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[cam elle toe]

My kids werent coddled either, BUT if one of their friends or acquaintances came to me seeking advice....I would talk to them very differently than I would my own child.....because I DONT KNOW how they will react, or the full story.

We know how our OWN kids will react and are usually there to pick up the pieces.....this is entirely different. (IMO)

 

[Alien Allen]

My kids werent coddled either, BUT if one of their friends or acquaintances came to me seeking advice....I would talk to them very differently than I would my own child.....because I DONT KNOW how they will react, or the full story.

We know how our OWN kids will react and are usually there to pick up the pieces.....this is entirely different. (IMO)

I think even more apt is the advice for a young one that getting advice off the internet is not the best though.

I may ask to bounce around ideas that I need advice on but when it comes to somebody 15 years old I would think the best advice is to talk to friends and family

 

[cam elle toe]

I think even more apt is the advice for a young one that getting advice off the internet is not the best though.

I may ask to bounce around ideas that I need advice on but when it comes to somebody 15 years old I would think the best advice is to talk to friends and family

Yep...nothing wrong with that. But thats not the only "advice" she's been getting. A lot was just plain rude and nasty.

 

[Alien Allen]

Yep...nothing wrong with that. But thats not the only "advice" she's been getting. A lot was just plain rude and nasty.

I am not disagreeing with you on that point

 

[Margene]

I think even more apt is the advice for a young one that getting advice off the internet is not the best though.

I may ask to bounce around ideas that I need advice on but when it comes to somebody 15 years old I would think the best advice is to talk to friends and family

Which is why I DON'T give her advice and instead gave her links. The first of those sites is setup for exactly the issues she continuously posts about, especially her father last week. They have an "emergency" board for that.

I don't ever want to be responsible for giving a child advice ONLINE on a serious issue that could result in danger for her or her family.

 

[AUDRAA]

Oh I want an emergency life question advice section

 

[Dana]

oh i want an emergency life question advice section

:24::24:

 

[Tangerine]

I don't ever want to be responsible for giving a child advice ONLINE on a serious issue that could result in danger for her or her family.

Why does that fact that something is "online" make a difference? I have news for you all... it's 2010. The differences in what people say "online" and face-to-face is really not all that different.

It seems like everyone has this perception that THEY are a real person who has great advice to offer, but everyone ELSE is dangerous because they are ONLINE.

 

[Jessica]

Jess, look at these forums:
Teen Forums | Teen Help & Advice

132 members online right now. It has boards to discuss parents and such.

LiveWire Teen Forums | Teen Peer Support | Teen Advice | Teen Discussion | Teen Quizzes | Teen Boards

I can't tell how active that one is.

teen forums, teen boards, teen discussion boards, college forums, college student forums, forums for students

This one looks very active.

Teen Forums >> Teen Help | Teen Advice & Support | Teen Chat <<
As does this.

If you feel the need to discuss these issues, boards specifically setup for your issues are a better place to have constructive conversations.

Further, I was an extremely shy child, to the extent that I almost had to repeat kindergarten because the teacher literally thought I was a moron because I couldn't make myself speak out in front of class for any reason, including saying "here" at roll in the morning. I worked myself from this debilitating condition via band and chorus. I found a peer group inside those programs. I can still have moments of extreme shyness to this day. I work on it all the time through community activism.

Some of my children had the same issue and solved it in the same manner via their own interests.

No one can do it for you and you can't solve sitting on a computer.

I keep forgetting them, next time I'll go there.

thanks again for the links

 

[sierrabravo]

I keep forgetting them, next time I'll go there.

thanks again for the links

if you keep forgetting about the links, just go to the webpage once and bookmark it for later (or put it in favorites, depending on what browser you use)

 

[Margene]

Why does that fact that something is "online" make a difference? I have news for you all... it's 2010. The differences in what people say "online" and face-to-face is really not all that different.

It seems like everyone has this perception that THEY are a real person who has great advice to offer, but everyone ELSE is dangerous because they are ONLINE.

Yes, face to face is much different. Visual cues and the ability to at least make an acquaintence with the family make a very big difference.

I didn't say I had great advice to give either, in fact I fear the opposite is true which is why I won't offer any.

 

[Margene]

I keep forgetting them, next time I'll go there.

thanks again for the links

You're welcome Jess. They all looked very helpful.

 

[Jessica]

"sticks and stones may break your/my bones, but words will never hurt you/me."


Not true.

 

[skyblue]

i'll be honest here......i'm a little disappointed with some of the answers here....adults should be a little more constructive for starters

 

[Dakota Jim]

i'll be honest here......i'm a little disappointed with some of the answers here....adults should be a little more constructive for starters

So if you have better advice, more constructive than that offered why not present it?

 

[skyblue]

So if you have better advice, more constructive than that offered why not present it?

i never said i did mate,but i do remember all those years ago when life was so confusing as a young teen.....we all had that:nod:

 

[Thornless]

"sticks and stones may break your/my bones, but words will never hurt you/me."


Not true.

Take state tends to work better if you follow it up with "Anything you hear now, will not matter as much as it will in 5, 10, or 15 years from now..." Words are words Jess, they only have the power... if you let it hurt and fester.

JMO

 

[Tangerine]

Yes, face to face is much different. Visual cues and the ability to at least make an acquaintence with the family make a very big difference.

This has absolutely nothing to do with the content of what people say. If I'm having a conversation with you, our words and thoughts will be the same whether we're in a room or a chat room.

Do you also believe that an e-mail is less valid or trustworthy than a personal conversation?

 

[Dakota Jim]

This has absolutely nothing to do with the content of what people say. If I'm having a conversation with you, our words and thoughts will be the same whether we're in a room or a chat room.

Do you also believe that an e-mail is less valid or trustworthy than a personal conversation?

I most certainly do. The typed word sans the voice inflections, the gestures and body language is much easier misunderstood. I have had that proved to me in a management seminar years ago. It has nothing to do with validity, only intent.

 

[itsmeJonB]

"Though Im not afraid to say
that Im a sensitive guy,
sticks and stones break my bones
but its the words that make me cry.
Like that time in Grade 3
when a girl called me stupid face,
she really hurt me,
whyd she call me stupid face?
Is my face stupid?
Hows that even possible?
A person can be stupid
but a face? Thats impossible!"

-Jon Lajoie - Everyday Normal Guy 2