Letter Etiquette

[Joe the meek]

so you have decided that it's ok to show it your spouse but showing it to your sister is the same as posting it on the internet? Great logic there.

Thank you.

When you're married, information is expected to be exchanged partners. Actually, if it's a good marriage, very few things are kept secret from partners IMO.

Something you may understand better is the fact that in some cases, the law (in the U.S) does give partners in marriage some protection on what is said between each other, geez, wonder why? LOL

Tell your sister, brother, baby's momma uncle or anyone else, and you have no clue as to where that information may end up.

Does that make sense for you now?

Natasha had mentioned that if the letter was hurtful she wouldn't care about etiquette. That only tells me she wouldn't take the high road to be a better person about the situation. Hey, you want to get in the mud and play with the pigs, at least admit that you're no better than the other pigs you're playing with.

 

[Joe the meek]

Yeah, it might have been best not to say anything. My sister-in-law was curious why we don't talk to my mother-in-law anymore. The letter is what ended the relationship. Although it was just the last straw in a poor relationship to begin with.

I can't help but think that the sister in law is just being nosey. If the relationship was on the rocks to begin with, I'm certain it wasn't a state secret in the family. You can always tell the SIL to ask the MIL and leave it at that or just be general about the situation.

That said, the letter is in your possession, so you can do with it however you wish.

 

[MoonOwl]

Natasha had mentioned that if the letter was hurtful she wouldn't care about etiquette. That only tells me she wouldn't take the high road to be a better person about the situation. Hey, you want to get in the mud and play with the pigs, at least admit that you're no better than the other pigs you're playing with.

Quoted so it's not edited once again.

By the way you post here, Joe the meek, it appears that you yourself never take the high road. In fact, if there is a pot to be stirred......

 

[Natasha]

Natasha had mentioned that if the letter was hurtful she wouldn't care about etiquette. That only tells me she wouldn't take the high road to be a better person about the situation. Hey, you want to get in the mud and play with the pigs, at least admit that you're no better than the other pigs you're playing with.

I don't have time to respond fully right now, but given my family situation right now and the fact that only 2 people on this forum know anything remotely close to the full story, that makes me giggle.

 

[BornReady]

I can't help but think that the sister in law is just being nosey.

I think nosy is a little harsh. It's natural to wonder why your sibling isn't talking to your parents. Especially when you consider my wife and her sister are very close.

 

[Joe the meek]

By the way you post here, Joe the meek, it appears that you yourself never take the high road. In fact, if there is a pot to be stirred......

Very astute of you.

So since Natasha thinks the letter is hurtful she wouldn't care about etiquette as opposed to it being a "nice" letter? That's where it takes a better person to put their feelings aside.

You'll have to forgive me, as far as I know, none of you are family, and if I see a spade, I'll call it a spade even if you are family LMAO

 

[Joe the meek]

I think nosy is a little harsh. It's natural to wonder why your sibling isn't talking to your parents. Especially when you consider my wife and her sister are very close.

If you're wife and sister are close, I can only assume that the relationship between your wife and her parents aren't a secret with your sister in law. Your wife can just mention the letter in general and ask her sister to leave it at that. If you SIL respects your wife, she should be able to abide by her wishes (your wife's).

Show me a perfect family and I'll show you a TV show.

 

[Johnfromokc]

BUT...people do need drama LOL

Yah reckon? You should change your screen name to "Josephine the Drama Queen". :24:

 

[Joe the meek]

Yah reckon? You should change your screen name to "Josephine the Drama Queen". :24:

John, you should know me better than to revolve my life around internet drama

A question was asked about proper etiquette.

ANYWAY you cut it, the person who the letter was intended for should not share the letter to anyone unless the author of the letter mentioned that it would be ok to share that letter.

The FACT is, husband and wife are EXPECTED to talk and anyone with a common ounce of sense would know that if they wrote a letter, the contents of that letter could be shared with the persons (who the letter was intended for) spouse.

Now, if the letter is a matter of life or death, it could be a different story.