Emotional Connection or Physical Attraction?

[FreightTrain]

Not everybody's choice in physical attraction is for the stereotypical Ken and Barbie.

Just because someone goes for what they are attracted to physically, first, doesn't mean they or the person they are attracted to lack intelligence, manners, humor, personality, emotion, substance, etc.

True, but I'm basing it on personal experience and the experiences of my brothers. Maybe they are drawn to dippy girls. I don't know. These are just my observations. It's not just that they are skinny. They are the types that are into the latest fashion and always looking their best. Surely, there are women who are fit and have college degrees, too. My post was about what I've noticed over the years.

 

[sexysadie]

True, but I'm basing it on personal experience and the experiences of my brothers. Maybe they are drawn to dippy girls. I don't know. These are just my observations. It's not just that they are skinny. They are the types that are into the latest fashion and always looking their best. Surely, there are women who are fit and have college degrees, too. My post was about what I've noticed over the years.

Thank you for recognizing:willy_nilly:

 

[FreightTrain]

This is how I see it..

More times than none, people are attracted to something about the physical aspect of a person's body - physical is what catches your eye... Some people like red heads, some people like blue eyes, some people like curly hair, some people are attracted to thin lips, some people are attracted to fuller-figured men / women, others attracted to thinner statures, etc. etc. I could go on and on and on, but I think you get my point? IT IS about what we are attracted to / prefer visually; your immidiate, physical attraction to each other sparks a desire to want to get to know the person on an emotional, mental and (in most cases) sexual level.

Also true. Virtually noone is in a relationship with someone that appeals to him or her in no way whatsoever. Everyone has different tastes/preferences. There has to be a physical attraction for a relationship to be successful. There also needs to be an emotional connection. This is why so many answered: both. Ideally, in a relationship you're looking for both. Otherwise it's doomed for failure.

 

[purpledove]

I have always believed in following my heart for some odd reason. I just feel that connecting with someone emotionally is a bit more real than physically. I suppose that is what true love is in a sense. To able to love someone no matter what they may look like, but just for who they are as a person. I just feel more comfortable with the emotional part more because it gives me more of a sense on where we stand in a relationship. Are we loving each other for our looks or for what is in our hearts? I would like to believe that true beautiful lies within our own hearts. That is just me though. I am sure it is different for others here.

:homo: 100 %

To the people who picked either physical or both, do you plan on dumping your partner when they get old and ugly?

:homo: 100%

I like people who can be themselves no matter who else is around........not an easy task for some, sad but true.

:homo: 100%

Very true. It is ashame that people tend to try and be something that they are not these days even more so.

I agree :nod: This is one of my biggest turn offs. Pretending to be what one is not. :ninja



MY STAND: Both are equally important to me initially. However, once i get to know the person more- emotional connection gets to play a larger role as I look beyond one's physical attributes or flaws as no one is perfect. Which reminds me of an advice given to me by a couple in their mid 60's still so much in love with each other and have celebrated their 30+ years of being married. They both agree that communication, understanding, emotional connection, respect surpassed by one's physical attributes doesn't fade as that's the only thing you can cherish and hold on to when both are old, wrinkly and kids are grown and they reiterated that beauty fades......

 

[MegaMike]

I think you need both of them to keep a happy relationship, really. If all you have with your partner is a physical attraction, it's fun for a little while but it literally gets BORING as time passes by, you gradually become less and less attracted to who your with if only for your physical attraction to them, because while they may look very desireable, it starts to feel normal for you after a while, right? Once everything loses that sense of excitement you realise you aren't satisfied so you feel like you need to move on, because you only have a physical attraction. You can't really love the person your with if all you feel for them is a physical attraction. If you only have emotional attatchments to the other person than they become a close friend, as stated earlier in the thread. Romantic moments would probably feel a little awkward at that point, you may love this person, but you may not be " in love " with this person. If you connect both ways than you can be really happy, they look good to you and eventually there could be love, happiness. This is just how I look at these things =P My opinions xD

Personally I lean more towards the emotional side than the physical, but I know I need both to be happy.

Generally I'll go for a girl that I can talk with before I'll go after the girl I think looks great.

As long as who I'm with takes care of themselves, and I think they're interesting, I'll be with them for a long, long time lol. It doesn't take much to make me happy =P

 

[Niamh]

To the people who picked either physical or both, do you plan on dumping your partner when they get old and ugly?

If someone picked just physical then I guess the question makes sense but I think both are important, and that doesn't mean that attraction doesn't change over time. If no one found older people sexy, widows would never get remarried

I mean, when I was 14 I thought 14 year old boys were the shit! They were sooo hawt.... now that I'm ten years older, I don't get it at all. So the chances are when me and my boyfriend are in our fifties, I'll be looking at guys in their twenties wondering why I ever thought such children were sexy

We think 'old' isn't attractive when we're young, but old people must have a different opinion on that or no one would ever find love after divorce or death.

To be physically attractive to another individual, doesn' t necessarily mean they have to all be tall dark and handsome...let alone young. We're all different in that respect, don't you agree? I mean....I wouldn't necessarily be attracted to, physically, the same men that my sister is physically attracted to or visa versa. You may not understand why your best friend finds his new girlfriend physically attractive when you don't. If you love somebody, and HAVE loved them both physically and emotionally for a long time, then it only stands to reason that as long as the love holds out, so will the physical attraction. Couples in their 60's, 70's 80's and even 90's still find one another irresistible...it's all in the eye of the beholder. IMO...a person who you feel an emotional attachment to but doesn't spark something in you physically and sexually....is called a friend.

I was going to type out a reply to Peters post but HK and Sadie pretty much said what I want to! so :homo:s