Emotional Connection or Physical Attraction?

[Dana]

To the people who picked either physical or both, do you plan on dumping your partner when they get old and ugly?

yes of course!

 

[sexysadie]

To the people who picked either physical or both, do you plan on dumping your partner when they get old and ugly?

To be physically attractive to another individual, doesn' t necessarily mean they have to all be tall dark and handsome...let alone young. We're all different in that respect, don't you agree? I mean....I wouldn't necessarily be attracted to, physically, the same men that my sister is physically attracted to or visa versa. You may not understand why your best friend finds his new girlfriend physically attractive when you don't. If you love somebody, and HAVE loved them both physically and emotionally for a long time, then it only stands to reason that as long as the love holds out, so will the physical attraction. Couples in their 60's, 70's 80's and even 90's still find one another irresistible...it's all in the eye of the beholder. IMO...a person who you feel an emotional attachment to but doesn't spark something in you physically and sexually....is called a friend.

 

[Dame of Fail]

To the people who picked either physical or both, do you plan on dumping your partner when they get old and ugly?

Absolutely!:thumbup



No, why would I? I'm not shallow person.

I love everything about my husband - inside and out - that is why I settled down and began a family with him and I don't see that ever changing. . .(unless he cheated on me, of course).

 

[Dame of Fail]

To be physically attractive to another individual, doesn' t necessarily mean they have to all be tall dark and handsome...let alone young. We're all different in that respect, don't you agree? I mean....I wouldn't necessarily be attracted to, physically, the same men that my sister is physically attracted to or visa versa. You may not understand why your best friend finds his new girlfriend physically attractive when you don't. If you love somebody, and HAVE loved them both physically and emotionally for a long time, then it only stands to reason that as long as the love holds out, so will the physical attraction. Couples in their 60's, 70's 80's and even 90's still find one another irresistible...it's all in the eye of the beholder. IMO...a person who you feel an emotional attachment to but doesn't spark something in you physically and sexually....is called a friend.

Perfect.

 

[JoeCool10]

Physical attraction is great, especially when it comes to knocking boots. But if I can't connect with that person on an intellectual and emotional level, then I no longer care about how good looking he is or even if he has an enormous schwanzstucker.

 

[sexysadie]

Physical attraction is great, especially when it comes to knocking boots. But if I can't connect with that person on an intellectual and emotional level, then I no longer care about how good looking he is or even if he has an enormous schwanzstucker.

Exactly, that's why you need both

 

[sexysadie]

Perfect.

Thank you

 

[JoeCool10]

Exactly, that's why you need both

Right :thumbup

 

[FreightTrain]

I was wondering you're opinions/thoughts/feelings about the importance of physical attraction versus an emotional connection. While I know that physical attraction is important on some level (sometimes on ALL levels), could you completely write off someone that you had an extraordinary emotional connection with, but wasn't physically attracted to? Would that prohibit you in wanting to pursue a relationship with them?

I know that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder & honestly, I would rather connect with someone on an emotional/mental level than focus on whether or not they're hott. Some of the most attractive guys have been the most cockiest, self-absorbed, & the most shallow (Not all, some). Personally, I prefer intellectual conversation & connection more than concentrating on their physical appearance, but that's just me.

Which is the most important to you?

Wow, somebody dug up an old thread. I have 3 brothers and we all date different types. What, I've noticed through personal experience and their experiences is when you look for your physical ideal, you end up disappointed. A couple of them only date twiggy, athletic types. These women always end up to be emotionally unstable, conceited, and not too bright. Their main concerns are the latest fashion, how much they weigh, what kind of jewelry they want, what others think about them, and other trivial bullshit. I'm generally attracted to brains and personality first. Looks come second. Everybody is going to gain weight over the years and start getting wrinkles, but self-centered people don't ever stop being self-centered. I want to be happy and calling a mindless model-type my girlfriend or wife would drive me to insanity. That's not my idea of happiness.

 

[sexysadie]

Wow, somebody dug up an old thread. I have 3 brothers and we all date different types. What, I've noticed through personal experience and their experiences is when you look for your physical ideal, you end up disappointed. A couple of them only date twiggy, athletic types. These women always end up to be emotionally unstable, conceited, and not too bright. Their main concerns are the latest fashion, how much they weigh, what kind of jewelry they want, what others think about them, and other trivial bullshit. I'm generally attracted to brains and personality first. Looks come second. Everybody is going to gain weight over the years and start getting wrinkles, but self-centered people don't ever stop being self-centered. I want to be happy and calling a mindless model-type my girlfriend or wife would drive me to insanity. That's not my idea of happiness.

Some athletic types have brains and personality too....lmao.

 

[sexysadie]

PS...I liked the 'Twilight' series...(blush)

 

[Dame of Fail]

Wow, somebody dug up an old thread. I have 3 brothers and we all date different types. What, I've noticed through personal experience and their experiences is when you look for your physical ideal, you end up disappointed. A couple of them only date twiggy, athletic types. These women always end up to be emotionally unstable, conceited, and not too bright. Their main concerns are the latest fashion, how much they weigh, what kind of jewelry they want, what others think about them, and other trivial bullshit. I'm generally attracted to brains and personality first. Looks come second. Everybody is going to gain weight over the years and start getting wrinkles, but self-centered people don't ever stop being self-centered. I want to be happy and calling a mindless model-type my girlfriend or wife would drive me to insanity. That's not my idea of happiness.

Not everybody's choice in physical attraction is for the stereotypical Ken and Barbie.

Just because someone goes for what they are attracted to physically, first, doesn't mean they or the person they are attracted to lack intelligence, manners, humor, personality, emotion, substance, etc.

 

[Xeno]

In life one can seek beauty over heart though one must realize that beauty fades while the heart remains true at times. So it is better to have ventured through life knowing that the love you shared was more then sheer physicality. Just my own thoughts as usual.

 

[Dame of Fail]

This is how I see it..

More times than none, people are attracted to something about the physical aspect of a person's body - physical is what catches your eye... Some people like red heads, some people like blue eyes, some people like curly hair, some people are attracted to thin lips, some people are attracted to fuller-figured men / women, others attracted to thinner statures, etc. etc. I could go on and on and on, but I think you get my point? IT IS about what we are attracted to / prefer visually; your immidiate, physical attraction to each other sparks a desire to want to get to know the person on an emotional, mental and (in most cases) sexual level.

 

[KimmyCharmeleon]

I like geeks

 

[Xeno]

I tend to like people who are more open minded to the world in a sense.

 

[sexysadie]

I tend to like people who are more open minded to the world in a sense.

I like people who can be themselves no matter who else is around........not an easy task for some, sad but true.

 

[Xeno]

I like people who can be themselves no matter who else is around........not an easy task for some, sad but true.

Very true. It is ashame that people tend to try and be something that they are not these days even more so.

 

[sexysadie]

Very true. It is ashame that people tend to try and be something that they are not these days even more so.

Yeperdoodle!

 

[sexysadie]

Very true. It is ashame that people tend to try and be something that they are not these days even more so.

Yepperdoodle!