Officially- marriage over

[Veronica]

we have talked about it Im not gonna take his boys away. I would never do that.

 

[Ria]

thanks for the support.. But this is Joes forum too. He made it in the first place, I just run it. He did tell me that Offtopicz is mine though and he wouldnt take it away. So just fyi, he isnt JUST a member, he is the owner/admin too.

Sorry, have just come online and seen certain posts on here - I haven't read to the end of this thread, since I was last online, but saw one response to my post you have quoted on page 3 of this thread, so thought I would respond with the following, to clear any confusion some may have :

Oh right veronica - My apologies, as I wasn't aware at all, that Joe owns this forum too, so fair enough in that case.

I read another of your posts responding to his sister, saying that it was your forum not his, after she said it was his, so I responded with the info I read at the time.

To those who need things clarified as far as the post of mine (page 3 of this thread) in question, is concerned - my intention was not to judge him as a person, but the way he went about it, that's all. With my years of life's experiences, is the reason I posted at all, as others' have posted too and had their views - I was just doing the same thing.

Also, to others' on this thread, the invitation has been put there for anyone to pass on their thoughts - a number of us have done exactly that, not only me.

No one person's view makes it the 'right' view, it is merely a different slant on a situation, that's all.

I am not 'having a go', but merely participating, along with you all on here, the same as I have done with a non-judgemental view on the sexuality thread and other threads.

I hope this settles things now, for those in wonderement and to confirm - I really do not ever intentionally go out to upset anyone and I am not judging anyone either - whether they have done the same as Joe or not, it was only my view, nothing more.

I hope this clears up any uncertainty now.

Thanks - Ria.

 

[Maritxu]

This is truly sad to read. It's always sad when a marriage ends and even more when there are kids involved.I don't really know everything that has happened and I certainly don't know everyone's part in the problem. All I know is that, aparently Joe found someone else and that's why he is leaving V.
I think it's good that you people play fair and show your kids that even though you don't want to be together, you love them and respect each other and nothing could ever change that.
V, I want you to know that you probably don't know how strong you are and you can be. I know that soon you will have a smile on your face and you will look back and realise somethings are better this way. Even though right now it hurts, probably one day, you'll know that everything happens for a reason, and you may find a new love that you will treasure and apreciate even more. You're a great person, beautiful inside and out. I know something better must be waiting for you.

 

[Veronica]

Ria, I hope what i said didnt make you upset. I just wanted you to know that this is joes forum too. I appreciatte everything that you guys and gals have done for me. You dont know how much yall have helped me. Many nights when I sat on here crying, yall were the ones that got me to stop. Yall have no idea how grateful I am for that.

I really really wanted my marriage to work. I was ready to do just about anything. Now I know there is no way that will ever happen and even so, Im not sure I would want it to after all he has said to me.

Thanks for all of yours respect.

 

[Styles]

As most of yall know, me and joe have been seperated for a month. Well, today I am packing his stuff so he can take it to his new place. The hurt seems to be there all over again. He doesnt want to work out anything. So , I guess I just need to wait around for the divorce papers.....

Sorry about that I`m here even tho you don`t know me or even know anything about me I`m here if you need to talk

 

[Ria]

Ria, I hope what i said didnt make you upset. I just wanted you to know that this is joes forum too. I appreciatte everything that you guys and gals have done for me. You dont know how much yall have helped me. Many nights when I sat on here crying, yall were the ones that got me to stop. Yall have no idea how grateful I am for that.

I really really wanted my marriage to work. I was ready to do just about anything. Now I know there is no way that will ever happen and even so, Im not sure I would want it to after all he has said to me.

Thanks for all of yours respect.

Aww, V.

No, of course you didn't upset me.

I like the fact that everyone feels they can have a say/give their view.

I needed to know that, re the forum and Joe, as I wasn't aware.

The rest of what I put in my post above, was to others really, as thought I'd cover a few responses in one, it was easier to do that - again, I am definately not upset in any way, just trying to explain why I posted, just as plenty of others' did too, even those who posted a lot stronger than I did.

I don't think there's any need to be upset about anything and I appreciate what ppl have to say on various topics.

No problem on my part at all.

Take care though and spk soon. Ria.

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

V I told Matt about your situation, he knows a lot about law and this is what he had to say about it:

All she has to do is file for divorce and take him to court. The likelihood is she will get the house, alimony and child support, no problem. He will spend the next 18 years paying her half his salary every year. Plus with one of her kids being autistic, he has to pay medical child support. If he doesn’t pay, he goes to jail, simple. The sherrif will come remove him from the house once the court grants it to her, which they almost certainly will. The courts are extremely bias towards women and their children in court. He will get ripped apart by a judge for doing what he did. Most divorce lawyers will let you pay for the legal charges out of your alimony.

 

[alleycat]

I have a feeling V isnt that type of person to do that.

 

[Veronica]

Im not.
But, thanks. I dont want to screw him.

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

I don't think you'd be screwing him. You'd be getting what you deserve.

 

[Maulds]

Hopefully he'll be a stand up guy and take care of it without you needing to use the court to force his hand.