Flo's Diner
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Does anyone ever say "you don't have to...." and not mean it, or is it just me?
I told my husband to not worry about coming home tonight from the cabin because he's on vacation tomorrow...he jumped at the chance. I fly back to work tomorrow and will be gone 3 weeks...I have to cab it to the airport and be at our house alone tonight. I know I should be happy that he's getting time at the cabin, but I thought he'd want to spend my last night home with me...guess not.
I told my husband to not worry about coming home tonight from the cabin because he's on vacation tomorrow...he jumped at the chance. I fly back to work tomorrow and will be gone 3 weeks...I have to cab it to the airport and be at our house alone tonight. I know I should be happy that he's getting time at the cabin, but I thought he'd want to spend my last night home with me...guess not.
I learned a long time ago to not say "you don't have to" unless I won't be disappointed if they take me at my word for it. Always say "I'd REALLY like to spend my last day at home w/ you...buuuuuuuuuuuuuut if you don't want to, it's okay." 
I learned a long time ago to not say "you don't have to" unless I won't be disappointed if they take me at my word for it. Always say "I'd REALLY like to spend my last day at home w/ you...buuuuuuuuuuuuuut if you don't want to, it's okay."
That's how I should have said it, but I really figured he'd come back. I keep expecting him to, but I haven't even heard from him all day, so it's not looking very promising.
Aww, I'm sorry, Flo.
He called and said he's coming home....couldn't imagine staying away my last night.
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Awww, that's awesome! Glad he's going to come home!
Thanks, me too.
He called and said he's coming home....couldn't imagine staying away my last night.
What a good boy. He deserves a treat!!!
ervI'm at work now and travel home Monday/Tuesday. A good friend travels the same day...she asked that I stop over in Toronto with her for 4 nights and go to the Bob Dylan concert with her, shop and just have a "time out" from life, she's going through some rough times right now.
So...wanting to help cheer her up, I agreed, even though I didn't really want to go. I called my husband, cancelled plans that we had tentatively made and looked into flights and accommodations. The trip is going to cost abou $1500 when it's all said and done, but again...I want to help cheer up a friend. I've also contacted friends and family there to get together for some laughs, might as well make the best of it.
She wanted us to book the tickets at the same time and said she'd call to do so...anytime I've been speaking with her since, she's been "too busy" to book but promised to call back at a quiet time and we'll sort out all the arrangements. It's been days of this and I just spoke with her an hour ago and the trip wasn't even mentioned. I wanted to bring it up, but it's almost awkward now that she's been putting it off for so long.
It's pissing me off...I didn't ask to make the stop, she did but I've cancelled plans and made new ones to line up with her request and she's now avoiding the entire thing. I *want* to ask what the deal is...but I know the problems she's having and I don't want to create more or make her feel like she has to go because I want to...it's messed up. grrrrrrr I hate being in limbo.
So...wanting to help cheer her up, I agreed, even though I didn't really want to go. I called my husband, cancelled plans that we had tentatively made and looked into flights and accommodations. The trip is going to cost abou $1500 when it's all said and done, but again...I want to help cheer up a friend. I've also contacted friends and family there to get together for some laughs, might as well make the best of it.
She wanted us to book the tickets at the same time and said she'd call to do so...anytime I've been speaking with her since, she's been "too busy" to book but promised to call back at a quiet time and we'll sort out all the arrangements. It's been days of this and I just spoke with her an hour ago and the trip wasn't even mentioned. I wanted to bring it up, but it's almost awkward now that she's been putting it off for so long.
It's pissing me off...I didn't ask to make the stop, she did but I've cancelled plans and made new ones to line up with her request and she's now avoiding the entire thing. I *want* to ask what the deal is...but I know the problems she's having and I don't want to create more or make her feel like she has to go because I want to...it's messed up. grrrrrrr I hate being in limbo.
Stand up for yourself, Flo. I know she's having tough times, but she's got a damn good friend willing to shell out $1500 just to come help her cheer up...it's not fair to keep you in limbo like that. I'd just tell her that you need to know whether or not the plans are still on since it's going to cost you a good bit...maybe say that you were looking forward to spending time together and just wanted to make sure you were still on???
I did just that...it was bugging me enough so I called her about 30 mins ago.
She said she had forgotten all about it but would go if I really wanted to....like I was the one asking her to make the trip. I told her it was fine by me to cancel, and we'll leave it at that. I was pissy but relieved all the same.
I'm very happy to not spend the money, I'm sick and tired of over-spending!
She said she had forgotten all about it
but would go if I really wanted to....like I was the one asking her to make the trip. I told her it was fine by me to cancel, and we'll leave it at that. I was pissy but relieved all the same. I'm very happy to not spend the money, I'm sick and tired of over-spending!
Good for you, Flo!!!
I'm the type of person that if I say I'm going to do something, unless I have an emergency I'm going to keep my word. It bugs me when other people aren't the same way, yanno???
I'm the type of person that if I say I'm going to do something, unless I have an emergency I'm going to keep my word. It bugs me when other people aren't the same way, yanno???
I certainly know, and she's always doing this....she comes up with great ideas and when it gets close to the time to act on them she's nowhere to be found. When I told my husband that's what the plan was he said "I'll believe it when I see it". I've been disappointed by her "great ideas" plenty of times in the past.
Oh well....I'll be home, spend less money, and will see a really good live act at the local casino for a fraction of the cost. It'll be fun...I was at a silent auction for the cancer society a couple of months ago and my bid won on a dinner for 2 @ a great little pub, that has great food and live music and a night in a fancy Inn - both within walking distance to the Casino to see the other act.
I'll get a sexy little outfit and plan for an awesome night out with the hubs.
Alls well that ends well, lol.
Oh well....I'll be home, spend less money, and will see a really good live act at the local casino for a fraction of the cost. It'll be fun...I was at a silent auction for the cancer society a couple of months ago and my bid won on a dinner for 2 @ a great little pub, that has great food and live music and a night in a fancy Inn - both within walking distance to the Casino to see the other act.
I'll get a sexy little outfit and plan for an awesome night out with the hubs.
Alls well that ends well, lol.
Thank God my shift is almost done...I can't wait to get out of this cold!! The high here today is -13, it was much colder than that when I got up this morning.
Not going directly home though, going to spend the night with a g/f....a little shopping, a little partying and a little "me" time (just booked a couple of hours a a spa).
Not going directly home though, going to spend the night with a g/f....a little shopping, a little partying and a little "me" time (just booked a couple of hours a a spa).
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