Guys vote only please.

[TheOriginalJames]

So, if you read my latest thread I was talking about talking with Kathy earlier today. Well she posed me a question.

These are all hypothetical.

You have a very cute chic who likes you and wants to go out with you. She consistently wears clothes out that make her look good, but more comfortable than anything. You know, tennis shoes, socks, sweats/jeans and a simple tshirt, very little make up or jewelry, etc.

You have a very cute chic who likes you and wants to go out with you. She is a snappy dresser and always wears dress pants, higher end/more expensive clothing, a nice blouse, jewelry, makeup, the whole 9 yards.

What is your preference of women?

I'll tell you mine and why later on, but I want to see if there are more guys with my way of thinking than with the opposite way of thinking.

 

[CRZY72004]

Down to earth easy to get along with.

 

[alleycat]

the spendy dresser is going to be materialistic and high maintenance.

 

[TheOriginalJames]

We'll get into first impressions later on.

Edit: Girls please DO NOT VOTE in this poll. I need GUYS OPINIONS ONLY on this.

 

[CRZY72004]

the spendy dresser is going to be materialistic and high mainenance.

SO TRUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[alleycat]

I already voted. you should have said that before... silly boy

 

[TheOriginalJames]

I made it the title of the thread. :tongue:

 

[alleycat]

who reads that? i mean come on ! LOL

 

[BaggedSplash]

i voted laid back dresser. shes comfortable with who she is and how she looks and doesnt worry about trying to impress anybody. shes more down to earth and thats the type of girl im looking for.

 

[Boomer]

Laid back. I like someone who can just be themselves. Not always trying to get attention.

 

[sundvlfn88]

I prefer laid back myself.

 

[Peter Parka]

Laid back, looks like the laid backs are running away with this poll!

 

[TheOriginalJames]

Guys,

I am using James' post but wanted to clarify my question. This is Kathy. We were discussing why women do the whole trying to look good thing. As a single woman at 32 years old, been thru many relationships all with men wanting the same thing, sex, which don't get me wrong, I have a guys track of mind on this, sex is such a good thing. I am trying to figure out why I am having such a hard time meeting a good guy. One that is committed, responsible, family oriented, likes to have fun, makes me laugh & enjoys sex...you know the complete package. Do guys like this even exist? I am a very firm believer in good appearance. Appearance is the first thing that brings people together. If you like how someone looks that's where it starts, then of course it goes to personality. This being the most important part, making sure the two of you can get along and your personalities mix. I am one of those woman that focuses a lot on what I look like. I dress well, I do the whole hair & make-up thing, go tanning, really just try and feel sexy to myself all the time. Of course I do it for attention too, I'm looking for someone. My point to James was, is this causing me to attract the wrong guys? I feel good when I feel sexy or pretty. I feel it is me to be this way. I feel I look good, not in a bitchy way, cuz I am still your average next door neighbor as far as personality. James is telling me guys see the way I dress & look and instantly see high maintanance, a bitch, but that's not the way it is. The suggestions I have received were to not wear make-up or do my hair for a month. Wear sweats & a sweatshirt. I have stated in society now days, men are about what a woman looks like, in my opinion. Men, in my opinion, like beautiful, sexy women. Why wouldn't woman want to try and look good? I'm just trying to figure out how to get a good guy if you are an attractive person. Hope this isn't seeming like I am conceited, because I am not. I'm just speaking honestly because I am struggling with this one, it's even difficult to write out what I am trying to ask your opinion for. But, thanks for all your opinions!

 

[Peter Parka]

There's nothing wrong with trying to look good, I think it all comes down to keeping it in balance. I am turned off by women who spend like 3 hours preening themself before going out. Personality is more important to me and women who seem so preocupied with looking good tend to come across as rather shallow to me, I'm more interested in women who spend more time making their personality look good.

 

[Boomer]

Guys,

I am using James' post but wanted to clarify my question. This is Kathy. We were discussing why women do the whole trying to look good thing. As a single woman at 32 years old, been thru many relationships all with men wanting the same thing, sex, which don't get me wrong, I have a guys track of mind on this, sex is such a good thing. I am trying to figure out why I am having such a hard time meeting a good guy. One that is committed, responsible, family oriented, likes to have fun, makes me laugh & enjoys sex...you know the complete package. Do guys like this even exist? I am a very firm believer in good appearance. Appearance is the first thing that brings people together. If you like how someone looks that's where it starts, then of course it goes to personality. This being the most important part, making sure the two of you can get along and your personalities mix. I am one of those woman that focuses a lot on what I look like. I dress well, I do the whole hair & make-up thing, go tanning, really just try and feel sexy to myself all the time. Of course I do it for attention too, I'm looking for someone. My point to James was, is this causing me to attract the wrong guys? I feel good when I feel sexy or pretty. I feel it is me to be this way. I feel I look good, not in a bitchy way, cuz I am still your average next door neighbor as far as personality. James is telling me guys see the way I dress & look and instantly see high maintanance, a bitch, but that's not the way it is. The suggestions I have received were to not wear make-up or do my hair for a month. Wear sweats & a sweatshirt. I have stated in society now days, men are about what a woman looks like, in my opinion. Men, in my opinion, like beautiful, sexy women. Why wouldn't woman want to try and look good? I'm just trying to figure out how to get a good guy if you are an attractive person. Hope this isn't seeming like I am conceited, because I am not. I'm just speaking honestly because I am struggling with this one, it's even difficult to write out what I am trying to ask your opinion for. But, thanks for all your opinions!

Hey Kathy.....wanna cyber? *takes off his shirt*

 

[TheOriginalJames]

This is James:

haha no boomer, she don't wanna cyber with you... keep 'er on topic for me please?

 

[Boomer]

Oh. my bad...

I do think a chic looking good at certain occasions is good. I guess I want a girl that knows when to get spiffed up and when not too. Dont wear a 200 dollar outfit to a bar b q.

 

[TheOriginalJames]

It's all good Boomer! It made me laugh!!! I did LOL on the $200 outfit to a bar b q thing. Yeah, I'm not that bad! I know when to say when!!! Kathy

 

[quarterican]

So far, I'm apparently the only one who voted for the nice dresser.

It could just be that I'm incredibly shallow (which a lot of people probably agree is the case), but I personally feel that caring for your appearance is very important. It's definitely not the most important thing or anything, but I tend to gravitate towards women who are (how do I say thing well?) attractive, but complete "bitches". I'm a lot more likely to accept her opinion if she presents it well, and part of that presentation is how she looks. Or more accurately, I suppose, I'll probably take a lot more shit from a person who looks good doing it.

I feel this way about every gender, so I'm not being sexist or anything. I feel that appearance is definitely important. It's your first impression and all that.

EDIT: Oh, and time and place, too. You can still look good by dressing appropriate to the situation. I don't mean that everyone should wear Gucci all the time or anything like that.

 

[TheOriginalJames]

My problem with first impressions is that they can be dead on, or completely wrong. By the time a first impression is over, that's the impression that you're going to base every other future impression off of which is unfair sometimes.