Who should be the leader in a relationship?

[Lizbeth19ph]

Both partners must control their relationship I believe but they also say that women are the ones really handling the relationship. It goes to say if a woman is good in handling a relationship, it goes well. It has something to do maybe with the saying too that women mature faster than men. Men would always be boys.

 

[Sherief]

I think both partners should give 100% of their 50%. Meaning, a healthy relationship is 50/50. I don't think either should lead, but both should be respectful and supportive of each others opinions and decisions. I think decisions should be made together.

The reality is, there are people out there, men and women alike, who WANT to be lead. So in that case, they need to find a partner that WANTS to lead. Not everyone wants to lead, and not everyone wants to follow any lead.

 

[Denis Hard]

The leader in most cases is the woman. Men may deceive themselves that they're in control when in reality it's the woman who is in charge. She may voice her opinions as suggestions but to most men that suggestion is the rule to abide by. So to answer the question who should be leader, quite obviously it should be the man [if he's older] but whether he actually will be [or is] the leader is an entirely different question.

 

[KellyValentine]

Everything about the relationship should be 50/50 but it doesn't work out like that all the time. I think the man should be the leader but give the women the impression that she really is.

 

[SueA555]

I think leadership should be shared. There is so much compromising necessary in marriage -- it's only fair that each partner has an equal say.

 

[bmfc]

No one person is every in control of any relationship. It is a equal give and take on both sides. Or, at least that is the way it should be.

 

[TheBrit]

I think some people, generally it has to be said women, either want or are happy to have their partner run all aspects of the relationship. Personally, myself and ex-wife found naturally what were our own responsibilities within the relationship.If there were any dramas that required to be sorted, with the children or bills etc then it generally was done so on a joint basis.
The worst scenario is when one of the partners is a total control freak, that can lead to all sorts of problems and quite often the break-up of the relationship.

 

[teh_fuzz]

meh it depends... it is whatever makes YOU and your SO happy

some folks work well leading and some do well following

 

[The Man]

The man.

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[tajnz]

I'd only stay in a relationship were I felt that I was my partner's equal. I'd never want to be in a relationship where a boyfriend thought he had to be a leader, or where a boyfriend couldn't think for himself and constantly had to ask me, what he should be doing. In my mind, if both partners are equals, there's no need for a leader as both partners will bring a set of unique strengths to the table. Partners should lead together and support and push each other to be better, happier people.

 

[RUBESH]

During a healthy relationship, both parties should have equal control and decision-making authority. It is critical to have open communication and mutual respect in order to make decisions and support one another.

Because each partnership is unique and may have various dynamics that work for them, there is no one proper answer to who should be in charge. It is critical for both partners to feel heard and appreciated, and for choices to be made together.

 

[Stardom22]

For me the leader in the relationship in the African set up must be the man.

 

[Niyi Briggs]

I am one man that is not shy of taking leadership in my relationship. That puts me in a position that I have to protect and defend my woman. A woman is not strong enough to carry the responsibility of defence and protection. That's why she would always look up to her man for leadership.