Loved Ones in Prison

[SouthOfHeaven]

I saw duhhh he's a cutie

 

[DuhhhBlond]

thank you

 

[AUFred]

I'm sure it is hard knowing your child is in prison.

 

[DuhhhBlond]

seeing your child in shackles
talking to himbehind glass
having other people tell you you cannot touch him
and not being able to break him free literally drives you insane

 

[cam elle toe]

seeing your child in shackles
talking to himbehind glass
having other people tell you you cannot touch him
and not being able to break him free literally drives you insane

 

[Peter Parka]

Ive been in prison twice and I think its probably harder for the loved ones outside, to be honest. Maybe I just cope with prison better because I have Aspergers but its such a weight off my mind being in there. Yes, you have to deal with violence and drugs more, (I actually like the easy availability of drugs) but I dont have to worry about money, a social life and lots of other stuff. There's not a hell of a lot to do in prison and I find the boredom something of a release.

 

[Guyzerr]

two good things did come out of the whole deal..

1. He didn't get his little ass shot off.

2. I got his pitbull, Remy, when I went to the arraignment and brought her home.
The day I pick him up, I will have her in the car waiting.

I've been reading this thread with mixed emotions and wasn't going to comment until I read your last post. It seems something is missing. On one hand I sympathize with you, on the other I say he is where he belongs.

I can recall my father being in prison when I was a youngster. It tore me up because he was my dad, my hero and all I did was cry because I missed him so much. I can remember visiting my father in jail when I was about 6. According to my mother I begged her to take me for a visit. Apparently I was relentless and she finally gave in. It's like a movie stuck in my brain that I can't get out and even today, 50 years later, I'm not sure it was the right thing to do. In any even she did what she thought was right and such is life.

Fast forward a bunch of years...............

I was a bad-ass kid heading in the same direction as my dad and I ended up in jail. At the time I didn't think much of it but my mind changed after a short time. I vowed that stint would be my one and only and that's been the case. I was an adult at the time and to this day my family has no idea I was locked up.

The issue I have with your last post, and I don't intend to be mean, is that you failed to mention the third good thing to come out of this. That being your son has learned his lesson and has declared he'll never break the law and risk going back to jail. With the number of felonies he was convicted of he's lucky to get a second chance. The next time he might not be so fortunate.

 

[Peter Parka]

The issue I have with your last post, and I don't intend to be mean, is that you failed to mention the third good thing to come out of this. That being your son has learned his lesson and has declared he'll never break the law and risk going back to jail. With the number of felonies he was convicted of he's lucky to get a second chance. The next time he might not be so fortunate.

I sympathise with the rest of you r post, so dont take this the wrong way but prison has fuck all to do with rehabilitating people. I got introduced to heroin for the first time while I was there not to mention lucrative illegal ways of making money. The simple fact is that all prison is about is revenge and prisons just breed crime and the sooner the actual problem is looked at the better. It might make the victims feel better in the short term, locking their aggressors up but it simply makes things worse in the long term.

 

[Guyzerr]

I sympathise with the rest of you r post, so dont take this the wrong way but prison has fuck all to do with rehabilitating people.

I agree with you. It was the loss of my freedom that made me vow never to go back. Rehabilitation programs didn't enter the equation one iota. It's all in the head Peter. One has to make choices and live with them.

I got introduced to heroin for the first time while I was there not to mention lucrative illegal ways of making money.

That was a choice you made. I've made the same choices and have done my share of drugs way back when. Nobody ever held a gun to my head and said " here take this or I'll pull the trigger. " Once again, it's all about choices.

The simple fact is that all prison is about is revenge and prisons just breed crime and the sooner the actual problem is looked at the better. It might make the victims feel better in the short term, locking their aggressors up but it simply makes things worse in the long term.

Revenge... I suppose it is sometimes but in most cases it's done to protect honest law abiding citizens from those that wish to do harm. I have the ability to forgive someone for fucking up once, depending on the crime, but I don't for someone that chose to make it a lifestyle. Once again... choices and the willpower to avoid the temptation.

That said I need to make one thing very clear and that's the point of this thread. I will always have sympathy for the family members of criminals that are locked up. They never had the chance to make that choice and the pain of it all can be overwhelming.

 

[Peter Parka]

That was a choice you made. I've made the same choices and have done my share of drugs way back when. Nobody ever held a gun to my head and said " here take this or I'll pull the trigger. " Once again, it's all about choices.



Revenge... I suppose it is sometimes but in most cases it's done to protect honest law abiding citizens from those that wish to do harm. I have the ability to forgive someone for fucking up once, depending on the crime, but I don't for someone that chose to make it a lifestyle. Once again... choices and the willpower to avoid the temptation.

That said I need to make one thing very clear and that's the point of this thread. I will always have sympathy for the family members of criminals that are locked up. They never had the chance to make that choice and the pain of it all can be overwhelming.

The problem here is, most bosses dont want to give an ex con a second chance so what they are usually left with is working 10 times harder than most to scrape a living, sponging off of the doll or making easy money illegally. We ll know what's right but what realistically is going to be the choice most ex cons take?

I agree that dangerous criminals need to be locked up but what's more beneficial, rehabilitating then to be of use to society or paying a couple of grand a week to lock them up? Obviously there are some criminals far too dangerous to ever let back into society but even they could be used for some good behind bars. As for the rest, I'm in favour of more community service instead of prison or even bringing back chain gangs.

 

[DuhhhBlond]

thanks for your insights, guys

Peter, if you don't mind, I am curious which prsisons you were in

and I definitely feel they need to be imprisoned for rehabilitation, not punishment

Pimp is surrounded by con artisits, more burglars, murderers, rapists, etc
and able to compare notes with them
on how to be sneakier next time
I am just hoping he will grow up alittle while he's inthere

I hadn't heard from him for a week
and had awful bouts of insomnia and crying
i finally found out he's in solitary
and have no idea what he did to get there

 

[justmee]

Ive been in prison twice and I think its probably harder for the loved ones outside, to be honest. Maybe I just cope with prison better because I have Aspergers but its such a weight off my mind being in there. Yes, you have to deal with violence and drugs more, (I actually like the easy availability of drugs) but I dont have to worry about money, a social life and lots of other stuff. There's not a hell of a lot to do in prison and I find the boredom something of a release.

yeah but you drop the soap and your screwed...lol

 

[Peter Parka]

Peter, if you don't mind, I am curious which prsisons you were in

I've been in HMP Chelmsford and Norwich, both cat B prisons.

 

[justmee]

I've been in HMP Chelmsford and Norwich, both cat B prisons.

i dont know how you did it. i barely made it through the few times i spent 8 hours in the county jail...lol

 

[DuhhhBlond]

I was in juvey for a year as a teenager and have spent a few ugly nights in county jails...

 

[PerfectBlue]

Sorry to hear about Pimp Duhh I have been on the outside when someone I cared about deeply was in prison. It's difficult and a day didn't go by that I didn't worry and wonder. I just want you to know I understand and feel free to talk to me about anytime you need to.

 

[DuhhhBlond]

isn't it awful, Froggy?

(I have to stop calling you froggy)

remember how well he was doing

he was the freaking medical spelling champ for the state of Michigan!

and a volunteer fire fighter, volunteer at blood drives, participating in church plays

and remember when he and Afro went down to mississippi after hurricane Katrina?

where did my little boy go so wrong?

 

[PerfectBlue]

He just made a couple of bad choices which we are all guilty of doing sometimes. This doesn't make him a bad person.

 

[Jessica]

He just made a couple of bad choices which we are all guilty of doing sometimes. This doesn't make him a bad person.

:nod::nod:

 

[DuhhhBlond]

no, he's not a bad person..

he will always don a little halo as far as I'm concerned...