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IntruderLS1

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Here's my take on it. And this is comming from a person who was in almost the exact situation.

Go ahead and call her, but don't let it get serious. Just call and say hey. Find out how she's been, yada yada. Then tell her it was so great to talk to her, and you're glad to hear she's doing well. If you link up, the feelings will be back instantly. I would recomend against if it was a hard break up, because she's going to leave again. (Unless she moved to that new town). But I can almost gaurantee you if you hook up for old times sake, you'll be transported back 2 years in time in a mater of days.

The past is hard to deal with when it refuses to stay in the past. In general the thing I tell people with relationship questions, is "What does your heart tell you?" And you already seem to know that it wouldn't be a good idea. It's going against your instinct in relationships (for guys at least) that leads to the drama.

Good luck to you.

FWIW, I got back together with mine, ... it was great ... Then she left again... then we were sad .... Now it's been 5 years and I still wonder how the hell she's doing. If it had ended the first time, I think it would have been easier.
 
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IntruderLS1 said:
Here's my take on it. And this is comming from a person who was in almost the exact situation.

Go ahead and call her, but don't let it get serious. Just call and say hey. Find out how she's been, yada yada. Then tell her it was so great to talk to her, and you're glad to hear she's doing well. If you link up, the feelings will be back instantly. I would recomend against if it was a hard break up, because she's going to leave again. (Unless she moved to that new town). But I can almost gaurantee you if you hook up for old times sake, you'll be transported back 2 years in time in a mater of days.

The past is hard to deal with when it refuses to stay in the past. In general the thing I tell people with relationship questions, is "What does your heart tell you?" And you already seem to know that it wouldn't be a good idea. It's going against your instinct in relationships (for guys at least) that leads to the drama.

Good luck to you.

FWIW, I got back together with mine, ... it was great ... Then she left again... then we were sad .... Now it's been 5 years and I still wonder how the hell she's doing. If it had ended the first time, I think it would have been easier.

Wow Intruder,

you are a really sensitive guy....
 

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Intruder it sounds like you shouldnt have got back with her ..... Some times the second time isnt always the best :dunno :dunno
 

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thanks intruder.. id like to hang out with her, i just dont want the drama of serious dating- especially with her out of town.. your story helped.
 

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AtlanticBlue99 said:
thanks intruder.. id like to hang out with her, i just dont want the drama of serious dating- especially with her out of town.. your story helped.

I'm glad.

It's better than the stories of:

:booze :banana :hump :booze :humpnana :wtf :gears :dunno



:lol :lol :lol

Good luck in whichever path you end up on.
 

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my buddy ives in gainesville and his girlfriend is in georgia somewheres. they are going on three years. they are both in college full time. if they can work i believe long distance is possible. call her back, whats the worst that could happen? that you dont talk to her ever again?
 

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bootsie said:
IntruderLS1 said:
Here's my take on it. And this is comming from a person who was in almost the exact situation.

Go ahead and call her, but don't let it get serious. Just call and say hey. Find out how she's been, yada yada. Then tell her it was so great to talk to her, and you're glad to hear she's doing well. If you link up, the feelings will be back instantly. I would recomend against if it was a hard break up, because she's going to leave again. (Unless she moved to that new town). But I can almost gaurantee you if you hook up for old times sake, you'll be transported back 2 years in time in a mater of days.

The past is hard to deal with when it refuses to stay in the past. In general the thing I tell people with relationship questions, is "What does your heart tell you?" And you already seem to know that it wouldn't be a good idea. It's going against your instinct in relationships (for guys at least) that leads to the drama.

Good luck to you.

FWIW, I got back together with mine, ... it was great ... Then she left again... then we were sad .... Now it's been 5 years and I still wonder how the hell she's doing. If it had ended the first time, I think it would have been easier.

Wow Intruder,

you are a really sensitive guy....


see. That's why I like the guy. He's deep. :rock

Hey Blue....Did you phone the girl yet?!?!? Just call her. You will always be wondering "what if"?
 

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here is what you do:

1. call her
2. ask her to dinner
3. get her drunk
4. take her somewhere the parents aren't going to be
5. check out the package
6. give her something she won't forget and she will be all over you nuts
:hump :hump :hump :hump







kidding bro... just call the girl!!
 

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AtlanticBlue99 said:
the feelings are sex. not emotional. thats why i want to see her. fuck talking to her IMO

if that is the case why did you get so mad that she left if you dont really have feelings for her anyways
 

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Don't be cheap and go to see her. She called you probably cause she still has feelings for you. You both were unjustly separated and deserve a second chance. Your anger should not be towards her but her parents or the situation that made it happen.
 

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daamn, old thread. to follow up, i never went to see her. a friend of mine got a beach house in hilton head, sc and i went there for a week and it was the best week of the summer. a new girl every night will take your mind off the past...
 

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Don't be cheap and go to see her. She called you probably cause she still has feelings for you. You both were unjustly separated and deserve a second chance. Your anger should not be towards her but her parents or the situation that made it happen.
Your paragraph is apt, you need to throw your anger away and focus on the lady and not the parent that's it
 
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