Fear of letting people in my life.

[Tazzy]

i dont know why but i have this fear of letting people in my life. im not very social with people i dont know. its not a shy thing i dont think. more like i dont have interest in talking to anyone. if someone trys to have a convo with me im very short with what i say and i nod my head a lot and in my head im saying "are you still talking. stop talking and get the fuck away from me"

i dont want to be like this and i was never like this when i was younger.

obviously this stops me from making new friends and having a girlfriend.

so i guess i have a fear of socializing with people and dont like people in my space all to much unless i know them already. like if im in a store and someones right behind me or near me, i get all paranoid and shit and just walk away with out what i need and curse them out under my breath.


what are yalls opinions on it and how do you think i can get over this. its kinda ruining my life.

and i put it in this section cause this problem i have stops me from having any relationships and new friendships.

Haus sweetie i think weve talk about this before havent we :dunno :dunno

 

[Haus]

did we??? i dont remember. this is a kind of recent thing.

 

[Tazzy]

well i remember talking to you about your weight loss and self esteem ........Dont you ???

 

[Haus]

yeah i remember talking about that. but this isnt a self esteem problem.

 

[hhayes]

either way haus, you shouldn't worry about anything, i don't know you personally, but from what i do know, your just awesome!

 

[BooFetus]

Re: RE: Fear of letting people in my life.

either way haus, you shouldn't worry about anything, i don't know you personally, but from what i do know, your just awesome!

Again, I must agree with somebody. You seem like an awesome guy. You even made it into our Sexy Men thread.

 

[Stardom22]

As a person you can't fail to have some few people that you can trust in your life.

 

[cherry123]

I have this problem also I find it difficult letting people into my life but I love to socialise. I think it is to create a balance and check out those we want to let into our lives

 

[Urvashi]

I completely understand that fear—it’s tough to be vulnerable. Opening up can feel risky, especially after past experiences. But I think it’s also where growth happens. It’s about trusting the right people and taking small steps to let others in, at your own pace.

 

[cherry123]

Struggling to let people into your life stem from various emotional, psychological, and social factors. you might not need Emotional Attachment or feel a sense of loyalty or love that makes it hard to let go.

 

[monaco66]

That's strange, because generally when people are like that they have a reason for being, but taking into account that you don't know and have no idea why, I honestly don't know what to advise you, but you're supposed to live your life the way you want. I don't understand how it's that you don't want to socialize but at the same time you do, decide whether you socialize or not! There's nothing more to it than that.

 

[Niyi Briggs]

People that grew up as loners always have this have this fear of letting people into their space. I used to be like that. But you have to understand that there is no one that can go through life as a loner. It starts with starting to find something to like about people around you.

 

[Nomad]

Well, I am also not very social and I easily do not mix up with people. But I think that should be ok as long as you are doing good. There is no need to collect too many people in your life

 

[Lolita]

I’ve felt that fear too, opening up feels risky. But I learned that trusting a few people gradually brings connection and support. It’s okay to protect yourself but letting others in can lead to meaningful relationships.

 

[Fidelia]

You must learn to imbibe good values. You have to study people and pick the ones that resonate with your kind of person. The ability to grow above hurts and fear is very important if you must make meaningful relationships.