Big ol' boobies...

[Chillaxicator]

It's ok Sky, I know he's just fuckin around, haha. It's all good. And it is rough to hear all these stories about divorce, change and all that and still be trying to be supportive. How do you say to your wife: "Ok, you go and get your boobs, but you have to proooomise you won't show them to anybody, or fuck any random dudes, k?" You can't say that and not walk into a divorce right there, or a black eye...

 

[Tim]

Maybe I can make my point much clearer.

If this thread was about his wife losing weight instead of a boob job, how many of you would still believe that she should just be happy with who she is?

I mean his fears would still be the same, as she got more attractive, he would be more insecure about it. :dunno

 

[GoldDust Woman]

*I* thought Dana made perfect sense.

Then could you please explain the hooker comment he made? :ninja

Back to the topic of boobs. To implant, or not, to implant. I personally don't understand why women feel the need to get implants, but, that's because I'm endowed. I, like MoonOwl, have considered reduction and lifting, until I saw the procedure. No thank you.
On the flip-side, if I didn't have ample breasts, I can't say that I wouldn't yearn for them, either.

With that being said, if chill's wife would feel better about herself with larger breasts, then why not help her feel better about herself? Implants aren't the real issue here as far as what I'm reading...

 

[Chillaxicator]

I here you and understand your point, I do... but the exact same thing can be said for those who wish to diet and lose weight. Why? You should like yourself just like you are. And if they lose weight, they will be more attractive and can cheat... :dunno See my point?
It's all the same but to differing degrees.
As far as the boob job, there are safety concerns. And that should be the topic of discussion, not whether your relationship can handle it, because then the boob job really isn't the issue after all, is it?

But having small boobs doesn't give you heart problems... like being overweight does.

 

[skyblue]

It's ok Sky, I know he's just fuckin around, haha. It's all good. And it is rough to hear all these stories about divorce, change and all that and still be trying to be supportive. How do you say to your wife: "Ok, you go and get your boobs, but you have to proooomise you won't show them to anybody, or fuck any random dudes, k?" You can't say that and not walk into a divorce right there, or a black eye...

ok..getting them out....if she goes through with it just remember one thing,when you're out and shes got a low cut top on,guys will look...but just remember one thing,shes with you

and i doubt very much that she'll fuck any random dude

 

[HottyToddyChick]

I here you and understand your point, I do... but the exact same thing can be said for those who wish to diet and lose weight. Why? You should like yourself just like you are. And if they lose weight, they will be more attractive and can cheat... :dunno See my point?
It's all the same but to differing degrees.
As far as the boob job, there are safety concerns. And that should be the topic of discussion, not whether your relationship can handle it, because then the boob job really isn't the issue after all, is it?

But one could argue that dieting and losing weight isn't to enhance the appearance, it's to improve health and life expectancy. There's too many facets to any one situation to just say "This falls into x category and therefore I can compare it with that and done." But I do see where you're coming from. And you can bet your ass when I lose half of mine I will redo my wardrobe. But I won't act any different. I just won't dress frumpy.

I will disagree and say the topic IS the boob job because that seems to be the catalyst for the perceived relationship issues. Obviously, surgery or not, there's an underlying issue that needs ironing out, but this is at least bringing it to the surface. And there's a definite tug-o-war going on. And I also think it's about the surgery because there's a certain amount of respect that is, from my POV, grossly lacking.

And having reread that- you're right- nothing at all about the surgery. It is the catalyst, but it's all about the underlying issues.

 

[Dana]

Then could you please explain the hooker comment he made? :ninja

Back to the topic of boobs. To implant, or not, to implant. I personally don't understand why women feel the need to get implants, but, that's because I'm endowed. I, like MoonOwl, have considered reduction and lifting, until I saw the procedure. No thank you.
On the flip-side, if I didn't have ample breasts, I can't say that I wouldn't yearn for them, either.

With that being said, if chill's wife would feel better about herself with larger breasts, then why not help her feel better about herself? Implants aren't the real issue here as far as what I'm reading...

I'm sorry I cracked a joke... holy hell... Let's all get pissy over something so stupid and blow it out of proportion.

 

[Tim]

But having small boobs doesn't give you heart problems... like being overweight does.

No, but they can make my heart skip a beat.

 

[Chillaxicator]

ok..getting them out....if she goes through with it just remember one thing,when you're out and shes got a low cut top on,guys will look...but just remember one thing,shes with you

and i doubt very much that she'll fuck any random dude

Yeah, and that's one of the things I'll be contending with... which is rough for me to prepare for, but what am I gonna do right? As far as fuckin a random dude, or even one she knows... I just hope not... that'd really piss on my picnic basket ya know?

 

[HottyToddyChick]

GDW:

You said: Right there, the bolded part in the quote, is the real truth. How about YOU turning on some extra attention to her now... after all, you're the man she loves. Make it bigger and better love... that should cure your insecurities.

He said: U mean hers right?:ninja

Meaning if he loves on her more, it will cure his wife's insecurities and she won't feel the need to get the surgery. I think the hooker comment came before he saw your original comment. It makes perfect sense if you get rid of the hooker comment...

 

[Tim]

Yeah, and that's one of the things I'll be contending with... which is rough for me to prepare for, but what am I gonna do right? As far as fuckin a random dude, or even one she knows... I just hope not... that'd really piss on my picnic basket ya know?

I honestly don't know why people would be in a relationship where they don't KNOW that their partner is faithful. How do you do it? It would drive me nuts if I couldn't trust my partner 100%.
Why would anyone be in that type of relationship???

 

[GoldDust Woman]

I'm sorry I cracked a joke... holy hell... Let's all get pissy over something so stupid and blow it out of proportion.

Who's being pissy? You quoted me, so are you implying that I'm being pissy?

 

[Chillaxicator]

Yeah... maybe I'm just not doing enough as a husband... I'm not perfect, I'll be the first to admit it.

 

[HottyToddyChick]

Chill- what sort of tops does she wear now?

 

[Dana]

Who's being pissy? You quoted me, so are you implying that I'm being pissy?

No I'm sorry but people like to jump on me for stupid reasons. Let's go back to his problem.

 

[Chillaxicator]

Chill- what sort of tops does she wear now?

Oh various types, not one specific kind, usually a simple t-shirt but she still wears low cut type tops sometimes too, about as much as she wears regular shirts.

 

[GoldDust Woman]

Yeah, and that's one of the things I'll be contending with... which is rough for me to prepare for, but what am I gonna do right? As far as fuckin a random dude, or even one she knows... I just hope not... that'd really piss on my picnic basket ya know?

Who's to say she's not already going with the random dude now?

Egads, am I ever losing the real meaning of this thread...

 

[skyblue]

Yeah, and that's one of the things I'll be contending with... which is rough for me to prepare for, but what am I gonna do right? As far as fuckin a random dude, or even one she knows... I just hope not... that'd really piss on my picnic basket ya know?

believe me,walking into a crowded pub/club/anywhere with a good looking woman with great assets is a buzz when others are jealous of you.....you wait and see

 

[HottyToddyChick]

It ultimately comes to down to you know her better than any of us do. You're the one who will know if she's doing it for something inside of her or if she's seeking outside attention. You'll know if she's likely to change. (And I don't know what y'all's bank accounts look like, but what are the odds of her completely transforming her wardrobe after paying for this surgery?)

Here's some food for thought, too: You said you aren't much of a boob guy. Do you give them a lot of attention when y'all are intimate? Or do you just kind skip that step and move on to other things? Because if you're passing it by, that *could* have something to do with her having insecurities. Maybe the next time you get the chance, spend a little extra time focusing on them.

 

[Dana]

believe me,walking into a crowded pub/club/anywhere with a good looking woman with great assets is a buzz when others are jealous of you.....you wait and see

you're thinkig with the wrong brain there bucko.