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Kat said:
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Porn and me have had a long standing battle...even before my current bf. Though with him this is the easiest and best I've handled it. By ex's it was used as a weapon against me ...with them saying why can't you look more like them basically. I think it permantly put a scar on me. He has NEVER made me feel that way but there's still that small voice screaming in the back of my head....reminding me of all the words I've heard before him. I got that for about a year straight from another ex who did everything in his power to destroy my self image...unfortunatly I let him. I guess I'm still trying to let go of that. It's been 5 years since I was with that ex.... and 2 wonderful years with my current bf (the father of my baby)

It's just sometimes hard to let go of past hurts. I have tried talking to him about it... and even after all the reassurance he gives...like I said sometimes theres that small voice screaming. Don't know how to shut it up
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I don't think It is so much the Porn that is the issue here as much as how Porn has been Related to her past Experiance. And I know from personnel Experiance (not with porn) but Any negative experiance can always affect your current situation no matter how diffrent the situations may be.
 
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youre right slienteyz...it's more or less how it was used against me in the past. I stated before that I have watched some movies...and clips with him so I am not against it entirely. I think also since I'm getting closer to due date it's started bothering me a little more. (unfortunatly sex has slowed down for us because he feels like he's "poking" his daughter...tho I think it's kinda amusing)....

He knows how I feel though and he talks to me about it whenever I want.

mainly I was just curious as to others takes on this subject. As far as the strip clubs go...he actually quit going to those entirely when he found out how very very much those upset me (my ex cheated on me with a stripper who gave him a lap dance)....

granted with strip clubs tho I trust him to go...he just chooses not too for me. I trust him with everything...it's just upsetting sometimes to see.

I guess all in all this is just something I will have to control. I think I'll be better with it once I'm back to my normal weight and size ( then we can continue making our own movies too:D )

Thank you everyone for your input
 
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Sounds like you have a wonderful man there Kat, And I am sure as he continues to gravefully build your confidence in yourself, Things will get easier. Best of Luck
 
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well-- boys will be boys.. as long as he doesnt fall in love with the stripper giving him a lap dance... then all is fine and dandy for me..

and as for porn.. well they're gonna do that too.. so i dont care so much about that either..
 
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SilentEyz said:
Sounds like you have a wonderful man there Kat, And I am sure as he continues to gravefully build your confidence in yourself, Things will get easier. Best of Luck
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he is wonderful...I count myself lucky everyday to have him...and the confidence thing is working up too...its just taking time....but considering I couldnt even handle playboy mags when I first met him....now we race to see who gets to look first.... And he sits there and listens to me critize some of the girls too :p (occasionally he'll even join in)
 
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