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Given that I don't have any miniature people as of yet, I can only go by the examples of friends and family who do. I do know from what I've seen every family is different in the way they apportion resposibilities i.e between work, children, housework etc...each one has their individual compromises and having said all that (rambled) I don't see why asking for a morning to sleep in would be too much to request. From what i could understand he has two days off a week...one day he can do his thing, the other you do yours. However, as I said I don't have pigmy people, so I know nothing. ;p
 
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He needs to sleep whether he works days or nights. But then again, so does she. Raising a child is the most physically, mentally, and emotionally draining job there is. When all three of mine were born I readily helped out. I woke my ass up every two hours to fix a bottle of formula to feed my little parasites. I did that for two reasons. First was because the momma had just forced these melons sized tots out of her cooch... not an easy task I should think... and she needed to recuperate. And second because I wanted to bond with them too. So no Kat, I don't think it's unfair for you to ask him to help with the baby. He didn't complain when he was helping to make the child did he?
 
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White2000GT said:
He needs to sleep whether he works days or nights. But then again, so does she. Raising a child is the most physically, mentally, and emotionally draining job there is. When all three of mine were born I readily helped out. I woke my ass up every two hours to fix a bottle of formula to feed my little parasites. I did that for two reasons. First was because the momma had just forced these melons sized tots out of her cooch... not an easy task I should think... and she needed to recuperate. And second because I wanted to bond with them too. So no Kat, I don't think it's unfair for you to ask him to help with the baby. He didn't complain when he was helping to make the child did he?
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thank you all for your responses...and hey white ...you teaching classes? you make great points :D


seriously at the begining he couldnt wake up and feed her...that was solely on me...then he just got used to it...every once on awhile hes still awake to feed her when she gets up between 1 and 3 am (since days he works nights he doesnt get home till 1am) so He does have his moments...but nothing on a reg. basis which i need. Especially since some days i go crazy trying to keep her quiet so he can sleep.

I dont think he'll have a problem with this as long as I put it to him a good way. I think audra had the right idea there...i can even take her out of the house once i wake up to give him time alone even if he cant sleep...at least he gets a little space that way
 
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Kat your Right to ask him.. Raising a Child is BOTH parents responsibility.. hard times and good times.


But better yet.. I wouldnt Ask.. I would Just Tell Him...lmao, Ok maybe asking would get better results.
 
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It's important to have both parents take it in turns, or at least for the father to take some of the weight off the mother, definately.

Don't ever feel bad asking him.

By the way, how were things when he got back from the funeral?

can't find all the old threads on here.

Take care.

Ria.
 
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