Does monogamy really exist anymore?

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Best example: My friend Alan broke up with a girl that he'd been dating almost 2 years, because a guy kissed her. She pulled back, but he already had kissed her. Sure, ok, that's pretty stupid, but moving on. He get's a new girlfriend, and has been dating her for 2 weeks. What happens? After him being so up in arms about a girlfriend getting kissed by another man, a girlfriend that he's had for 2 years, he CHEATS ON HIS NEW GIRLFRIEND, and dumps her to be with a friend of ours. Hypocritical, right?

But that brings up a question. Does monogamy, in today's standards and society, really exist anymore? It seems like people are leaving each other left and right these days.
 
Christine said:
I like to believe that it does exist; however, some people just aren't made for it. That being said, some people are. The key is knowing whether you are or you aren't.
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I agree, but I just find it so fucking stupid of this guy, and keep in mind, I've known him since around 7th grade, almost 5 years, maybe longer, to break up with his girlfriend when she cheats on him, and knowing what kind of pain that caused him, he does it to some other girl. What an asshole.
 
To give you the other side of the coin, on the 16th October, 2007, my wife & I celebrated 25 years of marriage. It's not that hard, but it does take a little work.

The only advice I can offer is not to marry the girl that you are in lust with because lust will not last, marry the girl you're in love with - the one who is your friend. (This advice may only be good for guys, but maybe not.)

Allan
 
Dodge_Sniper said:
Best example: My friend Alan broke up with a girl that he'd been dating almost 2 years, because a guy kissed her. She pulled back, but he already had kissed her. Sure, ok, that's pretty stupid, but moving on. He get's a new girlfriend, and has been dating her for 2 weeks. What happens? After him being so up in arms about a girlfriend getting kissed by another man, a girlfriend that he's had for 2 years, he CHEATS ON HIS NEW GIRLFRIEND, and dumps her to be with a friend of ours. Hypocritical, right?

But that brings up a question. Does monogamy, in today's standards and society, really exist anymore? It seems like people are leaving each other left and right these days.
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How old are the people you are talking about?
 
sharpies said:
To give you the other side of the coin, on the 16th October, 2007, my wife & I celebrated 25 years of marriage. It's not that hard, but it does take a little work.

The only advice I can offer is not to marry the girl that you are in lust with because lust will not last, marry the girl you're in love with - the one who is your friend. (This advice may only be good for guys, but maybe not.)

Allan
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Tell that to my ex-bloke. But it's useless because he's a douchebag and she's (the girl he left me for) well.... a twat to say the least. No, I'm not bitter. ^_^

I can say twat here right? It's such a good word.

And congrats on celebrating 25 years of matrimony. Keep on keepin' on, brah.
 
Dodge_Sniper said:
Best example: My friend Alan broke up with a girl that he'd been dating almost 2 years, because a guy kissed her. She pulled back, but he already had kissed her. Sure, ok, that's pretty stupid, but moving on. He get's a new girlfriend, and has been dating her for 2 weeks. What happens? After him being so up in arms about a girlfriend getting kissed by another man, a girlfriend that he's had for 2 years, he CHEATS ON HIS NEW GIRLFRIEND, and dumps her to be with a friend of ours. Hypocritical, right?

But that brings up a question. Does monogamy, in today's standards and society, really exist anymore? It seems like people are leaving each other left and right these days.
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Damn hypocritical yes. My guess is that he was looking for a reason to break up with her (girlfriend of 2 years).

I hear you on the break up thing tho. Sometimes it's a shocker when you hear bout a couple you swear would never break up and then you hear they break up. A real :wtf:.

I guess monogamy still exists ...BUT ...the sad reality is that couples don't stay together for as long as the past generation anymore.

Could be a number of reasons in the mix. Additional stress of working couples. Both stressed at the end of the day. Financial difficulties nevertheless.....(more stress, major issue). Less quality time together. The woman, if has job (more so now than before) not as much willing to take as much shit as before (more options)....and a general impatience on both parties to work things out. Again, more so now than before. This is the "now for now" era.
 
I think monogamy is possible. It's something that a committed couple wants, so just do it. The thing is, I think people are too quick to think they are in love and they make a commitment without really knowing the person well enough. I don't believe in "love at first sight". Take time to get to know someone. Have a list of qualities that you truly admire in a person and don't compromise. Make sure that you are treated the way you need to be treated to be happy. Don't compromise on that either. A spouse or life partner should also be your best friend. If someone cares enough for you, they'd be willing to learn enough about you (and vice versa) to do what is is that you need. I also believe that couples have to learn to disagree. The key is respect. A relationship won't be rosy 24/7. There will be ups and downs. There should be a balance of spitituality, friendship, fun, the achievement of common goals, separate time to grow as individuals, completeing household chores, work and....last but not least, sex. None of those can be be withheld.
So yeah...do it like that and you won't look twice at another.
 
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Re: Does monogamy really exist anymore?
I think monogamy is possible. It's something that a committed couple wants, so just do it. The thing is, I think people are too quick to think they are in love and they make a commitment without really knowing the person well enough. I don't believe in "love at first sight". Take time to get to know someone.

Spot on!:)

Have a list of qualities that you truly admire in a person and don't compromise. Make sure that you are treated the way you need to be treated to be happy.

To an ex6tenyt but no one is perfect

Don't compromise on that either. A spouse or life partner should also be your best friend.

Spot on!

If someone cares enough for you, they'd be willing to learn enough about you (and vice versa) to do what is is that you need.

Maybe

I also believe that couples have to learn to disagree. The key is respect. A relationship won't be rosy 24/7. There will be ups and downs. There should be a balance of spitituality, friendship, fun, the achievement of common goals, separate time to grow as individuals, completeing household chores, work and....last but not least, sex. None of those can be be withheld.
So yeah...do it like that and you won't look twice at another


Good point to but sex is rather more complicated than that:).
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I'm sure you all know I think monogamy is way overrated.

That said, I have been happily married for 6 years. (Although not all that monogamously)


In the situation you are talking about though, I agree with CB... perhaps he needed a reason to break up with her.
 
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