Should children do chores?

[Jessica]

well my parents dont give away chores.

 

[HottyToddyChick]

You could be proactive and ask what needs to be done. Or just do it. I can assure you your momma would be super happy if she came home and the house was dusted, vacuumed and dishes done. Especially if she doesn't have to ask.

 

[Jessica]

Yeah we're different. my parents dont give chores, idk why but unlike American children my brothers and I dont get 'grounded' either.

My mom still tells me to wash the dishes but not all the time. I never do the garbage, my dad does that.

And we never get rewards

 

[Kyle B]

When I was younger, my parents only expected that I did certain chores such as making my bed and keeping my room and bathroom neat. I wasn't instructed to do specific tasks every day such as dishes, dusting, vacuuming etc. However, if I wanted some extra money, my parents would easily dish out some light work around the house for me to do and pay me after it was done sufficiently.

Do I believe that kids should have chores? In m opinion, there is no problem with having kids do light housework or age appropriate tasks around the house and then rewarding them. Nor do I think parents should hesitate to ask their children to help them out with something when there is no reward.

However, there's a fine line between parents teaching their kids responsibility and pushing all their responsibilities on their kids. I've witnessed a few extremes in which some kids were expected to do everything while the parents relaxed. Sometimes I wonder if some parents mistake their kids for maids and butlers.

 

[Dana]

Your child should not be doing everything the parent should be doing. I have a relative that was like that. BUT they should be doing things like cleaning their own rooms, doing dishes and shit.


She was having them do laundry, sweeping and all the shit her lazy ass should have been doing.

 

[HottyToddyChick]

I did a little bit of everything, as did my brother. When my mom was working and it was summer, Will cleaned the pool and I did laundry- including line drying. The two of us shared almost everything. Granted, I was 12ish and he was 11ish.

 

[Dakota Jim]

Your child should not be doing everything the parent should be doing. I have a relative that was like that. BUT they should be doing things like cleaning their own rooms, doing dishes and shit.


She was having them do laundry, sweeping and all the shit her lazy ass should have been doing.

"like cleaning their own rooms, doing dishes and shit." Should "shit" be considered a chore????

 

[Kyle B]

"like cleaning their own rooms, doing dishes and shit." Should "shit" be considered a chore????

Well I guess it would depend on what the parents feed them.

 

[Lord Stanley]

Well I guess it would depend on what the parents feed them.

we are supposed to feed them:eek

 

[Taralynn]

we are supposed to feed them:eek

Yes! And water them too! I water Mia daily.

 

[justmee]

we are supposed to feed them:eek

yes, it keeps them strong to to more chores...lol

 

[Margene]

Of course children should be doing chores, appropriate for their age. They should contribute to the well being of the household and in the process learn how to care for themselves and their future home.

As for tying an allowance to them, that's up for debate. I see the merit in both sides of that argument. I've never been a fan of just handing money to kids.

 

[Tyler Durden]

Actually mine barely do any. I didn't do any either.

My own parents were more of the "son, you're going to spend your whole god damn life doing chores so enjoy it while you can". Certainly didn't make me lazy or a guy prone to not doing all his own stuff when I get to that "age".

 

[Jessica]

so you guys think I should do chores......

 

[ZubaZ]

Yes they should, but they should get something for it. Not only would this teach the child how to maintain a house, for when they have their own, it would also teach them the value of hard work, if they were compensated.

 

[Jessica]

But I think there's a downside. Children who get rewards for what they do will probably be spoiled because they'd expect to get something for things they do.....

 

[ZubaZ]

Not necessarily. The parent(s) need to explain that the child is being paid for doing a certain job around the house. They aren't being rewarded for good behavior or doing something which is expected of them.

 

[Jessica]

Right.

 

[Guyzerr]

i don't believe in 'chores'. I don't make a job of something that is just lifes normal ways. Why should something become something that could be possibly hated through force?. ...I enjoy and really love how my son just helps out without being told most of the time...such as vacuuming or dusting. I show through doing these things myself and he then joins in without having to be told. I teach my son to be a leader not a servant. He takes charge of what he wants to do and I am happy and he is happy as there is no yelling or telling of or forcing...it just occurs.

Hi Dollface............
But you have to take some of the credit due to good parenting skills.

 

[Azazel]

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