Big ol' boobies...

[KLD1019]

how about make a compromise?? she gets that done, and you do something that she doesnt understand? i dont mean you go and get plastic surgery. is there something that you want or want to go do that she doesnt agree with or understand?! maybe you could compromise on something like that?

 

[Dana]

i beg to differ... im fine with what i was dealt. i may gripe about mine things like zits or my height or my birth defect but its what makes me... me.

 

[KLD1019]

Oh yeah, totally, cuz she ASKED me what I thought about it, and I explained my theories on plastic surgery, and about how I was worried she MIGHT leave me for somebody better because she would get so much extra attention, and I was shot back down with the words: "It's not about you, it's about ME feeling better about MYSELF"... which begs to wonder, why she asked in the first place. Maybe it was just that time...

but thats exactly why she asked. she still wants you involved in it reguardless of what you think. she's already involving you. she could have just gone ahead and done it. that right there says alot!

 

[Chillaxicator]

but thats exactly why she asked. she still wants you involved in it reguardless of what you think. she's already involving you. she could have just gone ahead and done it. that right there says alot!

Yeah, but she only asked me in the hopes that I would give her the answer she wanted... not what I was actually feeling, cuz I gave her my opinion and was told it didn't matter.

 

[Dana]

aaaaaaand... i'm not trying to insinuate anything but maybe women like this don't think about cheating because well they don't think they cant these partners unless they have these traits. men don't know how the female mind works. I know I'll never understand it.

 

[GoldDust Woman]

Oh yeah, totally, cuz she ASKED me what I thought about it, and I explained my theories on plastic surgery, and about how I was worried she MIGHT leave me for somebody better because she would get so much extra attention, and I was shot back down with the words: "It's not about you, it's about ME feeling better about MYSELF"... which begs to wonder, why she asked in the first place. Maybe it was just that time...

Right there, the bolded part in the quote, is the real truth. How about YOU turning on some extra attention to her now... after all, you're the man she loves. Make it bigger and better love... that should cure your insecurities.

 

[ganny]

I hate them. My ex wife got them and we were divorced within a year. Her entire attitude changed. The tight shirt thing, the extra attention thing, all of it. Found out she was sleeping around. Not sure it was the boobs, but definitely changed her attitude. That was 10 years ago. So, got divorced, found a new girlfriend, got married again 3 years later, guess what, wife wants fake boobs. I asked her not too, but it was ultimately her decision. Same thing happened, tighter shirts, low cut shirts, attitude change. No cheating this time, but definitely not the same person. We are still together, but I will definitely say its caused more problems in our marraige then it has helped. Two of my wives friends both got fake boobs and both were divorced within a year. I seen the entire attitude change with them. The dressing differently, hanging out more. Its like they revert back to 21 year olds when they get them. Wierd.

 

[Dana]

yeh go out and get a hooker.... she won't understand that..... LOL

 

[Codrus]

..... men don't know how the female mind works. I know I'll never understand it.

very true..and if a man does figure it out,...he will be hunted down and killed by women

 

[Dana]

Right there, the bolded part in the quote, is the real truth. How about YOU turning on some extra attention to her now... after all, you're the man she loves. Make it bigger and better love... that should cure your insecurities.

U mean hers right?:ninja

 

[GoldDust Woman]

U mean hers right?:ninja

Complete sentences, Dana. Try typing in complete sentences so that people understand what you mean.

Hers what?

 

[Codrus]

Complete sentences, Dana. Try typing in complete sentences so that people understand what you mean.

oh comon!!!....your taking away part of the amusing features that make up dana as "A hole" :24::24:

sorry dana..i couldnt resist

 

[GoldDust Woman]

oh comon!!!....your taking away part of the amusing features that make up dana as "A hole" :24::24:

Ssssh, Cod. I know what I'm doing here... don't blow my cover, darlin'. :24:

 

[Dana]

her insecurities..... DUH LOL

 

[skyblue]

yeh go out and get a hooker.... she won't understand that..... LOL

U mean hers right?:ninja

her insecurities..... DUH LOL

so someones going through the mill and you're cracking jokes?........nice one hey:cool

 

[HottyToddyChick]

*I* thought Dana made perfect sense.

I'm personally against altering the human body, unless it's for reconstructive reasons, like someone mentioned before- cancer survivor, burn victim, etc. Just on a whim? We all have insecurities, we all learn to accept them.

Chill- it's not hard to see where you're coming from, especially with all these horror stories being thrown out there. But have you told her you're scared that she'll change fundamentally, as a person? Not just that she'll dress differently, but that she'll become a completely different person?

I can see where you ladies are coming from too, and Tim on Alicia's behalf, but I feel like if Matt came to me with the same concerns Chill has then I would be incredibly hesitant to go through with it. Am I the only one that feels that way?

 

[Dana]

so someones going through the mill and you're cracking jokes?........nice one hey:cool

Thank you for trying to create a problem where there isn't one. I was quite serious about her insecurities.

 

[Tim]

*I* thought Dana made perfect sense.

I'm personally against altering the human body, unless it's for reconstructive reasons, like someone mentioned before- cancer survivor, burn victim, etc. Just on a whim? We all have insecurities, we all learn to accept them.

Chill- it's not hard to see where you're coming from, especially with all these horror stories being thrown out there. But have you told her you're scared that she'll change fundamentally, as a person? Not just that she'll dress differently, but that she'll become a completely different person?

I can see where you ladies are coming from too, and Tim on Alicia's behalf, but I feel like if Matt came to me with the same concerns Chill has then I would be incredibly hesitant to go through with it. Am I the only one that feels that way?

I here you and understand your point, I do... but the exact same thing can be said for those who wish to diet and lose weight. Why? You should like yourself just like you are. And if they lose weight, they will be more attractive and can cheat... :dunno See my point?
It's all the same but to differing degrees.
As far as the boob job, there are safety concerns. And that should be the topic of discussion, not whether your relationship can handle it, because then the boob job really isn't the issue after all, is it?

 

[cam elle toe]

I would never get my boobs done....

I WOULD however, get the trenches on my face filled, spackled and sanded coz I hate them

Each to his own...and if it makes her feel better about herself, and you can afford it...:thumbup

 

[The Man]

I am against it.
It is a surgery.Risks are always involved
No one sees them other than the couple involved
As Dana said a padded bra has same effect for being in public.
Being bigger serves no purpose as far as function.
B cups are not small unless you are a big woman..
Going from B to C seems a waste of effort.


But with all that it is still her choice...I might show disapproval during a discussion...but if she decides to do it anyway then I would approve and be supportive of her decision.