What do you guys think? any suggestions

[Haus]

well i decided im not gonna do it.

when we went out the other night to apple bees. we were there for like 45 mins and then she said i hate to be a party pooper but i should get going. she said she was tired and had to drive a while to get home. since we met there. this was at like 7 something PM

i was thinking like WTF is going on. i stayed in my car for a little bit and thinking is it me. and then decided to leave. when i was on my way home she called me and said she felt really really bad about leaving and we talked for a little. then we got off the phone and i decided i was gonna walk around the mall by myself and just think. i thought it was me. i said why dint she want to spend more time together. well i got a text early in the morning while i was working and read it and it was from her and it said "hope ur mornings going well i woke up and thought of u so i wanted text you before i got back to sleep" this was at 5:47am saturday morning.

so all day i was thinking why she dint want to spend more time with me and then why would she send me the text message in the morning. well she texted me later on and asked how my day was and i wrote back "ok i guess, just thinking about alot of stuff"
she asked what was wrong and i called her and told her i am very confused. all i was confused about is to why she only spent a little bit of time together and she went into "i really like you but i want to take it slow. your a really nice guy and im not used to that and i dont want to hurt someone like you ever" i thought thats really good to know.

but told her i was just confused to why we only spent a little bit of time together last night.

so i took her misunderstanding as a blessing in disguise. so now i dont have to make an ass out of myself and i ginally know how she feels. and besides its supost to snow on wedsday. :tongue:

 

[AUDRAA]

Aww Hausy that sucks. Has she been burned before? Im not understanding this, shes totally giving all the right signals that a woman gives when she likes a guy and then is backing off. hmm its really odd :confused

 

[Haus]

yes. she said every relationship shes been in the guy was an asshole. she cant look back on one single realationship she had and say even tho it dint work out i dint regret anything.

 

[AUDRAA]

so maybe shes just gun shy take it slow. Im sure its not you, your a great guy and a big sweetheart and any girl would be lucky to have you

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

definitely what audra says. She is taking it slow because she wants to be SURE. She is smart for doing that. So don't get frustrated and throw in the towel yet, she just may not be ready for a long term committment yet until she knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are right for her.

 

[Mrs Behavin]

She may be just a little frightened that shes gonna fall hard for you and be hurt like she more than likely has in the past. She probably sees that you are a great guy and if something ever happened between the 2 of you, then it would hurt her deeply. Just take it slow, you never know what the future holds

 

[alleycat]

exactly what Mrs B says!!! You have not lost anything Haus! I know exactly where she is coming from and shes scared. Just hang in there and you will prove to her you are a keeper!

 

[Peter Parka]

I agree mith Mrs B too. In a way it's a complement because maybe she thinks you're such a great guy she's scared you'll turn into an arsehole if she went out with you. Hang in there with her and don't put any pressure on her and she may come round.

 

[Trance97]

I say give it time. Do let it rush into things. Play it cool and, everything will unfold perfect.

 

[Rusteh]

i say on your next date take your pants off and tell her your not interested in slow...works for me :jk:

no seriously haus...I may not have been around in a long while but it's nice to hear your having this type of issue, means things are going well with you. The biggest thing you have got to help her with is just show her that she can be comfortable with you and know that your not going to be that asshole she's used to.

believe me I get blamed for being a nice guy way to much, but just show her that you like her and that your willing to be patient for her but also available for her.

 

[dt3]

I would love it.

Oh, we are so past the cheesy romanticism stage, woman!

 

[Haus]

i say on your next date take your pants off and tell her your not interested in slow...works for me :jk:

no seriously haus...I may not have been around in a long while but it's nice to hear your having this type of issue, means things are going well with you. The biggest thing you have got to help her with is just show her that she can be comfortable with you and know that your not going to be that asshole she's used to.

believe me I get blamed for being a nice guy way to much, but just show her that you like her and that your willing to be patient for her but also available for her.

that would mean alot more if i knew who the hell you are. :tongue: whats going on stranger


thanks tho. im fine with it. im just glad i know how she feels. if something comes from it, thats great. if nothing comes from it except a friendship then thats great too.

 

[lemon]

throw in the towel!

and maybe some baby oil too.

 

[The_Rooks_Revenge]

i would hate it.

cuz im a guy.

but go for it man!

I dont believe lemon would not like it...I think lemon would love it. YO heres how it is for me man. All that shit can come and go but I express how I feel thru my voice. If I want a girl like it sounds like you want this one then yor spoken words are what matters.....do all of that other shit. But before you give this girl a kiss or whatever you "final move" of the nite is.....let her know you aint fuckin around...Ive had 2 in my life....the first let me know...the second I couldnt pass up. Whatever you do...tell her like it is holmes

 

[Maritxu]

That's soo sweet. I am sure she'll love it!
Good luck!

 

[Maritxu]

That's soo sweet. I am sure she'll love it!
Good luck!

Should have read the thread before... I think she just needs time House.. go slow

 

[Haus]

im so confused. we talk on the phone like every day and text back and forth a couple times a day. when we get a chance to talk its at nite time. i just got off the phone with her. there are so many akward silent moments when we talk. im constantly trying to keep the convo going by asking her stuff or just talking about random stuff and she hardly asks me anything at all. she pretty much is the one who calls most of the time. shell text me and ask me if its ok to call her at 930 or so. and i respond to her saying of course or something along those lines. she always apologizes when were on the phone saying that shes sorry that she is probaly boring me and i say no your not. i just dont know why there are so many akward silent moments. with my other friends the silence is very comftable but with her its very akward and thats when i just try to say anything.
i text her usually in the morning but i wanted to see something today. i dint text her like usual so later in the morning she text me saying good morning and hope i have a good day. well i dint text her back. she rarely ever calls once she gets off or work but she called 7 mins after she got off. i dint pic up and wanted to hear her V-mail first. saying she dint hear from me all day (kinda heard worrying in her voice) hoping i had a good day at work and saying she really hopes to get to talk to me later.
and the other day her aim away ,message said something like "rubbing your boobs helps you go to sleep, if i were you i would do do that" Professor Wizard. well when she got on she IM'ed ,me saying hey and not to worry about that away message. it was a joke from a friend from when she was in college. i dint even say anything to her about it. not that i would care

it seems like shes not interested in talking to me when we talk on the phone but what im so confused about is that she calls everyday and says stuff like she did in her Vmail and telling me not to worry about what her freind said in college and other small things to make me confused.

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

maybe shes super shy. you should be straight up and maybe ask her whats going on. tell her you're getting mixed signals!

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

OMG wait!! I KNOW! She's probably a STEELERS fan!!!!! It's ok I <3 you Hausy, you alwyas have me to fall back on

 

[Mrs Behavin]

maybe shes super shy. you should be straight up and maybe ask her whats going on. tell her you're getting mixed signals!

:withstupid: Im gonna have to agree with Clare on this one. It sounds like she wants you but is afraid but in the same sense wants to keep you interested. I dunno.