fair or not...

[Kat]

ok so I know my bf works about 50 hours sometimes more a week...usually mon & tues mornings...wed. off...thurs fri & sat nights...sun. off... I'm gonna ask him though either wednesday or thursday morning if he can be the one to get up with the baby she wakes up at 6am everyday...but even though hes the one who works...I do in my own way too...isnt it only fair that I should get one day to sleep in....I cant even remember thew last time I got to do that

 

[Kat]

especially since on the days he works nights...he usually sleeps till at least 12pm

 

[AUDRAA]

Heres what Im going to suggest Kat, because Ive been through this, and Im sure if hes anything like Aaron was hes going to look at you like you have 25 heads when you ask him. Tell him if he will do that for you, so you can sleep in, that you will let him take a nap when you get up, that usually goes over pretty well. But you have to make him promise that he cant wake you up, and he has to let you sleep until you wake up. He cant bring her in when he thinks that you have slept long enough, or the deal is off. Good luck hun!

 

[Kat]

thanks for the advice hun...im gonna try that def. i think youre right it would work better that way

 

[Tim]

Getting up early with the baby is womens work. You should let him sleep as late as he wants and keep the noise level down so you don't disturb him.
















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I'de go with what Audra said... she's spot on

 

[AUDRAA]

Damn I rock!!!

 

[Kat]

oh tim...lmao...i was like wha!!! omg he really said that...then scrolled down to respond...lol...caught the jk silly

I dont think thats fair one bit, but thats my opinion.
If you want the man to be the bread winner like the 1950s, then you better be prepared to be Beaver Cleavers mom.

and ali...whatever...your opinion...i bust my ass as hard as he does...taking care of her cleaning the house...running to the store to get him beer cigs...every little thing....i guess i shouldnt have said fair or not for the title...I may not have a job job...but I do my part...it wasnt my choice to stay home...i wanted to go back to work after a few months...but now even though im happy about staying home...still i work hard...its not like im asking him for a whole day

 

[Tim]

As a father of 2 myself, I can say that just because I was the only one working at the time, it didn't remove my responsibility as a father and a good husband.


*this was my previous marraige*

 

[Bagel]

i hafta agree with audra thats why riley stays with me on the weekends so crystal can get a break

 

[AUDRAA]

woah woah girls, Ali until you have one of your own and know the daily stuff you have to deal with lets not dis on Kat.

 

[Kat]

you asked for my opinion and I gave it to you. If you don't want to hear someone disagree, dont ask.
All those things you list, every good mom does... not just stay at home moms.

I wasnt saying i didnt want your opinion...you are right your allowed to have a different opinion... but those things i list...cleaning up after him, his socks, his dishes, his trash, his beer cans... going to the store when i dont feel like it for his stuff...cause he didnt feel like stopping on the way home...theres more to it than that...but no that is not whats required to be a good mom...even without doing those things i am still agreat mom...but even moms deserve a chance to sleep in when they have the dads there...wheather they work or not is a moot point imo

lets just agree to disagree

 

[Darkstar]

given, the definition of parasite is appropriate, but the conotation of the word is negative, and I dont think of children that way.

 

[AUDRAA]

well put Crys I might not have done it so nicely

 

[Kat]

I wont ever have one of my own because I physically cant, thanks very much. I also choose to have a career and to be independent instead of feeding parasitic humans.

watch everyone get defensive over this one... LOL
look up the definition of a parasite before you flame.

first off no one was trying to rub in that you cant...

second off:

[SIZE=-1]define parasite: an animal or plant that lives in or on a host (another animal or plant); it obtains nourishment from the host without benefiting or killing the host

ok I was just realizing who you meant as a parasite...and in no way shape or form are children that...the joy she brings to my life everyday makes her a benefit...every time i think about her before doing something stupid MAKES her a benefit...the smile she brings to my bf after his dad just died MAKES her a benfit

ok sorry maybe im being overly sensitive...but im not in the fucking mood for this:mad


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[Kat]

I have time enough later for a career...i could have one now...she is not a inconveinence to me or my life...she makes it fuller

 

[Peter Parka]

Personally I'm disapointed he hasn't already offered but maybe my standards are too high. I don't think its at all unreasonable to let you have at least one lie in a week.

 

[Ms_Kitty]

As a mother of four and stepmother to two; I really can't walk away from this one....

First off, Audra was right on with asking for one day to yourself and to catch up on some sleep

Second, as I said I'm a mother of six (more or less) and I believe that I have managed to have it all.......I have a very lucrative career in finance, raise my children to be the best they can be and take care of my household; so referring to children as if they hold you back or calling them "parasites" is just ridiculous. I feel for you that you physically can't have any, but with that said, your opinion about something that you have absolutely no clue about really pissed me off, you make it sound like being a mom prevents you from having a life, I see it as....before my kids my life had no meaning, you are a prime example of my favorite saying "Everything happens for a reason!"

 

[Mrs Behavin]

As a mother of four and stepmother to two; I really can't walk away from this one....

First off, Audra was right on with asking for one day to yourself and to catch up on some sleep

Second, as I said I'm a mother of six (more or less) and I believe that I have managed to have it all.......I have a very lucrative career in finance, raise my children to be the best they can be and take care of my household; so referring to children as if they hold you back or calling them "parasites" is just ridiculous. I feel for you that you physically can't have any, but with that said, your opinion about something that you have absolutely no clue about really pissed me off, you make it sound like being a mom prevents you from having a life, I see it as....before my kids my life had no meaning, you are a prime example of my favorite saying "Everything happens for a reason!"

Ditto!

Kat....I would just politely mention it to him that one day you would loooove to sleep in and catch up on some much needed rest. I bet if you put it nicely, that he would be more than willing to help out. He may just not realize how you are feeling. I know, cause my husband was the same way.
He is MUCH better now. I work nights, he works days. I work every other weekend. And when its my weekend to work, he will take the kids out of the house during the day just so I can sleep. I appreciate that sooo much.
Being a mom is a full time job with no lunch breaks, no pay raises, etc. Its a never ending job that you dont get to go home to at the end of the day.
I dont think you asking him for 1 day to sleep in is not asking much at all. I think you should go for it. I bet you would feel so revived and feel like a new person.

 

[nyslick13]

He does work nights, so he does need sleep. Night jobs suck, its hard work. But ONE day a week is perfectly resonable in my eyes.

 

[lemon]

technically, as the child/fetus is growing inside the mother, it fits the definition of a parasite.

once born, however, it just becomes a chore.

j/k. one day of seven is not an unreasonable request.