If You Dating A Person With A Child

[NoDak]

If the woman isn't even divorced yet, we move from ignorant to just plain stupid.

On the part of both parties.

 

[acctnt shan]

I agree with what several people have said here. As the daughter of divorced parents, I can say that waiting until you're 100% sure of the person staying in your life is the best decision for the children. I saw both sides. My mom waited to introduce my brother and I to her second husband, whereas my dad introduced us to his new girlfriend almost right away. We grew attached to both her & her family, so when they separated later, it did a lot of emotional damage - we didn't just lose her, but her family. My dad was just being selfish in thrusting us into a relationship with his girlfriend - it was easier for him, so he just did it. My mom's choice of action was a lot more considerate of the well-being of my brother and I.

And as the one on the outside of the family, you have no right to decide whether its time to meet the children. It's the mother's choice alone. And hint - you'll win brownie points by being patient and understanding about it.

 

[rback33]

You might as well move on Dana.. after reading this and the "things left unsaid" thread it's quite clear you are too selfish and self-centered to deal with this relationship. I have been through similar scenarios and she is doing what's best for the children. I am truly appalled at your lack of respect for that.

 

[teh_fuzz]

and even more appropriate response was when i told our circle of friends that my 1yr olds penis was bigger than his


i can be a mean bitch sometimes.......LOL

:ninja LOL

 

[rback33]

:ninja LOL

Just remember who is sleeping when she gets home from work....

 

[Dana]

I give up

 

[Niyi Briggs]

I don't even care if the person that I am dating has a child. I always ask on the first date. And if such a person children, I don't mind meeting the children on the next date. It is something that you have to be open with when meeting a potential partner.

 

[Nomad]

Never dated anyone with a child and I am happily married with a child, therefore, what ever I say will be purely hypothetical. If you are serious about someone, I do not thin k the kids will be a problem.

 

[cherry123]

Well, as a single parent it is good to keep a man off your children until you are sure of him. it's not ideal to introduce different boos to your children

 

[Lolita]

It means patience and understanding are key. I’ve seen dating someone with a child require respect for their priorities and building trust slowly. Kids change the dynamic, but with care, it can be rewarding and meaningful.

 

[Fidelia]

If I happen to have a child and I am about to enter a relationship, I would let the person know from the very first date. The day I finally agree to start the relationship, the person should get to meet my child by the next meeting. No time to extend the awkwardness.