When will a woman appreciate me?

[Silious950]

Well my gf Heather has a thing where she has to approve a comment before posting it on myspace. Looking at her most recent one it's a friend from her best friend Janina's work. He said "ur lucky u have a boyfriend..and that i repect him....but if u didnt..id be all up in ur buisness" I go to his page she says "thank you " and I'm feeling really bad that she 1.) appoved the comment and 2.)appreciated what he had to say...

I'm just not feeling the mutual forthought into stuff...

I'm getting really worried, not that she would ever cheat, that she really isn't that into me...

 

[Boomer]

Damn bro. Im sorry. Its like you want to say something, but you dont want to come off as the jealous type either. *shakes his head*

 

[AUDRAA]

Im not seeing why this is bad???

 

[All Else Failed]

Well my gf Heather has a thing where she has to approve a comment before posting it on myspace. Looking at her most recent one it's a friend from her best friend Janina's work. He said "ur lucky u have a boyfriend..and that i repect him....but if u didnt..id be all up in ur buisness" I go to his page she says "thank you " and I'm feeling really bad that she 1.) appoved the comment and 2.)appreciated what he had to say...

I'm just not feeling the mutual forthought into stuff...

I'm getting really worried, not that she would ever cheat, that she really isn't that into me...

well, he said he respected you and that she is lucky to have you. Nothing wrong there. Then he said he would go after her, hypothetically. If anything, thats a compliment to you for having a good looking gf.

 

[Boomer]

Im not seeing why this is bad???

Maybe he feels the same way I do. I want a girl thats completely nutz about me. Not one that lets a message like that kick it on her myspace page. :shrug:

 

[Peter Parka]

Nothing wrong with that. It means that she's with you because she wants you, not because she can't get anyone else. Take it as a compliment. I say stuff like that to girls on here and I'm married, it's a compliment, nothing more, don't read too much into it dude and count yourself lucky. I love it when other blokes fancy my wife because I trust her not to do anything about it and knowing other men would love to be with my wife but can't be is a compliment and feels good!

 

[COOL_BREEZE2]

I'm with AEF on this Sillous.

Plus, Look at it this way:

He said..."and that i repect him"

She said..."Thank you".

Get the drift? Don't make a mountain out of a molehill Sillous. Additionally, she may have felt hardpressed to decline his comment that she may have insulted him. It happens.

 

[Silious950]

Maybe he feels the same way I do. I want a girl thats completely nutz about me. Not one that lets a message like that kick it on her myspace page. :shrug:

Exactly Boomer, that is exactly what I want. It's how she handled the situation, and how she responded to his comment that is showing me how she feels about us, and how she reacted to other people hitting on her.She told me that if any guy was her friend and blattently hit on her, she would cut it off. I'm thinking she lied, and she just doesn't get how much I care for her so I think that this is a big deal.

I know she has strong feelings for me, she says she does. But words only go so far , it's how she SHOWS me how she feel that counts almost as much or even more. From what she has shown me from what she has texted with me that its not a big deal, and from what she wrote back to this insignificant cunt; she showed me that she doesn't...

That's why it matters to me... I know she would never cheat on me...:unsure:

 

[AUDRAA]

it looks to me like youre a bit insecure but thats just my opinion what do I know

 

[Silious950]

Don't you get that he totally disrespected me? He said he did respect me BUT that if we weren't together he would totally go for it. I'm sorry but it has made me cautious and has completely shown me she accepts that kind of flirtacious comments

 

[Boomer]

Can you blame him for being insecure? Some of us men have been fucking shit on too Pony. Doods obviously been drug under the bus a couple times. I think I've seen past posts of him getting his heart smashed.

 

[Silious950]

it looks to me like youre a bit insecure but thats just my opinion what do I know

I'll admit that yes I do have security issues. I'm sorry I've been fucked over too many times in the past and I've brought myself to believe that I'm an amazing bf and that if a girl wants my attention and affection then I'm going to bring her up to my level and confidence and success. I'm not going to be with someone who will bring me down.

 

[NightWarrior]

Well, from what you posted before about your g/f using her ex-bf to console her when someone's car got broken into and all, I would say you have every right to question this response. It would appear to me that you are beginning to see the clues to the beginning of the end my friend, I hate to say it. Good luck though bro.

 

[Silious950]

Can you blame him for being insecure? Some of us men have been fucking shit on too Pony. Doods obviously been drug under the bus a couple times. I think I've seen past posts of him getting his heart smashed.

:homo:

Exactly

 

[Peter Parka]

Don't you get that he totally disrespected me? He said he did respect me BUT that if we weren't together he would totally go for it. I'm sorry but it has made me cautious and has completely shown me she accepts that kind of flirtacious comments

At least he was being honest! Just because you're with someone dosen't mean that you are not going to like other people in that way. It's what you do and don't do which counts. I know quite a few girls I would jump to be with if I was single but I'm not, I love my wife so just make sure I don't put myself in a situation where I would be tempted. Accepting a comment like that on myspace isn't one of them. To be honest, if your girlfriend hadn't accepted the comment I would be more worried. It would show she's trying to hide things from you and I would wonder why. If you get too insecure about things like this though, next time she might hide it from you and hiding stuff from your partner isn't a good way to keep a relationship great!

 

[NightWarrior]

At least he was being honest! Just because you're with someone dosen't mean that you are not going to like other people in that way. It's what you do and don't do which counts. I know quite a few girls I would jump to be with if I was single but I'm not, I love my wife so just make sure I don't put myself in a situation where I would be tempted. Accepting a comment like that on myspace isn't one of them. To be honest, if your girlfriend hadn't accepted the comment I would be more worried. It would show she's trying to hide things from you and I would wonder why. If you get too insecure about things like this though, next time she might hide it from you and hiding stuff from your partner isn't a good way to keep a relationship great!

Indeed, but why not say, thanks for the comments. I am lucky to have him as a b/f, I am crazy about him. I don't know, its just fishy.

 

[Silious950]

Either way Peter, my feelings are hurt, she knows my past. She knows my expectations. I'm not giving up, I always try to work things out, talk about it. I've been through too much shit man.. way too much...

 

[Peter Parka]

Indeed, but why not say, thanks for the comments. I am lucky to have him as a b/f, I am crazy about him. I don't know, its just fishy.

Didn't she just say "thankyou" ? I really don't see how you can read too much into that other than she was being polite?:dunno

 

[AUDRAA]

ok heres the thing I get that you are insecure because youve been screwed over we all have, but if you cant trust the one youre with and question what she is doing than that will drive a wedge in your relationship. I havent read many of your pervious posts and maybe I should have but if you question her than maybe it is time to get out now before you get more involved. I honestly think her hiding it would have been more disrespectful to you. Her reply could have been better, but as a wise freind of mine once told me if you go looking you will eventually find something,whether you make it up or its true, and if you have to look in the first place what kind of relationship is that anyway?

 

[Silious950]

I trust her. If you haven't read that I do trust her. I just think that she's losing feelings and really doesn't care.

And yes I do question things, I feel like I have to, I like being open, talking about feeling good/bad. Taking it all in full stride, relationships aren't always a fun ride, it has ups n downs, it's how you deal with the downs and rise up is what matters. I really didn't make a big deal about this when I mentioned that I got my feelings hurt to her. It's how she reacted is what is spurring this.

I always say that communication is key no matter how propostorious the subject is, I want to feel like I can talk to her about anything, so I am.