Guys vote only please.

[Boomer]

I think the sexiest thing a chic can wear is my dress shirt in the morning.

 

[BaggedSplash]

I think the sexiest thing a chic can wear is my dress shirt in the morning.

hahaha...werd Boomer

 

[Charmer]

I voted for the laid back, casual dresser. Only because my true test is if they look good casually dressed and with no make-up, then dressed-up, they can only look the same or better!

To me, if a girl/woman has to dress-up and put make-up on all the time, perhaps she's trying to hide behind a "mask," (so to speak). Therefore, she also might be trying to be something she's not. I'd rather see the woman you are more than the woman you "think you are or want to be."

**Just like when I see people renting expensive cars that they can't afford normally; (and dressing in expensive-looking clothes); they're trying, in most circumstances I have found, to be somebody they're not and trying to impress people, (read: women), into believing they're "money." I've known some guys who have carried that off for awhile....or at least until they've got the woman into bed!

 

[quarterican]

Just as a thought, though. Some girls I know will wear something simple like jeans, tennis sneakers and a tee shirt, but still looks nicely dressed. I guess it depends on how you're wearing it, and where you're wearing it.

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

Pat I'm with you. When someone dresses nice it shows that they put time and thought into their appearance and it shows that they care how they are presented to other people. You don't have to have higher end or expensive clothes to dress sharp, either...but I would be much more likely to approach a male/female if they looked like they gave a shit about how they looked. Once you get to know someone it doesn't matter really, but it's a good impression to make..kind of like interviewing for a job.

 

[TheOriginalJames]

I for sure am not trying to be someone or something I am not. I just like to look nice. I don't see anything wrong with that. For some crazy reason I feel better on the inside when I feel good on the outside. I don't know what that means but it's true. Low self esteem, somethin??? I'm just trying to prove to guys that pretty girls can be nice and sweet, down to earth, normal people and they are more than just a piece of ass if I can be so blunt. It just hasn't worked for me. They see me and see one thing. I don't get it.

Thanks for all the input...Kathy

Boomer you are HILARIOUS! If anything, you made me laugh today! Thanks!

 

[TheOriginalJames]

^^ that was Kathy in that post.

This is James here:

My point is that dressing casually doesn't mean they look like a complete and total slob, but they look decent and are being themselves (looks and personality wise). You shouldn't need to always have to look sharp to impress people. Self confidence and personality will suffice afterwards. The problem is those first impressions that are 100% based on looks will be the basis of every other impression you have on someone if you continue to see and get to know them. The more casual you are, the less of a shock it is to someone when you go from looking super nice to looking decent in comfortable clothing.

 

[TheOriginalJames]

Clare did you vote in this poll too?

 

[Boomer]

Thank you Kathy. Maybe we can make out some time. ; )

 

[Sneakiecat]

You can dress causually and still look nice. I can't stand wearing makeup for several reasons (comfort for one) but my main reason is I see nothing wrong with the way I look without it. In fact, I think I've worn it about five times in my life, if that. I've had people ask me why I don't try to cover up my scar from my thyroid surgery or why I don't want to accent my eyes. But to me, it's who I am and what my true self is. I'm not hiding anything. I don't try to dress all fancy because that's not me. If I know I'm going somewhere, I'll make sure I look nice but I'm not going to spend forever getting ready to go. If people don't have a good first impression of me because I wear jeans and a tanktop 90% of the time, it's their loss.

I do dress professionally for my internship because that is appropriate for the setting. But I don't go overboard with it either. I've got to be comfortable with what I'm wearing or I'll be miserable the whole day.

 

[SilentSinz]

I went with the laid back look, those girls tend to be easier going , not so high maintannce...or much of a snob either!

 

[Bagel]

the layed back dresser...
why you ask

well let me tell you

first off ... the layed back dresser is a girl thats confident in beign herself with you and i am drawn to that like a bear to honey..seriously...

second the girl in jeans is less likely to be a girlie girlie girl... nothign wrong with that but i like tomboys ..always have always will.

lastly the girl who wears jeans most of the time is the one who takes forever to find the perfect dressy outfit..and i mean perfect... i am a little old fashioned and i rahter like the idea that hte girl likes me enough to break out of her norm and buy that snazzy dress to go out with me to someplace fancy(plus i rather like to be the one buyign the dress... i love spoiling my ladies....and if wanna try and call bullshit on that , you know who to talk to)

synopsis
jean girl = comfortable tomboy who in the event of wearigna dress is proof that she cares enough about you to break out of her normal to impress you..

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

second the girl in jeans is less likely to be a girlie girlie girl... nothign wrong with that but i like tomboys ..always have always will.

This is suuuuch a stereotype i think! I know PLENTY of chicks who don't take care of themselves and wear jeans and baggy t shirts every day who are the BIGGEST drama queens/girly girls around. And me...I'm pretty low maintenance, but I say I like to look nice when i leave the house. I think you people read way too much into what dressing nicely really means. It's just personal preference.

 

[Mrs Behavin]

This is suuuuch a stereotype i think! I know PLENTY of chicks who don't take care of themselves and wear jeans and baggy t shirts every day who are the BIGGEST drama queens/girly girls around. And me...I'm pretty low maintenance, but I say I like to look nice when i leave the house. I think you people read way too much into what dressing nicely really means. It's just personal preference.

:withstupid: I gots to agree. If Im going out somewhere like say WalMart....I wear whatever IM comfortable in. I really dont care what everyone thinks of me when they see what Im wearing or that my hair is thrown back in a ponytail with no make-up on.
But now if Im going somewhere really nice......like say a formal dinner or to meet someone important.....I can make myself look like I just stepped out of a Glamour magazine.
Like Clare said.....its just personal preference.

 

[Johnny]

Laid Back

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

:withstupid: I gots to agree. If Im going out somewhere like say WalMart....I wear whatever IM comfortable in. I really dont care what everyone thinks of me when they see what Im wearing or that my hair is thrown back in a ponytail with no make-up on.
But now if Im going somewhere really nice......like say a formal dinner or to meet someone important.....I can make myself look like I just stepped out of a Glamour magazine.
Like Clare said.....its just personal preference.

im kind of the same way...it really depends on my mood. I don't put on makeup to GO to walmart, but most days in the mornings i will put on my makeup and do my hair and dress nice...and thats just how i stay the rest of the day. I don't know many people who would actually put on makeup and do their hair JUST to go to walmart...but I like to dress nice (yet still pretty casual, never wear dresses...just brown or black slacks or nice jeans with some heeled boots or something and a fitted t shirt or nice shirt). It's just nice to be ready for whatever may happen to you. You never know...would you want to look like crap if you ran into someone you went to HS with? Or what if you meet a prospective customer or employer or business contact of some sort? That kind of stuff happens to me all the time. First when i worked at the prescriptives makeup counter, then at the dress store...i mean you never know who you might meet, and whn you are in the business of trying to make other people look their best, you want to look yours as well.

 

[GuesSAngel]

the spendy dresser is going to be materialistic and high maintenance.

How much have you spent or looks like you spent on your vintage clothes that you dress nice in? Being Materialistic doesn't mean that you have to spend a lot of money.

Guys,

I am using James' post but wanted to clarify my question. This is Kathy. We were discussing why women do the whole trying to look good thing. As a single woman at 32 years old, been thru many relationships all with men wanting the same thing, sex, which don't get me wrong, I have a guys track of mind on this, sex is such a good thing. I am trying to figure out why I am having such a hard time meeting a good guy. One that is committed, responsible, family oriented, likes to have fun, makes me laugh & enjoys sex...you know the complete package. Do guys like this even exist? I am a very firm believer in good appearance. Appearance is the first thing that brings people together. If you like how someone looks that's where it starts, then of course it goes to personality. This being the most important part, making sure the two of you can get along and your personalities mix. I am one of those woman that focuses a lot on what I look like. I dress well, I do the whole hair & make-up thing, go tanning, really just try and feel sexy to myself all the time. Of course I do it for attention too, I'm looking for someone. My point to James was, is this causing me to attract the wrong guys? I feel good when I feel sexy or pretty. I feel it is me to be this way. I feel I look good, not in a bitchy way, cuz I am still your average next door neighbor as far as personality. James is telling me guys see the way I dress & look and instantly see high maintanance, a bitch, but that's not the way it is. The suggestions I have received were to not wear make-up or do my hair for a month. Wear sweats & a sweatshirt. I have stated in society now days, men are about what a woman looks like, in my opinion. Men, in my opinion, like beautiful, sexy women. Why wouldn't woman want to try and look good? I'm just trying to figure out how to get a good guy if you are an attractive person. Hope this isn't seeming like I am conceited, because I am not. I'm just speaking honestly because I am struggling with this one, it's even difficult to write out what I am trying to ask your opinion for. But, thanks for all your opinions!

If dressing the way you do makes you feel good about yourself that is 100xs more important than worrying about an asshole you might attract by being dressed nice. And if you're trying to attract a nice guy, a nice guys aren't going to judge you on how you dress or what you do with yourself, it's the assholes that will jump to those conclusions by how you are dress and not the person you are. And going without makeup or doing your hair?? You have to feel comfortable with yourself first and have confidence in the way you look b/4 someone else can see that same confidence in you. And don't worry...there are nice guys out there...I happened to marry one. And make sure the guy knows what he's doing in bed...b/c you're right SEX IS GREAT.

James- Are you saying that if I dress nice that I'll only be attacting assholes? That's the most ridicolus thing I have ever heard. I guess all those women who live in trailer parks and are beat up every night by their asshole boyfriends/husbands must be wearing prada dresses.

 

[Trance97]

I dress more high end

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

I guess all those women who live in trailer parks and are beat up every night by their asshole boyfriends/husbands must be wearing prada dresses.

:rofl2::rofl2::rofl2::24:wned:

 

[Bagel]

This is suuuuch a stereotype i think! I know PLENTY of chicks who don't take care of themselves and wear jeans and baggy t shirts every day who are the BIGGEST drama queens/girly girls around. And me...I'm pretty low maintenance, but I say I like to look nice when i leave the house. I think you people read way too much into what dressing nicely really means. It's just personal preference.

haha i said less likely ..
and hte question was going out on casual dates ..not trips to teh store by themselves lol

i am in no way trying to perpetutate a steryotype adn i probably shouldnt have even responded..

outside of the bias of the original question i could honestly care less how she dresses if she is a great person and a good freind and lover... jsut in my experiance every one of the girls ive met under that critereia has been the jeans girl ... so .. i speak only what i know.. if i'm wrong.. forgive my ignorance