys little girl or mommys little boy kinda relationship.


I just don't think that adoption when it comes to same sex couples should be allowed just yet until it's 100% proven that it's in the best interest for the child.... :thumbup

 

[wednesday]

Hate to point this out Dazner..but no couple has been proven 100% best interest for the child......ever.
So while we wait for these results to be made..lets shove all these babies n children into foster homes...just to be sure we are doing the right thing.100%

 

[Makedde]

I just don't think that adoption when it comes to same sex couples should be allowed just yet until it's 100% proven that it's in the best interest for the child.... :thumbup

Sometimes it isn't in the best interests of the child to be raised by two parents of opposite sex. Heterosexuals get divorced - nearly one in two couples will divorce, and imagine how traumatic is for a child to have his parents fighting, and he has to decide who he wants to live with.

I would say that's a case against heterosexuals even having children.

You also must consider single parents. Single parents by choice, or single parents due to unfortunate circumstances. Are two parents better than one? If so, we should ban single parents from raising children.

That wasn't mean to sound nasty, just so you know.:thumbup

 

[wednesday]

Sometimes it isn't in the best interests of the child to be raised by two parents of opposite sex. Heterosexuals get divorced - nearly one in two couples will divorce, and imagine how traumatic is for a child to have his parents fighting, and he has to decide who he wants to live with.

I would say that's a case against heterosexuals even having children.

You also must consider single parents. Single parents by choice, or single parents due to unfortunate circumstances. Are two parents better than one? If so, we should ban single parents from raising children.

That wasn't mean to sound nasty, just so you know.:thumbup

:clapexactly..im a single parent Dazner...not by choice.
Does that make me less likely to benefit my children?........

 

[Makedde]

Yes. Recent studies have shown that Same Sex couples are actually more responsible parents on average than straight couples.

This is in part because not all straight couples desire their children, whereas Same Sex couples do not have fortune to have unwanted children.

I am inclined to believe you, because what you say makes sense, but are their any studies which can prove this?:thumbup

 

[Accountable]

:clapexactly..im a single parent Dazner...not by choice.
Does that make me less likely to benefit my children?........

But you didn't adopt, did you, Wednesday? Or if you did, it was before you became a single parent. (big hugs to you, btw. You're hanging in with one of the world's toughest jobs)

If I were suddenly forced into the position of deciding whether a child would be adopted by a single person or a same-sex couple (all other things being equal), I'd opt for the couple. I'd never support banning any category of person from adoption. Each adoption should be decided on a case-by-case basis. Any bad risks can be weeded out that way.

 

[Accountable]

Yes. Recent studies have shown that Same Sex couples are actually more responsible parents on average than straight couples.

This is in part because not all straight couples desire their children, whereas Same Sex couples do not have fortune to have unwanted children.

Do you have a link for those recent studies? This is the best I could find.

from Gay & Lesbian Adoption Rights - Same Sex Adoption Laws

Gay Adoption
Find gay adoption statistics and learn the factors involved with gay couples adopting in each state.
1. Gay Adoption: America
While there are no current reliable gay adoption statistics for America, there are statistics on children in gay homes. In 1976, there were between 300,000 to 500,000 gay and lesbian biological parents. In 1990, 6 to 14 million children had at least one gay or lesbian parent. Between 8 and 10 million children were being raised in gay and lesbian households.

In 1999, approximately 547,000 children in foster care in the US, 117,000 legally free for adoption. There were only qualified adoptive families available for only twenty percent of them. Ten percent of the US population is homosexual, meaning a lot of couples whose biological resources for children are reduced are currently prevented from filling in the adoption gap.

2. Issues In Deciding the Adoption Question
Definitive studies are needed that would follow larger numbers of children over a long period of time. This would establish reliable information on gay parenting and the effects (if any) on children.

Currently, research studies are contradictory and can be influenced by the individuals or organizations that finance the study. Studies linked with conservative groups and religion often show negative effects on children from gay households. Studies that support gay parenting are often accused of being biased, the researchers supporting gay rights.

 

[dazner]

:clapexactly..im a single parent Dazner...not by choice.
Does that make me less likely to benefit my children?........

exactly WEdzers not by choice......

but when there is a choice the right one should be made......for the child not for the couple getting the child....cause in reality who really cares about them right?



this is about a child.....

 

[wednesday]

But i do a perfectly good job without another partner Daz....in fact probably better