14-year-old girl commits suicide over Myspace drama

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Dodge_Sniper

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Should they have let her have an account? Probably not but they read all the messages (according to the article) and knew that she was talking with this "boy". I think a more correct comparison would be a person walking down the side of a road (with sidewalks provided) and getting hit by driver who fell asleep at the wheel. Both made bad choices but one was far worse.

Understandable. Same in this story, both parties are wrong. But in my opinion, the girl and her parents are more wrong, because the girl should have not joined against the rules, and shouldn't have attempted to pursue an online relationship, that spanned across hundreds of thousands of miles.

It stated in the article that the mother also posted comments

Read the article again. The 14-year-old girl owned the Myspace account, but she SIGNED UP when she was under the age of 14.

Users on MySpace must be at least 14, though Megan was not when she opened her account.

She broke that rule, and it caused her death. As for the depression, it says she was diagnosed with depression. Ok, sure.

She was described as a "bubbly, goofy" girl who loved spending time with her friends, watching movies and fishing with her dad.

Then why did she need depression medication?

Also, check this one out:

Megan's parents say she swooned when she received an affectionate note from "Josh"

Ok. Well, Donnie, forgive me for comparing myself to her yet again, but I won't lie. I've met a girl once or twice online that I liked, but I never killed myself over it. Why? Because, I'm mature enough to understand that the person is out of state, and it won't work. She lived in Missouri, and the "Josh" kid lived in Florida supposedly. She should have known right off the bat that it was trouble waiting to happen. How did her parents not see this? The parents KNEW about the affectionate note, KNEW that he lived in Florida, and KNEW that she had a Myspace. Why didn't the parents intervene? I'll use an example. Amber, let's say that a few years from now, when you've had the baby, when your child is 14, he/she(Sorry, I don't know if it's a boy or a girl) makes a Myspace account. Awesome. Then, he/she meets some one they have a crush on, that lives hundreds of thousands of miles away, and dates that person ONLINE. Shouldn't you, as a parent, intervene? I would if I was a parent. So why didn't these parents do anything? Anoter part of the article:

Megan's mother, who monitored her daughter's online communications, returned home and said she was shocked at the vulgar language her own daughter was sending. She told her daughter how upset she was about it.


Obviously, the mother somehow had access to Megan's messages, because you cannot see bulletins or messages unless you log on to Myspace, you can only see a profile. Therefore, the mother should have known the rules and regulations that go along with Myspace users. This girl broke the rules, and, although harshly, she suffered the consequences. If anybody should be held responsible, it should be her parents, for being negligent relating to their daughter's actions, and the kids' parents that were involved, for letting this happen.
 
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Your reading comprehension is really quite terrible.

Rather than being a jerk about this, why not just explain? I've read this article going on 4 or 5 times now. The girl killed herself over a fake boy. Boo-fucking-whoo.

One of my good friends turned out to be a faker of the real girl, but I'm still here :cool Maybe if this girl had not broken the rules and joined a website underage, then I'd have some remorse. But in this case, I have none for her. It's her own fault.
 

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Rather than being a jerk about this, why not just explain? I've read this article going on 4 or 5 times now. The girl killed herself over a fake boy. Boo-fucking-whoo.

One of my good friends turned out to be a faker of the real girl, but I'm still here :cool Maybe if this girl had not broken the rules and joined a website underage, then I'd have some remorse. But in this case, I have none for her. It's her own fault.
I would, but I'm done with this thread. The ignorance and immaturity is stunning. Amber's working on a reply.
 

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Understandable. Same in this story, both parties are wrong. But in my opinion, the girl and her parents are more wrong, because the girl should have not joined against the rules, and shouldn't have attempted to pursue an online relationship, that spanned across hundreds of thousands of miles.

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Josh told her he was born in Florida and had recently moved to the nearby community of O'Fallon. He said he was homeschooled, and didn't yet have a phone number in the area to give her.

Not exactly hundreds of thousands of miles.

Amber, let's say that a few years from now, when you've had the baby, when your child is 14, he/she(Sorry, I don't know if it's a boy or a girl) makes a Myspace account. Awesome. Then, he/she meets some one they have a crush on, that lives hundreds of thousands of miles away, and dates that person ONLINE. Shouldn't you, as a parent, intervene? I would if I was a parent. So why didn't these parents do anything?

It's a boy. And I think it would depend on what he is like and what I think he could handle. If I was reading what he said and went along with him when he met her, I don't think I would have a mjor problem with it. Granted it wasn't quite the same, but I met and became good friends with a guy online (through a message board) my freshman year of high school. He developed a huge crush on my sister (who also talked to him). My parents knew all about it. They knew exactly how much information he knew about us and we knew about him. Should they have intervened? Nothing ever came of it because my sister flat out told him that she had no interest in him. But something easily could have.
 

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Don't worry, Dodge, I understand your opinions completely.

Parents should teach their children that ANYONE that they correspond with (non-known-friends) over the internet could be, and more than likely is, fake.

The kid should've known; the warnings are all over the place and have been for years. She let herself get into a fantasy world that she couldn't control and it became reality for her. The parents of the girl should have put a stop to it a long time ago and that parent who set up the other account should be put on probation and do community service for just being a dumbass idiot that seems to be wanting to relieve her teenage years that she misses so terribly.
 

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So you can miss a part of the article, but I can't? Awesome!


I would, but I'm done with this thread. The ignorance and immaturity is stunning. Amber's working on a reply.

You're right. That post is proof that the maturity level of this thread is simply outstanding.


Artcile says

Not exactly hundreds of thousands of miles.

It's a boy. And I think it would depend on what he is like and what I think he could handle. If I was reading what he said and went along with him when he met her, I don't think I would have a mjor problem with it. Granted it wasn't quite the same, but I met and became good friends with a guy online (through a message board) my freshman year of high school. He developed a huge crush on my sister (who also talked to him). My parents knew all about it. They knew exactly how much information he knew about us and we knew about him. Should they have intervened? Nothing ever came of it because my sister flat out told him that she had no interest in him. But something easily could have.

Distance or not, he was in a different state. Amber, you're older, and more mature, and not a 14 year old. Also, in most High Schools, students are older than 14, or at least our school is like that. I understand that in some cases, meeting a person online is not bad. But in this case, her parents didn't monitor the rules of the website(Yes, I keep bringing this up, because this is the major factor in this thread), and it resulted in their daughter's death.

Don't worry, Dodge, I understand your opinions completely.

Parents should teach their children that ANYONE that they correspond with (non-known-friends) over the internet could be, and more than likely is, fake.

The kid should've known; the warnings are all over the place and have been for years. She let herself get into a fantasy world that she couldn't control and it became reality for her. The parents of the girl should have put a stop to it a long time ago and that parent who set up the other account should be put on probation and do community service for just being a dumbass idiot that seems to be wanting to relieve her teenage years that she misses so terribly.

I couldn't agree more.
 

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Distance or not, he was in a different state. Amber, you're older, and more mature, and not a 14 year old. Also, in most High Schools, students are older than 14, or at least our school is like that. I understand that in some cases, meeting a person online is not bad. But in this case, her parents didn't monitor the rules of the website(Yes, I keep bringing this up, because this is the major factor in this thread), and it resulted in their daughter's death.

He was the next community over, not a different state. I was 14/15 my freshman year, so not a huge difference. Maybe I (and my sister who's a year younger) were more mature than most people at that age. I'm not saying that her parents were right in what they did. But the mother who made the fake account were far more at fault.
 

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There was no 'boy's parents', the fake was done by parents. Adults who should have known better, but instead acted like morons all to irritate a little girl because she didn't want to be friends with their little girl. Sickos...
 

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There was no 'boy's parents', the fake was done by parents. Adults who should have known better, but instead acted like morons all to irritate a little girl because she didn't want to be friends with their little girl. Sickos...

Well, I have agreed with a number of posts, just like this one I have quoted, in the first few pages here, although I do not have time to read each and every page.

However, I do not need to read others' opinions before responding to this, as I have read the most important part here - that is the article re that poor girl.

Dodge, I am absolutely astounded and horrified with your very immature, spiteful, nature of comments, I have to say.

It is only today that I found out your age. Your response to that poor girl, is living proof that you should not have even begun to even try to tackle a response here - you are far, far too immature to see the 'bigger picture' here and know exactly what it is like living with depression, bullying and spitefulness, let alone comment on it.

I have been there for many people who have either attempted suicide (because of comments from ppl such as yourself) and because of bullying.

Thank goodness I am not that age on a 'myspace' receiving that sort of irresponsible, reaction from you!

You have major growing up to do young man, huge amounts of growing up. You critisice that poor girl's parents for not supervising properly, yet if your parents were so 'responsible' what the hell are they doing allowing you to be so narrow-minded and ignorant about this kind of thing and posting this kind of stuff? You were the same with another member here the other day - so heartless!

I doubt you can be educated on this matter, but I will try, for what it's worth:

Depression is not a 'choice' of 'erm..... shall I be depressed today, part of today or leave it til tomorrow', condition and it is not caused or brought on by the person who has it.

It is there because of people who treat others' like dirt, making them believe that they are so worthless, stripping them of their confidence, their happiness and their pleasures in life - making them believe they are not wanted and often told repeatedly to go and kill themselves too, in some cases. In the end, that's all the poor suicidal ppl know and believe, because you just do when you hear it day after day after day!

That girl had been on medication for it and with medication for depression, a number of things can happen - if it is the wrong sort for a person, it can actually cause the person to become suicidal. Or, she could have had Bi-polar, so the medication may not have been correct for her either, or, the medication was working, hence her being able to be upbeat some days as described by her mother.

Bi-polar by the way, is what used to be called manic depression - that is a condition that causes a person to be very upbeat one day, very down to the extreme another day and suicidal if not detected or detected in time even. Again though, not a deliberate decisive thing.

Something or someone caused her to have depression and when your own thoughts are that deep into that trail of thinking, it is because someone had been on at a person for a period of time, convincing them they are no good for anything, suggesting they are infact nasty, very unwanted and ugly, fat, too tall, too short, whatever the reason (there are so many reasons for this to happen to a person), she was pushed to the limit and when you are at that stage, a person cannot see a 'light at the end of the tunnel', cannot see any way of things being any better for her/him.

There are so many reasons for depression and even more reasons for suicide - the person who commits suicide is not selfish, pathetic or infact weak - I need to really put you straight on this now. The people who committ suicide are strong people but have been made to get to that stage in their life, to end it.

This is why I do not like bullies or tolerate them - I hope that you are not one because yr attitude is very much that of a bully. That is who the weak ones are, the bullies. Why? Because they have a need to feel better, because of their own insecurities (this is fact!) and they feel the only way they can achieve this, is by dragging other people down, messing with their heads enough to make them suffer and dread every single waking moment of their lives!

Adults who bully are as bad if not worse too, which is the case of that disgusting woman who did all that on the internet to that girl! For someone to have done that, actually needs help themselves, but rather than face that, they destroy others' lives, causing them to need help which would never have occurred had the instigater gone and got the specialized help in the first place!

Why didn't that girl tell anyone? Some people just can't or they are scared of the consequences if they do, the latter all too often being the case.

There is so much more I could educate you on with regards this topic, but I feel it would just be a complete waste of my time, which I certainly do not have right now.

I suggest if yr parents are anywhere near responsible, that you show them this thread you created through your complete ignorance of what life is all about. If you don't, why would that be? It'll be because you daren't or can't - the same as that poor young girl!

You are only 16 and up until this last few days I had no idea as I have said, but I also thought you were ok'ish.

If yr parents were responsible why are you going around trying to get adults in their 20's, 30's and even 40's, to ring you and have regular contact with you? There is no way I would allow that to happen with my son.

You have major amounts to learn about life, situations and more than anything, peoples' feelings and so on and so on. You have no understanding, nothing, no care for other people, no idea basically.

I have, I have lived, have been there for the people that are harmed by others', seen and learned what happens for people to be suicidal - the reason why they do it or think about it or even attempt it, is always the very same - because of how they are treated by other people and the sheer hell and terror they are put through!:mad
 
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