Should I have said something?

[Mrs Behavin]

Last night my husband had one of his friends over and he brought some movies over and his friends girlfriend called @ 10pm or so wanting to come see him, she just got off work. My husband told him that was fine (he didnt want to be rude) So she came over. Ive only met this girl once and she had never been to my house before until last night.
Well, his friend was sitting in one of the recliners and she came in and sat in the one next to him. Next thing I know, she is sitting sideways with her feet over the arm of the recliner she is sitting in and over the arm of the other recliner that her boyfriend is sitting in simply so she could have her legs in his lap. I thought that was terribly rude. My kids know better than to sit like that in furniture and especially at someone elses house. I didnt say anything out of respect for his friend but should I have?

 

[TheOriginalJames]

This is a tough one for me too. I think I woulda just kept quiet myself. Sure it's rude of her, but I don't think it's worth getting riled up about honestly.

 

[Suzie]

I would'nt have said anything, cuz I probably would'nt have had the balls to. If I said something, I would just have felt more uncomftorable. Biting your tongue can be a good thing sometimes... but you just dont want anyone to walk all over you while your doing it.

 

[AUDRAA]

fuck that Id have said something its your house, you could have polietly asked her to not sit like that on your chair!!!

 

[Mrs Behavin]

I think it burned me more than anything cause when I was little I was always told to sit up straight and dont be all laid out on someone elses furniture, even when I was at my granparents house it was that way.

 

[GuesSAngel]

i probably wouldn't have said anything...but i know tim would have...knowing that we are trying to set an example for the kids he would have said something.

 

[Suzie]

I guess whenever you invite people to your house, you have to assume that they are'nt going to live in it like you are. We don't wear our shoes in our house, but everytime someone comes over Im not gonna ask them to take their shoes off. Some people automatically do it out of respect... and those are the people that get invited more often!

 

[AUDRAA]

dont you think if you are invited in someones house you should show it some respect I mean damn!!! In no way is it wrong to expect it IMO.

 

[GuesSAngel]

dont you think if you are invited in someones house you should show it some respect I mean damn!!! In no way is it wrong to expect it IMO.

:withstupid:

 

[Suzie]

Nope, I dont think its wrong to expect that at all. But you have to understand that not every single person that enters your house is going to show it respect. She said she only saw this girl one time before...so she doesnt know her very well to begin with. But I guess by me not saying anything...its offering my respect to her. Sometimes you don't always get what you give.

 

[AUDRAA]

shes in your house..... so you should let her treat your stuff like crap because you want to respect her???

 

[TheOriginalJames]

I honestly don't see what the big deal is. It's a leg, it's a couch. You put your arm on the couch. Your leg isn't going to automatically destroy it.

Now if she started jumping on it I could see it, but really... is it honestly that disrespectful? If she's not destroying shit, I don't see what the big deal is.

 

[Suzie]

Exactly... if she were to start jumping on the couch... I might see a need to say something. Its a leg... you can clean it just as soon as she leaves.

 

[Mrs Behavin]

But she had her shoes on though. It was all disrepectful in my eyes but still have shoes on just made it worse

 

[TheOriginalJames]

But she had her shoes on though. It was all disrepectful in my eyes but still have shoes on just made it worse

Oh well I woulda made her take her shoes off.

Actually in my house my furniture has all been free and is cheap anyway so, thats why, IMO it really isn't that big of a deal. If you have nice furniture, and if it bothered you you shoulda said something.

 

[Suzie]

Yeah... its not a question of being disrespectful in my eyes. Its just that when people enter your house you just have to assume that they arnt always going to respect your stuff. Now you know that you wouldnt wanna invite her over again.

 

[SRC]

I would have just said, can you please not put your shoes on the furniture.

I have lots of friends who just come in and make themselves at home. Some people weren't raied to not be that way. You can't fault them for having parents that didn't teach them any better.

They can't know or understand something that was never brought to their attention before.

She sounds young too.

 

[Mrs Behavin]

Yeah I think she is only 19

 

[SRC]

That explains almost everything. Teenagers this day evidently havent' been taught many manners at all. She's probably used to going over to her friends houses and just lounging about.

Seems they all do it these days. I know my little boys friends do .. and they're only 10.

 

[thrawn]

make a joke or walk by and tap her legs