Mid-life crisis

[Mrs Behavin]

Amy, have ya'll been going to see a marriage counselor or other professional about this?

Ive brought it up but he refuses to see a counselor. Says he doesnt want someone else telling him how to live his life

 

[Pudding Time]

Great song by Faith No More

 

[COOL_BREEZE2]

Ive brought it up but he refuses to see a counselor. Says he doesnt want someone else telling him how to live his life

Well, you can't do this on your own. Neither of you.
Ok, so you've tried dealing with it on your own now for about....one year right? That's not working. On again, off again...problem persisting. No good.

It's obvious ya'll need professional third party help to deal with it and resolve. Thing is tho, there's nothing much you can do if he's unwilling to go. Maybe if someone else/e close to him persuades him to understand the benefit it may help change his mind about that. He would not have been the first man to resist going to see a counselor and wouldn't be the last. But some have changed their minds with persuasion. For some men it is an ego thing.

Consider this. If it is that there's a chance you both want to repair and save your marriage and family, then you NEED to go see a professional in that area. Otherwise this will most likely be a recurring problem. There is some deep seated issue/s that need to be resolved. This is the only way I see it working. The key is mutual commitment and the realization to MAKE TIME to see the professional and work toward the marriage.

On the other hand, and I'm sorry to have to end with a negative, if it is that too much time has passed resulting in a breaking down of the relationship to the point of not caring or giving up because of the frustrations then ya'll need to start thinking of separating for it is not healthy of any of you to be living under such circumstances---->for a prolonged period of time.

I am an advocate for if there's problems in a marriage that couples make the effort to work things out....but once it gets to be a prolonging issue then I believe...better to be happy by oneself rather than be unhappy in an unhealthy relationship. And yes...time heals old wounds.

I hope it is not too late and that you both are able to give the counseling a try. If it works fine. If it doesn't...still fine. At least you would have given it a chance. And if you do decide that you've had enough at least you would be in a happier and healthier situation apart.

That's my two cents.

 

[Keight]

I have never known a man to go through something like this, however im sure it does happen. Sorry Amy i hope things get better

 

[debbie t]

Ive brought it up but he refuses to see a counselor. Says he doesnt want someone else telling him how to live his life

counselling isnt like that...you do the work,no decent coucellor would tell him to do anything.
im ever so sorry,it sounds awful and must be putting a lot of stress on you,life is too short to be unhappy.
i dont think changing yourself is the answer,you are you (and it sounds like your housewifely skills are like mine)and the person you marry should love you for being you...i admit in all relationships we all have to compromise a little,but you seem to be doing all the work.

i think relationship councelling would be the answer,tell him that he should go once and if he hates it its ok he doesnt have to go again..you never know its worth trying

 

[Dodge_Sniper]

Oh GAWD. Well they suddenly don't know what the eff they want in life, in YOU, (relationship), and...shit. Fuck it was a shitty time.

You mean the same way women act every day? :24::24:

i should think its possible,theyre very fragile little dears are men.
you know how they are,they need bigging up,and soothing....oh darling ofcourse you have abetter body than vin deisal.....and you really do have the largest penis ive ever seen...that sort of thing

and then they go a bit funny and start skydiving and wanting fast cars ...i bought mine a microlight lesson andflight one year for crimbo....kept him quiet and purring for about sixmonths.

Again, just like women need it every day?

See?...Doesn't take much to make us happy.

:homo:

 

[gLing]

This is a good thread. I should take notes just in case mike ever goes through one of these spells. lol