When will a woman appreciate me?

[GraceAbounds]

Well my gf Heather has a thing where she has to approve a comment before posting it on myspace. Looking at her most recent one it's a friend from her best friend Janina's work. He said "ur lucky u have a boyfriend..and that i repect him....but if u didnt..id be all up in ur buisness" I go to his page she says "thank you " and I'm feeling really bad that she 1.) appoved the comment and 2.)appreciated what he had to say...

I'm just not feeling the mutual forthought into stuff...

I'm getting really worried, not that she would ever cheat, that she really isn't that into me...

Don't feel bad. It isn't about you. When a girl takes those kinds of things as a compliment it is because she doesn't value herself enough. That is on her hun - not you.

Personally, I want to be with someone that values themselves and then tries to mirror that in how they value others.

 

[Peter Parka]

Don't feel bad. It isn't about you. When a girl takes those kinds of things as a compliment it is because she doesn't value herself enough. That is on her hun - not you.

Personally, I want to be with someone that values themselves and then tries to mirror that in how they value others.

Sorry Grace but I find that an extremely bitchy thing to say. We can't all live up to your high morals you know!:mad

 

[Silious950]

Don't feel bad. It isn't about you. When a girl takes those kinds of things as a compliment it is because she doesn't value herself enough. That is on her hun - not you.

Personally, I want to be with someone that values themselves and then tries to mirror that in how they value others.

If you have read what has been said in this thread that is how I want to be with someone.I mirror very good qualities and I know that, And I have no clue by wat u mean by "Don't feel bad. It isn't about you. When a girl takes those kinds of things as a compliment it is because she doesn't value herself enough. That is on her hun - not you." ??????

 

[GraceAbounds]

In other words if someone comes up to me and says 'I know you are married, but I'd really like to hit that' - if I said 'Thank you' that would say more about ME than it would about my HUSBAND.

Sorry if you don't understand Silious, but if you'd read my above post again you'd realize it was YOU I giving a compliment to.

 

[Keight]

Jealousy is a bitch!, She loves you you love her and you trust her i get that, however it is only myspace the thank you thing to me looks like perhaps she didnt know how to take the compliment and thought it was the best answer she could give. If the same thing were said to me i could come up with at least ten different answers that would actually warrent Jealousy however i dont think you should get too concerned about it until you talk to her and ask her whats going on, of course doing that without sounding like your jealous is gonna be a hard thing.
In the same sense If it were me i would be messaging the guy and telling him if he does in fact respect you then he has really no right to be leaving shit like that on her page knowing full well you are going to read it... OR get back at him by posting other shit on her page to make him feel jealous... OK i lost my train of thoughts and went with and evil vindictive kinda thing and this precisely is why i dont do jealousy, You want her to respect you and be only you she thinks about then you need to show her exactly the same thing...

Did anything i say up there ^^^ make any sense whatsoever? LOL woooo too much caffine already im thinking =)

 

[GraceAbounds]

Sorry Grace but I find that an extremely bitchy thing to say. We can't all live up to your high morals you know!:mad

Love ya Peter, but whatever. I don't even understand what you are on about here. :confused

 

[Silious950]

In other words if someone comes up to me and says 'I know you are married, but I'd really like to hit that' - if I said 'Thank you' that would say more about ME than it would about my HUSBAND.

Sorry if you don't understand Silious, but if you'd read my above post again you'd realize it was YOU I giving a compliment to.

Oh I know Grace! I just didn't understand and now I do thank you

 

[Silious950]

Jealousy is a bitch!, She loves you you love her and you trust her i get that, however it is only myspace the thank you thing to me looks like perhaps she didnt know how to take the compliment and thought it was the best answer she could give. If the same thing were said to me i could come up with at least ten different answers that would actually warrent Jealousy however i dont think you should get too concerned about it until you talk to her and ask her whats going on, of course doing that without sounding like your jealous is gonna be a hard thing.
In the same sense If it were me i would be messaging the guy and telling him if he does in fact respect you then he has really no right to be leaving shit like that on her page knowing full well you are going to read it... OR get back at him by posting other shit on her page to make him feel jealous... OK i lost my train of thoughts and went with and evil vindictive kinda thing and this precisely is why i dont do jealousy, You want her to respect you and be only you she thinks about then you need to show her exactly the same thing...

Did anything i say up there ^^^ make any sense whatsoever? LOL woooo too much caffine already im thinking =)

Yes dude I got what you mean. And I don't message him exactly what you stated and he said that I should be more worried about my girl accepting the comment than the respect thing.

 

[Silious950]

I think Grace put it best. I think this speaks loads about my insecurities, and also shows me alot about my gf's self worth.. I know how to talk to her about it tonight...

 

[Peter Parka]

Love ya Peter, but whatever. I don't even understand what you are on about here. :confused

If you don't get it, I'd say read Keights comment. I know you have a much stricter view on what is and isn't right in a healthy relationship but most peoples views arn't like that. I find it extremely insulting to the girl that you say she has a self esteem problem just because she accepted a compliment with no flirtation back whatsoever!

 

[NightWarrior]

I think Grace put it best. I think this speaks loads about my insecurities, and also shows me alot about my gf's self worth.. I know how to talk to her about it tonight...

Yeah, when your hittin it from behind, make sure to slip it in her pooper without lube!































:jk

 

[AUDRAA]

ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Steve!!!!!!!!!!

 

[GraceAbounds]

If you don't get it, I'd say read Keights comment. I know you have a much stricter view on what is and isn't right in a healthy relationship but most peoples views arn't like that. I find it extremely insulting to the girl that you say she has a self esteem problem just because she accepted a compliment with no flirtation back whatsoever!

Someone telling you that they would be 'all up in your business' isn't a compliment, it is an insult.

 

[AUDRAA]

matter of opinion Grace

 

[GraceAbounds]

I think Grace put it best. I think this speaks loads about my insecurities, and also shows me alot about my gf's self worth.. I know how to talk to her about it tonight...

Glad to hear it. I hope you guys can communicate and work it out.

 

[GraceAbounds]

matter of opinion Grace

If some boy told your teenage daughter that they wanted to 'be all up in her business' would you think it was a compliment?

 

[AUDRAA]

If some boy told your teenage daughter that they wanted to 'be all up in her business' would you think it was a compliment?

you are taking that out of context now compair apples to apples here

 

[GraceAbounds]

OK, take the word teenage out of the question.

 

[NightWarrior]

If some boy told your teenage daughter that they wanted to 'be all up in her business' would you think it was a compliment?

Is the boy rich? I want to know if he can afford a lawyer after I kick the living shit out of him.

Of course I'd have to be all up in his business if I ever heard such a thing.

 

[Peter Parka]

Yeah, well Grace, we all don't like in a world where your partner looking at porn or looking at a girl and fancying her is cheating on you. If it works for you great, but stop being so high and mighty over people who dont! Boomer talks about hitting on girls here all the time, are you now going to tell me he's insulting them and has low self esteem?