Must be a generational thing.

[Dana]

Like I said I suppose it is a generalization thing. I always felt if asked a girl out I was not expecting her to pay her own way. Not sure I could do it...."Hey, you wanna go out tonight? Bring your money so you can pay your own way, See you at 8."

I've never out right said i expect her to pay for things. They always offer. Or say we go to the movies, ill go good on the tickets and she offers to go for the snacks. It's never anything I outright expect a woman to do but i don't see a problem with it. Personally it saves me from kicking myself in the ass if the date goes south.

 

[TheFireMan]

The guy ALWAYS pays.

/thread

 

[AUFred]

I've never out right said i expect her to pay for things. They always offer. Or say we go to the movies, ill go good on the tickets and she offers to go for the snacks. It's never anything I outright expect a woman to do but i don't see a problem with it. Personally it saves me from kicking myself in the ass if the date goes south.

Her too I'm sure.:nod:

 

[retro]

Her too I'm sure.:nod:

:24:

this may happen more often than not

 

[StripedCat]

*lol* I remember, when I first met my husband: he invited me to a restaurant. I was really interested in him, so when the waitress asked whether we pay together or not, I rapidly said "We want to go Dutch!".
And due to that my husband (who was interested in me, too) thought that it was a sign like "game over".

Tbh, I've only let the guys pay when I didn't like them. :ninja

 

[AUFred]

*lol* I remember, when I first met my husband: he invited me to a restaurant. I was really interested in him, so when the waitress asked whether we pay together or not, I rapidly said "We want to go Dutch!".
And due to that my husband (who was interested in me, too) thought that it was a sign like "game over".

Tbh, I've only let the guys pay when I didn't like them. :ninja

Reverse psychology. I would be so confused. :willy_nilly:

 

[StripedCat]

Reverse psychology. I would be so confused. :willy_nilly:

Oh, my husband was, too.
(And we're both over 30 now, so I think, we belong to the same generation as you do?)

edit: Ok, I've seen that you're a bit older than we are. ^^

 

[AUFred]

I grew up with dirt.

 

[hart]

I grew up with dirt.

Wow u had dirt? :eek

 

[Dana]

Her too I'm sure.:nod:

I wouldn't know nor do I care because at the point... It's no loss. But hey don't knock others for the way they do things on their dates if its consensual.

 

[brieze]

Reading this thread, I realize I've never been on a date lol. At least not in the guy sees girl and asks out way. I've already been in a relationship when we go on dates. And at that point, it's more the what's mine is yours concept. I imagine if I did go on a date date, I'd rather pay half than feel obligated to kiss him/her or call them, because I would if they paid.

 

[AUFred]

Reading this thread, I realize I've never been on a date lol. At least not in the guy sees girl and asks out way. I've already been in a relationship when we go on dates. And at that point, it's more the what's mine is yours concept. I imagine if I did go on a date date, I'd rather pay half than feel obligated to kiss him/her or call them, because I would if they paid.

I suppose the paying your own way eliminates any obligations from the equation. I never went on a date where I did not pay for everything or almost everything.

 

[Pumpkin]

Reading this thread, I realize I've never been on a date lol. At least not in the guy sees girl and asks out way. I've already been in a relationship when we go on dates. And at that point, it's more the what's mine is yours concept. I imagine if I did go on a date date, I'd rather pay half than feel obligated to kiss him/her or call them, because I would if they paid.

You are in Australia right?

I don't *know* for Australia, but dating doesn't really happen in NZ and I am guessing its the same for Oz. We fall into relationships and then date afterwards, very weird. In NZ I was taken on one date, it was just drinks and he paid. The first dinner date I went on here (was with my current bf ) and I was scared shitless before I went! haha

 

[cam elle toe]

You are in Australia right?

I don't *know* for Australia, but dating doesn't really happen in NZ and I am guessing its the same for Oz. We fall into relationships and then date afterwards, very weird. In NZ I was taken on one date, it was just drinks and he paid. The first dinner date I went on here (was with my current bf ) and I was scared shitless before I went! haha

This is SO true.:nod:

We dont seem to get asked on "dates" as such, especially by people we've only just met or hardly know.

I remember walking down the street in Sydney once about 10 years ago, when this car pulled to the kerb, and out jumped an American fellow. He'd "noticed" me in a shop earlier, and wanted to take me for a coffeewilly_nilly:

That just does NOT happen here.(yes I went for the coffee)

 

[Dana]

This is SO true.:nod:

We dont seem to get asked on "dates" as such, especially by people we've only just met or hardly know.

I remember walking down the street in Sydney once about 10 years ago, when this car pulled to the kerb, and out jumped an American fellow. He'd "noticed" me in a shop earlier, and wanted to take me for a coffeewilly_nilly:

That just does NOT happen here.(yes I went for the coffee)

Good that you went and didn't just brush him off as a weirdo LOL

 

[cam elle toe]

Good that you went and didn't just brush him off as a weirdo LOL

I forgot to mention, he jumped out of a red Saab convertible, and he was quite cute to boot.

 

[Dana]

i forgot to mention, he jumped out of a red saab convertible, and he was quite cute to boot.:d

:24::24:

 

[Peter Parka]

I dont believe the man should be obligated to pay for everything because I'm not sexist. Besides, its not like years ago where women stayed at home and men were the bread winners. Seems unfair to put the whole bill onto one person when the other one has got just as much if not more money.