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[Pabst]

Here's a suggestion. Get a fucking life.

Also if people are talking behind your back, and you know they are, confront them about it. And when they deny it do the same to them.

i have a suggestion for you, go play a rousing game of hide and go fuck yourself.

see being hostile is so fucking cool!

and suggesting that someone be as childish as other people is pretty stupid too.

 

[Pabst]

Jess, my advice would be simply to spend less time on the forum. It seems to me that message boards play a larger role in your life than they should and you're becoming too emotionally attached. It may sound harsh, but you need to stop using the computer all the time. When you return to school, try to make some new friends and spend time with people your age outside the internet.

this i can agree with, partially. i dont know how often she comes here and how long she stays each visit but i know for a while it seemed like she was always here. too much of any one thing is a bad thing. its just not healthy.

i'm thinking she needs to seek help, she seems emotional and doesnt know how to deal with it which might explain why she uses the computer so much.

 

[Pabst]

No one wants to be my friend. my family pretty much said so. I'm way too shy.

only friends I have are teachers.

seek help, a therapist would do you a lot of good.

i'm concerned your family makes such comments to you though. to me you seem somewhat emotional at least and need help for that, it can effect how you interact with the world, which means having few or no friends. it may seem like nobody wants to be your friend to them but i think its possible its just hard because of what's going on inside you. i identify with this. i'm getting help though and it's doing me a world of good.

before you jump on the "there's nothing wrong with me" bandwagon, consider that others can see in you what you cannot since you are in the middle of this and we are not. we have the advantage of distance and can see more clearly than you can. again i identify with this as i'm learning more about me than i realized was wrong with me initially.

i think you should try and get help. find more positive distractions. i know that sometimes things like getting online can be used as an escape from the real world and life and we mustn't do that.

 

[HottyToddyChick]

Jess, you might be feeling sensitive for hormonal reasons. It's something you'll just have to learn how to control. It helps to tell yourself that it wasn't meant to be hurtful or wasn't a personal attack, if it wasn't. If it was, then confront someone. I hate confrontation, but I will do it if I have to. You just have to brace yourself and prepare yourself.

One way to make more friends might be to join a club, or even start one of your own. My junior and senior years of high school, and bunch of friends would get together during lunch and we'd hang in the library and knit/crochet. Find something you enjoy doing, turn it into a club and if it's some sort of crafting, you could work on projects and then donate them or have silent auctions and donate the money.

 

[Thornless]

No one wants to be my friend. my family pretty much said so. I'm way too shy.

only friends I have are teachers.

Yeah, your the only one who's ever felt shy... family is 'always' right... better give up and start your own forum....


Seriously???:willy_nilly:

 

[Guyzerr]

Boy and I glad I don't bring my fucking problems to this board. I can't believe some of the shit I just read. I think I'll go puke now.

 

[Thornless]

Boy and I glad I don't bring my fucking problems to this board. I can't believe some of the shit I just read. I think I'll go puke now.

I was only harsh because it the same thing over and over... she comes in complains, people give advice, and she never takes it... why ask for help if you don't want it?

 

[retro]

Boy and I glad I don't bring my fucking problems to this board. I can't believe some of the shit I just read. I think I'll go puke now.

Seriously. Apparently it's okay to attack someone simply because you don't like them and/or don't want them around for x reason.

Jess, I'd suggest trying to get involved with a school club of some sort, where you have to interact with other people. I understand being shy, I've been shy to some degree my entire life, but it's just something that you have to work through. If your parents are telling you that you won't have any friends, prove them wrong. You seem like a genuinely nice and intelligent person. Try to get some fresh air and not spend so much time online, not just here, but online in general. But please understand, I'm not telling you not to post here, because that isn't my place... if you enjoy it, don't let people around here dissuade you from it. Oh, and good on you for volunteering... that's really good, it'll get you out doing something and interacting with people.

 

[Zorak]

i have a suggestion for you, go play a rousing game of hide and go fuck yourself.

see being hostile is so fucking cool!

and suggesting that someone be as childish as other people is pretty stupid too.

:homo:

Are you lot all done joining in with the bullying now?

 

[Tyler Durden]

Have to admit to being a bit disappointed in some of the replies here.

Jess, you're a much improved poster on here, and yes you are on here way too much (though kind of ironic that other grown ups on here who are also on here way too much feel the need to point it out).

And nearly all teens go through the "why does everyone hate me stage". Simple truth is you can't please all the people all the time, or sometimes even any of them, but in time as you get older and become more confident, you'll realise more and more that it really doesn't matter what they think, just what you do.

 

[Thornless]

well.....I'm less shy now than before, :/ so there's a bit of progress.....also I volunteer so I don't have to sit in front of the computer all day.

I'll try not to be on here all day but it's not easy

thanks all for your advice

It is that easy... you just like your crutch.

 

[Guyzerr]

I know one thing for a fact. Many people that have posted negative replies are parents / grandparents themselves and there is no way in hell they would respond to their child in that manner. They would coddle the living shit out of them.

I'm fully aware this is the net and people can act the way they like but I'm of the mindset that if you haven't got something constructive to say to a youngster you keep your mouth shut and quit playing the part of Braveheart.

Furthermore, regarding youngsters and this being an " adult " site. In your fucking dreams and you know it. If it were the management would restrict access to teenagers... plain and simple. Some of you wish for that and that's all it is... a wish.

Now on to Jessica and her initial post. There is nothing wrong with being sensitive or in your case overly sensitive. In time and with more age / experience you will more than likely outgrow a large portion of your fears and inhibitions. In the meantime if I were you I would sit back and deal with your emotions with someone other than a majority of these bozo's. They don't know the real you and because of that are not in a position to dispense good advice. Besides that, some folks seem to get a charge out o hurting someones feelings. They are nothing more than schoolyard bullies. Now get over here and ley me give you a grandfatherly hug.........

 

[AUFred]

I know one thing for a fact. Many people that have posted negative replies are parents / grandparents themselves and there is no way in hell they would respond to their child in that manner. They would coddle the living shit out of them.

I'm fully aware this is the net and people can act the way they like but I'm of the mindset that if you haven't got something constructive to say to a youngster you keep your mouth shut and quit playing the part of Braveheart.

Furthermore, regarding youngsters and this being an " adult " site. In your fucking dreams and you know it. If it were the management would restrict access to teenagers... plain and simple. Some of you wish for that and that's all it is... a wish.

Now on to Jessica and her initial post. There is nothing wrong with being sensitive or in your case overly sensitive. In time and with more age / experience you will more than likely outgrow a large portion of your fears and inhibitions. In the meantime if I were you I would sit back and deal with your emotions with someone other than a majority of these bozo's. They don't know the real you and because of that are not in a position to dispense good advice. Besides that, some folks seem to get a charge out o hurting someones feelings. They are nothing more than schoolyard bullies. Now get over hear and ley me give you a grandfatherly hug.........

More good advice.

 

[Margene]

Jess, look at these forums:
Teen Forums | Teen Help & Advice

132 members online right now. It has boards to discuss parents and such.

LiveWire Teen Forums | Teen Peer Support | Teen Advice | Teen Discussion | Teen Quizzes | Teen Boards

I can't tell how active that one is.

teen forums, teen boards, teen discussion boards, college forums, college student forums, forums for students

This one looks very active.

Teen Forums >> Teen Help | Teen Advice & Support | Teen Chat <<
As does this.

If you feel the need to discuss these issues, boards specifically setup for your issues are a better place to have constructive conversations.

Further, I was an extremely shy child, to the extent that I almost had to repeat kindergarten because the teacher literally thought I was a moron because I couldn't make myself speak out in front of class for any reason, including saying "here" at roll in the morning. I worked myself from this debilitating condition via band and chorus. I found a peer group inside those programs. I can still have moments of extreme shyness to this day. I work on it all the time through community activism.

Some of my children had the same issue and solved it in the same manner via their own interests.

No one can do it for you and you can't solve sitting on a computer.

 

[AUDRAA]

Wow I have to say that some of you are being pretty harsh on the kid, seriously if you have nothing nice to say it may be best to say nothing at all in this section to her.

 

[Guyzerr]

Wow I have to say that some of you are being pretty harsh on the kid, seriously if you have nothing nice to say it may be best to say nothing at all in this section to her.

Thanks for saying that.

 

[Thornless]

I know one thing for a fact. Many people that have posted negative replies are parents / grandparents themselves and there is no way in hell they would respond to their child in that manner. They would coddle the living shit out of them.

I'm fully aware this is the net and people can act the way they like but I'm of the mindset that if you haven't got something constructive to say to a youngster you keep your mouth shut and quit playing the part of Braveheart.

Furthermore, regarding youngsters and this being an " adult " site. In your fucking dreams and you know it. If it were the management would restrict access to teenagers... plain and simple. Some of you wish for that and that's all it is... a wish.

Now on to Jessica and her initial post. There is nothing wrong with being sensitive or in your case overly sensitive. In time and with more age / experience you will more than likely outgrow a large portion of your fears and inhibitions. In the meantime if I were you I would sit back and deal with your emotions with someone other than a majority of these bozo's. They don't know the real you and because of that are not in a position to dispense good advice. Besides that, some folks seem to get a charge out o hurting someones feelings. They are nothing more than schoolyard bullies. Now get over here and ley me give you a grandfatherly hug.........

My parent's never coddled me when it came to things like this, if I made comments that I was lonely and had no friends, they'd give suggestions, ideas, and then force me outside saying don't come home until lunch/dinner unless you bring someone back with you to play with.

Maybe not the greatest method, but it forced me to solve the problem on my own. Let's face it, no one is going to hold your hand through life.... and nothing will get done if you sit there waiting for something to happen... and if it does, it may of taken too long for you to enjoy it.

I've been polite to Jess in the past, I've offered advice and given my own life's examples of how I was when i was her age and got through things... so I've sorta resorted to the fact the only type of advice she seems to respond to is upfront bluntness.

Although, I'm pretty much at the point of not caring, you can only do so much. I'm with my parents on your problems don't fix themselves... effort has to be made.

If I've made toy upset or cry, Jess I'm sorry... was not my intention. I stick to what I said though.

 

[sierrabravo]

i was never on a computer before I was 18. I was always outside cleaning pools and mowing yards and hanging out with friends.

 

[Dakota Jim]

My parent's never coddled me when it came to things like this, if I made comments that I was lonely and had no friends, they'd give suggestions, ideas, and then force me outside saying don't come home until lunch/dinner unless you bring someone back with you to play with.

Maybe not the greatest method, but it forced me to solve the problem on my own. Let's face it, no one is going to hold your hand through life.... and nothing will get done if you sit there waiting for something to happen... and if it does, it may of taken too long for you to enjoy it.

I've been polite to Jess in the past, I've offered advice and given my own life's examples of how I was when i was her age and got through things... so I've sorta resorted to the fact the only type of advice she seems to respond to is upfront bluntness.

Although, I'm pretty much at the point of not caring, you can only do so much. I'm with my parents on your problems don't fix themselves... effort has to be made.

If I've made toy upset or cry, Jess I'm sorry... was not my intention. I stick to what I said though.

I see nothing in your post to apologize for.

 

[Margene]

My parent's never coddled me when it came to things like this, if I made comments that I was lonely and had no friends, they'd give suggestions, ideas, and then force me outside saying don't come home until lunch/dinner unless you bring someone back with you to play with.

Maybe not the greatest method, but it forced me to solve the problem on my own. Let's face it, no one is going to hold your hand through life.... and nothing will get done if you sit there waiting for something to happen... and if it does, it may of taken too long for you to enjoy it.

I've been polite to Jess in the past, I've offered advice and given my own life's examples of how I was when i was her age and got through things... so I've sorta resorted to the fact the only type of advice she seems to respond to is upfront bluntness.

Although, I'm pretty much at the point of not caring, you can only do so much. I'm with my parents on your problems don't fix themselves... effort has to be made.

If I've made toy upset or cry, Jess I'm sorry... was not my intention. I stick to what I said though.

For myself, this is the second time I've posted those links, the first time was last week and yet here she is.

I wasn't coddled either Melissa, in fact it was assumed and expected I should play an instrument. The choir director picked me out of my classroom, no try out, for chorus, so I did that as well.

I did not coddle my kids either. They found an activity and then stuck with it until the season was over the school year.

I agree with your post in its entirety and especially the bolded part. Nicely said Melissa.