Why...

[Jessica]

do everytime I get a neg rep I feel like I want to cry?? Why am I so sensitive (if that's what it means)? It's really STUPID but I can't help it. also, some posts hurt ...... idk why ):

also, a lot of people are talking behind my back about me, but that's a different story.

not only online, but at home too. my brothers say little things that still hurt me deeply, and also at school.

 

[AnitaBeer]

Grow a pair of balls?!

Seriously if you almost cry over a simple little neg rep or a comment you dont like then really forums are not for you. There are way to many people out there that will voice their opinions no matter how it makes you feel. The joys of the freeweb.

So my advice, as harsh as it may sounds, suck it up or get away from the computer and start doing stuff in real life!

 

[AUFred]

Far worse things than words on a computer screen.

 

[Springsteen]

Here's a suggestion. Get a fucking life.

Also if people are talking behind your back, and you know they are, confront them about it. And when they deny it do the same to them.

 

[Zorak]

Grow a pair of balls?!

Seriously if you almost cry over a simple little neg rep or a comment you dont like then really forums are not for you. There are way to many people out there that will voice their opinions no matter how it makes you feel. The joys of the freeweb.

So my advise, as harsh as it may sounds, suck it up or get away from the computer and start doing stuff in real life!

I wouldn't call that advice. I'd say you've disguised an insult thinly. Very clever.

 

[Kyle B]

Jess, my advice would be simply to spend less time on the forum. It seems to me that message boards play a larger role in your life than they should and you're becoming too emotionally attached. It may sound harsh, but you need to stop using the computer all the time. When you return to school, try to make some new friends and spend time with people your age outside the internet.

 

[AnitaBeer]

I wouldn't call that advice. I'd say you've disguised an insult thinly. Very clever.

I told her how it is...point blank. I'd tell you or anyone else the same thing. It's no insult. It just is what it is.

 

[Margene]

Jess, my advice would be simply to spend less time on the forum. It seems to me that message forums play a larger role in your life than they should and you're becoming too emotionally attached. It may sound harsh, but you need to stop using the computer all the time. When you return to school, try to make some new friends and spend time with people your age outside the internet.[/QUOTE]

Good advice Kyle! :thumbup

 

[Peter Parka]

If you're getting so sensitive about silly things, it indicates to me that you haven't got very much going on in your life so you focus on petty shit. Get off the internet, interact with people in real life, get a worthwhile hobby, do something!

 

[Springsteen]

Jess, my advice would be simply to spend less time on the forum. It seems to me that message forums play a larger role in your life than they should and you're becoming too emotionally attached. It may sound harsh, but you need to stop using the computer all the time. When you return to school, try to make some new friends and spend time with people your age outside the internet.

Yeah, this. If I got to the point where I was bothered because somebody neg repped one of my posts I would just turn my PC off and walk away.

 

[Ryder]

Jessica if you want to ask someone questions on here you should ask me. At least I'm around your age. So turn to me if you need some help alright? Also spend a little less time on here.

 

[AUFred]

Jessica if you want to ask someone questions on here you should ask me. At least I'm around your age. So turn to me if you need some help alright? Also spend a little less time on here.

Good advice:thumbup

 

[Jessica]

No one wants to be my friend. my family pretty much said so. I'm way too shy.

only friends I have are teachers.

 

[SYN]

No one wants to be my friend. my family pretty much said so. I'm way too shy.

only friends I have are teachers.

i used to be shy and sensitive big time before (when i was 15) so i guess your age... but now not so much. Truth be told, when i was your age I was always shy and sensitive... didn't have many friends. How i got over it, I changed my daily routine a day at a time which kind of changed how shy and sensitive i was. Most people who are shy, they are that way because their afraid of what others think, and the only way to break out of it is to take one day at a time by stepping out of your shell.... Do something that you normally wouldn't do, say a simple form of communication to someone different everyday, like "hey, nice weather we having. " If this is too hard, just find people at school with similar interests as you which will help reduce how shy you are .... When i was 15 i was a big fan of bodybuilding (still am) and so i made some friends who enjoy bodybuilding too, the thing is when you make few friends, it makes it easier for you to make more friends in the future

 

[Gets Lifted]

No one wants to be my friend. my family pretty much said so. I'm way too shy.

only friends I have are teachers.

I dont think your parents would have said that nobody wants to be your friend, so dont take it like that. Maybe thats part of the reason your so sensitive, you take everything to heart far to easily and distort minor things into something that you can use as a reason to pity yourself. Your beating yourself up over nothing, this I reckon applies to both what people have said about you in real life and here on the boards.

Im gonna guess your parents said something along the lines of 'you wont make any friends being so shy', which is true. You wont make friends if you arnt willing to talk to people, youll be giving off the impression to others that your either ignorant or just plain dont want to be their friend, thats how I would take it. So why would they make the effort to get to know you if you dont appear to be making any effort yourself.

Granted, I have no idea how hard you really find it talking to people so I have no way of truely understanding how you feel, but that doesnt make my advise any less relevant. If you really wanna get on in life, and by life I mean one outside of the internet, your gonna have to muster some strength from somewhere and make an effort to get some friends. In doing that, most of the stuff your getting hurt over will seem petty and unimportant, which it honestly is.


JEEEEEEEEEEEZUS.... I dont think ive ever written such a long post in my life!

 

[Dakota Jim]

The simple truth is you are here way too much and as a result of your inane comments inserted into threads you draw fire. Jessica, you are young, far too young to sit on your ass in front of a computer. Get up, get out, get going. Mostly this site is adult, you really have had everyones advice about using a teen site somewhere and interacting with others your age. You may learn the art of growing thick skin when on the net too. I will never know why you selected a primarily adult site to overuse but it was not a good choice for you in my opinion. I suggest you listen to the advice you get instead of just posting whines then ignoring the help others offer.

 

[Jessica]

well.....I'm less shy now than before, :/ so there's a bit of progress.....also I volunteer so I don't have to sit in front of the computer all day.

I'll try not to be on here all day but it's not easy

thanks all for your advice

 

[Dakota Jim]

well.....I'm less shy now than before, :/ so there's a bit of progress.....also I volunteer so I don't have to sit in front of the computer all day.

I'll try not to be on here all day but it's not easy

thanks all for your advice

In otherwords, you rationalize rather than take any advice. Please quit seeking answers, you don't want them if they don't just support your whines.

 

[Springsteen]

 

[Pabst]

Grow a pair of balls?!

Seriously if you almost cry over a simple little neg rep or a comment you dont like then really forums are not for you. There are way to many people out there that will voice their opinions no matter how it makes you feel. The joys of the freeweb.

So my advice, as harsh as it may sounds, suck it up or get away from the computer and start doing stuff in real life!

OR you could suggest that she get help for this. she may have an emotional problem and telling someone to just "get over it" doesnt work for some people.

must be nice to be in 100% control of your emotions all the time.

it probably doesnt help she's a teenager and her hormones are fluctuating.

but hey keep pounding away at that "get over it" attitude. its really helpful.:thumbdown