It's Not That You Aren't Good Enough For Someone Who Leaves You

[MainerMikeBrown]

Some people who's self esteem isn't as healthy as it should be think that if their lover leaves them, then that must mean that they aren't good enough for that person.

However, that is not true. It's not that you aren't good enough for that person. Instead, it's because you aren't compatable with that other person.

Their's a big difference.

It's one thing if you were physically and/or verbally abusive to your lover who left you. Other than that, you aren't any less of a person than the person who left you.

After all, nobody is better or worse than you, as we are all created equal.

 

[RUBESH]

That is a really positive and inspiring viewpoint. It's crucial to keep in mind that a breakup does not determine a person's worth. Relationships are complicated, and there are numerous reasons why they fail, and it isn't necessarily because one person is "better" or "worse" than the other. Compatibility is an important component in every relationship, and it's conceivable that two nice people aren't a good fit for each other. It is critical to focus on self-esteem and not allow a breakup dictate a person's perception of self-worth.

 

[astutimeliana723]

Yes, that's true I totally agree with you. Sometimes a person when left behind he feels down, blames himself. Even though it's not necessarily entirely our fault, it could be their fault who decided to leave. After all, if there is no match for let alone maintained, sooner or later one of them will definitely leave.

 

[eldavis]

The truth of the matter is that most persons simply do not know what they want. They might live you for someone else simply because they feel they can get something from that person, something they feel thay cannot get from you. So never feel you are not good enough or someone else is better than you.

 

[cherry123]

Yeah people leave for various reasons. it might not just be about you. it is just them trying to be the humans that they are.

 

[Chibson]

Breakup does not mean that you are so bad. It does not even mean that it is your own fault. So it is always important to have a very good self-esteem whenever you experience such situations in life.

 

[cherry123]

Sure it is always important to have a very good self-esteem whenever you experience this kind of things

 

[RUBESH]

I fully agree that people's self-esteem might influence how they interpret a break-up. It's vital to remember that congruence is an important aspect in a good relationship, and two individuals may just not be fit for each other, regardless of their specific characteristics.

 

[Stardom22]

Sometimes it's that they could get tired of the person's that they relate to them oftenly.

 

[cherry123]

The truth of the matter is that most persons simply do not know what they want. They might live you for someone else simply because they feel they can get something from that person, something they feel thay cannot get from you. So never feel you are not good enough or someone else is better than you.

You are right. our worth is not defined by their decision to leave; it's simply a reflection of their needs and compatibility not aligning with ours;

 

[King Belieal]

It is the wrong mindset to feel that someone left you because you are not good enough. You are perfect. Just that they are not discerning enough to recognize the immense value that you carry. So it is better they leave.

 

[Urvashi]

self-worth shouldn't be tied to whether someone stays or leaves. A breakup often comes down to compatibility, not personal inadequacy. If someone leaves, it doesn’t mean you’re lacking; it just means you weren’t the right fit. Healing comes from recognizing your value beyond any relationship.

 

[lens]

I couldn't agree more. The individual issues or incompatibility inside a person typically cause them to end relationships. That doesn't affect our worth irrespective of the relationship outcome.

 

[Fidelia]

I know that I carry value. Anyone that left just couldn't align with my lifestyle. And I respect that. And most of them wanted a comeback years later. I am good enough. They just didn't understand as at then.

 

[Nomad]

yeah, we are created equal but we are different because or thoughts, behavior and temperament. We also have different personality based on our culture, country, brought up, and lifestyle choices. When it comes to relationship, the main thing is compatibility. If you are not compatible, your relationship does not work.

 

[Lolita]

It’s easy to blame yourself when someone walks away, but their decision rarely proves anything about your worth. People leave because of timing, personal struggles, mismatched priorities, or needs they can’t express. You are not responsible for fixing someone who isn’t choosing you.