Fear Of Death

[pinkporridge]

I dont so much fear dying. I fear other people dying. I got thinking about my grandparents all of them are still living and I was thinking that some of them may not be living that much longer and if they did die how will the other will react. Then I morbidly found my self thinking of what order they were likely to die and put them in an order that would be best ( this sounds awful I Obv don't want any of them to die) in terms of which spouse would be able to cope with the loss best. Eg on my mums side my grandfather is very independent. He can drive. He fixes things all the time. He's very smart. My gran is very dependent on him she can't read or write very well. She is very ditzy. She can't drive. I was thinking that if my gran died before my grandad he would be able to cope much better than my gran would if it were the other way round. Then I made my self depressed Nd I had to stop thinking so morbidly!

 

[Niamh]

The fact that it's unknown is a pretty good motivator for fear actually. If I knew what was going to happen either way, at least it'd lose some of it's uncertainty.

I'm the opposite actually, when I had my first child I wasn't afraid of labour because I didn't know what was coming, my second though.................

 

[Niamh]

I dont so much fear dying. I fear other people dying. I got thinking about my grandparents all of them are still living and I was thinking that some of them may not be living that much longer and if they did die how will the other will react. Then I morbidly found my self thinking of what order they were likely to die and put them in an order that would be best ( this sounds awful I Obv don't want any of them to die) in terms of which spouse would be able to cope with the loss best. Eg on my mums side my grandfather is very independent. He can drive. He fixes things all the time. He's very smart. My gran is very dependent on him she can't read or write very well. She is very ditzy. She can't drive. I was thinking that if my gran died before my grandad he would be able to cope much better than my gran would if it were the other way round. Then I made my self depressed Nd I had to stop thinking so morbidly!

I fear people close to me dying more than dying myself too. Because you're the one left with a big hole in your life when they go. Most likely when you die yourself, you're either not going to know about it or you have some great afterlife or whatever

 

[Uly5]

I lost my fear of death after watching my Mum pass away in Hospital from Emphysema. She was only 59 years old. I can't say that I lost my fear of death because mum had a peaceful passing...it wasn't.She struggled for 3 hours to fight for her life.

I can't explain why I have no more fear of death, before her passing I used to have really terrifying Visions of myself dying in that period when you lay down to go to sleep but before you actually fall asleep. I used to have a real fear of walking in my house at night with the lights off or outside my house at night...even if other people were around. That just disappeared after mum's passing. I can now walk anywhere no matter how dark and secluded it is and I don't get the scary death visions before falling asleep anymore.

I am a bit worried about suffering for 3 or more hours like mum did as my lungs aren't in really good shape, due to being a lifelong asthma suffer. My passing with likely be due to lung failure too

Other than that I have no worries about passing.

Uly

 

[Joe the meek]

Life is an adventure, why shouldn't death be as well?

I'd be lying if I said I didn't have any fear over death. In my mind, it's kind of like kayaking over a waterfall. Don't get me wrong, fear can be a good thing as it can teach respect, but you never want it to become paralyzing, because if it does, you're only going to put yourself in trouble.

I should correct myself, the one fear I do have of dying is putting myself in a situation where I do something really stupid and either put myself or others in danger and death.

Kind of like how these idiots went out (sorry, anyway you cut it, they had no clue what they were getting themselves into)

http://articles.sfgate.com/2011-07-21/news/29797442_1_vernal-fall-merced-river-mist-trail