I did have a person in my life who at one point I considered a really close friend. We've known each other for over 10 years, easily. We shared a lot about each other and had a blast doing weird stuff over the weekends and barbecues.
But as time goes by there were a few things about him that I saw was a bit odd. Most people that we had ties with would ask me questions about his past and things never really matched up. He would tell me one thing and others would tell me a different variation. I kind of blew it off because he was still a cool guy and it might have been a minor oversight.
Little things started to add up, and eventually his lies caught up with him. You see, he had tampered with the time clocks at his job and his worked hours came into question. Eventually, human resources had called him in to question him as they did a full background check as to the information he submitted on his application for work. Sure enough, they called his previous employers and colleges, and he never existed as far as those two entities were concerned. He fabricated everything about himself. His previous life, his education, hell.......he could of been a serial killer on the run for all we knew.
Years have gone by and he has come in and out of my life but I always keep him at arms length. One by one people close to me was telling me that he was asking for short term loans and these people was asking me if he was trust worthy. My guess is he was using me as a character witness just so he can get loans from my childhood friends. That dirty rat!!!
Of course I felt betrayed and used. He was a classic sociopath. He did everything in his power to manipulate others to get what he wanted in life. He was a very disturbed individual, and could never be trusted.
I can't help the way I was raised. I was taught to look for the good in everyone. But in this case the goodness was fabricated for selfish, self serving reasons. Because of him, I changed the way I looked at new friends and acquaintances. Skepticism overrides my previous thoughts.