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AnitaBeer

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There have been far too many instances of posers and fake people on this site that it is hard for a lot of people to believe sob stories like that. Too many of us have been burned by buying into similar stories.

And I still maintain that, aside from certain circumstances, everyone is responsible for what they say or do and there are no valid excuses for many things people say.
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It's a couple years old now, but she made up this whole God-awful life and a lot of us believed it, myself included. And then we found out it was all BS. I had seriously stressed out about her and worried for her and her "daughter".
 

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It's a couple years old now, but she made up this whole God-awful life and a lot of us believed it, myself included. And then we found out it was all BS. I had seriously stressed out about her and worried for her and her "daughter".

Oh wow. That sounds terrible. :(
 

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I wish I could show everyone how a lack of compassion can wreak havoc on the minds of some people that are ill..
The internet is a wonderful thing, but it can also be a double edge sword and cause untold damage..

I totally agree, BUT..... I am guessing a lot of the comments she made to people on here could have/had the same effect on those who may not choose to publicise their particular illness and use it as an excuse for their behaviour.:dunno

Not saying anyone does....but we dont know that:)
 

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I wish I could show everyone how a lack of compassion can wreak havoc on the minds of some people that are ill..
The internet is a wonderful thing, but it can also be a double edge sword and cause untold damage..

I totally agree, BUT..... I am guessing a lot of the comments she made to people on here could have/had the same effect on those who may not choose to publicise their particular illness and use it as an excuse for their behaviour.:dunno

Not saying anyone does....but we dont know that:)

I find it hard to trust many people. Years ago when i was on chat I became really good friends with the guy, he told me he had a brain tumor and didnt have long to live he had a lot of us beleiving it. A year later he died and we were told by his sister it was devestating and took a very long time to get over it. Two months later he came back to chat.... he faked his death and it made it very hard for me to pity people for illnesses because of what he had done.
 

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Aw, thank you! :D

And I'm still bitter about Sophie.
Same here Kim.
It's a couple years old now, but she made up this whole God-awful life and a lot of us believed it, myself included. And then we found out it was all BS. I had seriously stressed out about her and worried for her and her "daughter".
I was up half the night texting and talking with her on more than on occasion. I was beyond upset in the end.
 

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yeah....I sent her an "aussie reminder" package, and because she claimed to be an aussie....got tarred with the same brush...:willy_nilly:
 

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I think she was a Bitter bitch because she found out some dude in Maine has her name. Just spelled a little different!:D
 

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Willow, it's nice that you care so much. I think a lot of people here appreciate that.

But, just because someone is having a hard time in their personal life, doesn't give them some kind of free pass to come here and act like a complete raving bitch. She didn't have the forethought to apologise, it was an afterthought, which she then tainted by acting even worse directly afterwards.

Maybe she genuinely does need some help in her life, but this is a chat forum, not the Samaritans. We're all real people with our own problems. When I've had a shit day I don't log on and tell Darrell where he can stick his motherfucking llama. Just because we've all got problems doesn't mean it's okay to treat other people like their feelings don't matter.

If she wanted compassion then perhaps she should have demonstrated that she was capable of any herself.
 

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Willow, it's nice that you care so much. I think a lot of people here appreciate that.

But, just because someone is having a hard time in their personal life, doesn't give them some kind of free pass to come here and act like a complete raving bitch. She didn't have the forethought to apologise, it was an afterthought, which she then tainted by acting even worse directly afterwards.

Maybe she genuinely does need some help in her life, but this is a chat forum, not the Samaritans. We're all real people with our own problems. When I've had a shit day I don't log on and tell Darrell where he can stick his motherfucking llama. Just because we've all got problems doesn't mean it's okay to treat other people like their feelings don't matter.

If she wanted compassion then perhaps she should have demonstrated that she was capable of any herself.

This is exactly what goes around in my head about this topic.
(Okay, there's a lot more...as I said in her apology-thread: I'm not neutral regarding such topics/people... It always wakens up a lot of things that I prefer to stay asleep...)
 

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Willow, it's nice that you care so much. I think a lot of people here appreciate that.

But, just because someone is having a hard time in their personal life, doesn't give them some kind of free pass to come here and act like a complete raving bitch. She didn't have the forethought to apologise, it was an afterthought, which she then tainted by acting even worse directly afterwards.

Maybe she genuinely does need some help in her life, but this is a chat forum, not the Samaritans. We're all real people with our own problems. When I've had a shit day I don't log on and tell Darrell where he can stick his motherfucking llama. Just because we've all got problems doesn't mean it's okay to treat other people like their feelings don't matter.

If she wanted compassion then perhaps she should have demonstrated that she was capable of any herself.
I disagree with you. And many will disagree with me for my line of thinking, but I feel Offtopicz IS the place to come and bitch about whatever you feel like. It's a place to come and rant and rave. I don't know anybody here, personally, and I don't take anything to heart that's said here. It's the fuckin internet, people! The fact that some took Ravana's words to heart is sad. She is just some schmo behind the security of a computer screen. Who's to say she told us anything in honesty? Maybe, she isn't crazy at all and you all fell for it. I don't believe 90% of the shit online. It's my choice. It's my right. It's also my right to exercise free speech. If I want to come here to talk about my list of Douchebags, I can and I already have! If I want to fuck with someone's head on here, I can and I have! If I want to badmouth someone for being insensitive or unnecessarily defensive, I can and I have! It's a fuckin chat forum people. Nothing more. It's filled with false hope, bullshit, smart-ass comments, slander, and dick-and-fart jokes. Were you expecting anything more from OTz?? Honestly?:eek
 
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I disagree with you. And many will disagree with me for my line of thinking, but I feel Offtopicz IS the place to come and bitch about whatever you feel like. It's a place to come and rant and rave.

I agree, people come here to let off steam all the time and that's fine, expected even. But there's a big difference between coming here and posting about how pissed off you are about the bad day you just had, and using the bad day you just had as an excuse to throw personal insults at people and try to tear them down.

I don't agree with the idea that since these things are said online, they shouldn't make people feel bad. We all know everyone we're talking to is another human being who has the ability to consider our feelings. It'd feel terrible if someone walked up to you on the street and said 'hey, you look like crap today' so why shouldn't you feel bad if you post a picture online and get the same response?

You're completely right Freight, it's up to you how you behave online. Be a dick, be a nice person, it's all under your own control. However, no one can behave like an asshole and then expect people to sympathise with them. If people want to act that way, they can't then complain that no one likes them or treats them well.
 

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yes it is the internet, but there are real people typing here, and you can not say something bad and then use the excuse oh it is the internet why take it serious

that is a bad excuse

ok people do mistakes like outside of the net... and sometime say stuff that regret later.. am sure everyone done that sometimes ..i know i have... but still even then i will not say something that goes over the top
 

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I agree, people come here to let off steam all the time and that's fine, expected even. But there's a big difference between coming here and posting about how pissed off you are about the bad day you just had, and using the bad day you just had as an excuse to throw personal insults at people and try to tear them down.

I don't agree with the idea that since these things are said online, they shouldn't make people feel bad. We all know everyone we're talking to is another human being who has the ability to consider our feelings. It'd feel terrible if someone walked up to you on the street and said 'hey, you look like crap today' so why shouldn't you feel bad if you post a picture online and get the same response?

You're completely right Freight, it's up to you how you behave online. Be a dick, be a nice person, it's all under your own control. However, no one can behave like an asshole and then expect people to sympathise with them. If people want to act that way, they can't then complain that no one likes them or treats them well.
I agree that it's foolish to badmouth and expect sympathy in return. I won't deny that Ravana was capable of being one of the most heartless members in quite some time. She had a voice of bitterness and I don't know why. Still, I don't agree with adding fuel to the fire and OTz is notorious for doing that. I've been the victim of a flamewar more than once here. It's not necessary and quite childish, but it's the internet and we're bound to run into people like this from time to time.
 
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