Look, Dana, this day in age, it is perfectly acceptable to go to a club or bar with friends, or a friend, and not drink anything alcoholic. Many folks choose not to consume for various reasons. Some are alcoholics, others don't want to chance a brush with the law on their way home. O'Douls, Old Milwauke NA (non-alcoholic beer), and some others are there as well as the standard Coca Cola or Sprite. You won't get the strange looks from people that you might think you will. You have no idea how many folks out there do not touch a drop of alcohol, but, still enjoy their time out with friends. Stay on your plan. Go meet the lady, have a great time. Plus, if she overdoes it, she has a ride and doesn't need to worry about the law either. Besides, you just might impress her.
OTOH, you might be a bit concerned about how you'll appear to yourself. When people are under the influence, they (think) they sound smart, funny, all those things that make someone attractive to another person. Sober, they hear themselves say silly things and see themselves acting the fool. Is that what you're afraid of? Let me tell you this; Drinking or teetotalling, you will sound the same. However, sober, you stand a better chance of watching your mouth and not making a fool of yourself.
Go, have a good time, sober, and keep your hand off her leg!
