Must be a generational thing.

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When I was young and dating the guy paid for everything on the date. Meal, movie, park entrance, ice cream, snacks...whatever. I guess this generation is different.

My daughter went out Friday night with a new guy and was describing the date. The part that caught my attention. "We went to Carraba's for dinner and HE PAID!"
 
Zorak tries to pay for dinner but normally I'll wear him down until I can pay half. Sometimes I just let him pay and sometimes I'll pay. He once tried to pay for something (I think it was coffee) and I just put my money in his pocket and forced him to take it.
 
Abcinthia said:
Zorak tries to pay for dinner but normally I'll wear him down until I can pay half. Sometimes I just let him pay and sometimes I'll pay. He once tried to pay for something (I think it was coffee) and I just put my money in his pocket and forced him to take it.
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Niamh said:
we should the guy pay for everything though? It's not very fair
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In my generation it was part of the courtship to show the lady a good time. I notice my children are much more likely to go "Dutch". We rarely paid our own way when I was dating.
 
Whenever I've been with my boyfriend I've paid for everything because I've got the money and he's usually strapped of cash, heck I even paid for him to come up for Valentines Day but I told him that whenever he can to pay half of it back to me but I'm patient with it.
 
I usually do it where if he invites, I do kind of expect him to pay.

If I invite, I'll reach for the check, but if he tries to stop me, I won't put up a fight.

(I do that with friends too- if I invite and the answer is "money is tight", no problem, my treat.)
 
I've never gone out on a date where the man didn't pay. Now, I've gone out with male friends and paid my own, but then I do with female friends too unless it's my birthday or something.

Now it's our money and I don't go on a lot of date w/o him ;) :sarcasm
 
I guess I've been lucky so far that most guys I've dated would always pay. I would most of the times ask if I can pay or go Dutch but most of them refuse to do so. Except in circumstances when like I invite for dinner when it wasn't previously planned b4 we went out then I surely insist to pay :D

HottyToddyChick said:
(I do that with friends too- if I invite and the answer is "money is tight", no problem, my treat.)
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I agree with HTC when it comes to friends :nod: Especially if they are guests who came all the way from across the pond to visit for a few days- I insist on paying for everything ;)
 
when we go out with friends sometimes they pay sometimes we do and other time we both do pay... like someone pay for the drink and someone will pay for anything else...
but that's only with very good friends


if i go out with friends but not best friends i make sure i pay always ..if i invite someone i do pay ...

I think on a first day it is nice the man to pay but i hate when the females over do it and buy expensive drinks and food
and do not think at all..

ok if the person rich but if it is have one job only and pay for everything it is good to be reasonable what you get..
 
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I think whoever does the inviting should pay, and since men tend to do the asking out for the first date, he should then be prepared to pay for it as well.

I know I'll get some stick for this but I like traditional courtship and the idea of wooing someone :) I like the idea that a man takes a woman out to show her that he's a nice guy and that yes, he could support her financially. Since one day I'd love to be a stay at home mum, that's something that matters to me!

However, it's definitely a case of each to their own. I appreciate that other women will feel definitely and I don't deny them any right to go halves with a man on everything if they so desire. For all the important big purchases, that's exactly what we do anyway. But for first dates - I like to be treated like a lady :)
 
AstriaPorta said:
when we go out with friends sometimes they pay sometimes we do and other time we both do pay... like someone pay for the drink and someone will pay for anything else...
but that's only with very good friends


if i go out with friends but not best friends i make sure i pay always ..if i invite someone i do pay ...

I think on a first day it is nice the man to pay but i hate when the females over do it and buy expensive drinks and food
and do not think at all..

ok if the person rich but if it is have one job only and pay for everything it is good to be reasonable what you get..
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If I know a friend, parent, parent in law, or even if Matt is paying, I try to get a feel for what they're getting and stay in the same range.
 
Dana said:
Why should the dude be expected to pay for everything? I mean, I have to problems with paying for everything but a lot of dates I've been on the woman felt like she had to contribute.
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Like I said I suppose it is a generalization thing. I always felt if asked a girl out I was not expecting her to pay her own way. Not sure I could do it...."Hey, you wanna go out tonight? Bring your money so you can pay your own way, See you at 8.":D
 
AUFred said:
Like I said I suppose it is a generalization thing. I always felt if asked a girl out I was not expecting her to pay her own way. Not sure I could do it...."Hey, you wanna go out tonight? Bring your money so you can pay your own way, See you at 8.":D
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:thatfunny: I like that ("Wanna go out...bring your money so you can pay your way") I'm with Fred. Chivalry is dying off. When does a man get the door for a woman or pay for meals/dates any more? I feel like a schmuck when my girlfriend wants to go out to eat and I didn't budget anything to go out on a specific night. I'll overdraw my account unless she suggests to help. I'm silly like that. Now, that I'm busting my ass off at work again I feel a lot better about taking her out and not worrying about finances as much. I'm still a firm believer in the man is the protector/provider and the woman is the gardener/nurturer.
 
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