Would you date someone of a different race?

Would you?

  • Yes

    Votes: 23 82.1%

  • No

    Votes: 5 17.9%
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tinacolada said:
my parents raised me to love everybody. I had friends of all races, and most of my family members are 3 or 4 different races. I grew up mainly having an attraction to Latinos, I just have an attraction to them that I really can't explain lol. But I have dated White and Black men b4.
Then I met Victor, my husband, who is Mexican and we have a beautiful multiracial son.
When Victor first told his mom that he was dating me and we were moving in together, she was REALLY upset...
because I'm not Mexican. My husband was the first person in his family to date and marry out of his race. But now I am very close to his family.
it shouldn't matter what race you are or anything... it's the love that counts.
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Thats the way it usually goes lol
My exgf was my the first white girl I ever really got serious with and my mom went apeshit when she came home and saw this skinny taller than me white girl walking downstairs with me, mind you she had short hair, doc martin boots(lol) and a red plad skirt with a small white shirt which i think was a descendants or propaghandi shirt lol

As time wore on she even moved in with us and my mom thought of her as one of the family, she came on vacations with us, family gatherings, parties, weddings etc... when we broke up back in like 2000 i think my mom was a bit more hurt than I was, I have an older sister but i think she thought of this girl as one of her own kids... I just recently saw her again and we went for dinner and man i never really thought she shared the feelings for my mom as she did for her. She even refered to her as a mom that she couldnt have at her own house.

Its kinda strange but Im sure tina can back me up on this hispanic or latino families (mainly the first generation-native hispanic folks) have a close close family relation, more so than I have seen many families do here in the US.
 
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teh_fuzz said:
Thats the way it usually goes lol
My exgf was my the first white girl I ever really got serious with and my mom went apeshit when she came home and saw this skinny taller than me white girl walking downstairs with me, mind you she had short hair, doc martin boots(lol) and a red plad skirt with a small white shirt which i think was a descendants or propaghandi shirt lol
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u dated Britney Spears?
 
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teh_fuzz said:
Its kinda strange but Im sure tina can back me up on this hispanic or latino families (mainly the first generation-native hispanic folks) have a close close family relation, more so than I have seen many families do here in the US.
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Greeks are similar. If she don't bring home a nice Greek boy, there's gonna be trouble.
 
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I know a Muslim dude who actually marrying a white chick. Used to be a bouncer at a club i went to that shut down.
 
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Fox Mulder said:
What do you mean by "many" and how do you come up with that conclusion?
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I don't recall exactly what many is. It's something like 70% of people in the studies I've seen. The studies were about the small ways people are racist. Conscience racism is much more rare.
 
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Fox Mulder said:
Well, I'd have to see the survey questions and studies, but my bet is its a left-wing based study because there is a conscious effort on the part of left wing factions to significantly overstate racism as a problem--the truth is most people are not "racist" in the commonly understood pejorative sense of the word. People with a political agenda have a way of twisting any recognition of a difference as "racism", which frankly is doing more to harm racial harmony today than true racism did in the very near past (IMO).
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The majority of people aren't racist in the usual sense of the word. There is an unconscious bias (both positive and negative) with a lot of people but it's not racist as it's generally understood.
 
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Fox Mulder said:
Well, I'd have to see the survey questions and studies, but my bet is its a left-wing based study because there is a conscious effort on the part of left wing factions to significantly overstate racism as a problem--the truth is most people are not "racist" in the commonly understood perjorative sense of the word. People with a political agenda have a way of twisting any recognition of a difference as "racism", which frankly is doing more to harm racial harmony today than true racism did in the very near past (IMO).
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gillibean said:
I don't recall exactly what many is. It's something like 70% of people in the studies I've seen. The studies were about the small ways people are racist. Conscience racism is much more rare.
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Im sure everyone has had racist thoughts, I dont consider myself racist at all. Can I honestly say Ive never seen a black person in really ghetto looking close walk by, and not take note that hes black? No, I cant. That IS racist, do I act on it? No. Do I think about it past recognizing it? No. I think its hard to be totally racially unprejudice, atleast growing up with some racist family members, its damn hard not to. I think Ive done well with where Ive come from.
 
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Fox Mulder said:
Just a point of clarification, but Hispanics (or more correctly Latinos) are a national orgin classification not a race classification. As such, it depends on what race your husband actually is--most likely a mixture of Caucasian and Native South American.
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i'm sorry about the unclarity...
but i'm sure people still understood me
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Date one? I married one! I've also been out with a German. I once dated a black girl but that dosent count as she was the same race as me, English.

GraceAbounds said:
Yes.

I would prefer not to date someone that had not been walking with the Lord for quite awhile. I've already been there, done that and it is exhausting. It sucks to pay for the mistakes of others that you yourself have already learned the lessons to. Please understand that while I was honored to be used by God to help others, it was and is quite painful at times.
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What about if their lord was a different one to your lord though? Satan ect. :ninja:D
 
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Hans said:
Im sure everyone has had racist thoughts, I dont consider myself racist at all. Can I honestly say Ive never seen a black person in really ghetto looking close walk by, and not take note that hes black? No, I cant. That IS racist, do I act on it? No. Do I think about it past recognizing it? No. I think its hard to be totally racially unprejudice, atleast growing up with some racist family members, its damn hard not to. I think Ive done well with where Ive come from.
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This is exactly what I'm talking about. You are not racist. More than likely though, there is a bias((or preference, it's the same thing) for certain races in situations that you aren't even aware of. It's not always a preference for you own race either.
 
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VegasVixen said:
She said she would rather see me come home with another woman on my arm than a black man. I was astounded. My mother in not the racist type but she said when it comes down to interacial realtionships it's not her cup of tea.
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My mom said the same thing about my niece.

I voted yes. Although I wouldn't SEEK OUT a black man to date, I would not turn a date down simply b/c the person that asked me is black. It's just that simple.
 
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i dont actually think its racism.....its lifestyles........if my daughter brought home a black kid who was furthering his education and worked to pay his own way,had manners and dressed smart i wouldn't have a problem

now if it was one of those black kids who dressed all rap with a shaved head who tried to talk gangsta and made stupid hand gestures and had no qualifications and didn't care.......that would be a different matter

but that would be the same if he was black,white or brown
 
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Natasha said:
My mom said the same thing about my niece.

I voted yes. Although I wouldn't SEEK OUT a black man to date, I would not turn a date down simply b/c the person that asked me is black. It's just that simple.
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should never chose one race,must keep your options open i say
 
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