Doesn't matter to me, hit away, it's within parental rights.
I don't like physical punishment, looks tacky, and I get the sense it leads to problems when used often. I reserve the right to quietly judge :24:
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Doesn't matter to me, hit away, it's within parental rights.
I don't like physical punishment, looks tacky, and I get the sense it leads to problems when used often. I reserve the right to quietly judge :24:
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I do think it's the sort of thing that should be a last resort rather than an immediate go-to.
And I do acknowledge every kid is different, one thing just can't work for every child.
I've seen parents smack at a kid and it be less disturbing than the way I've seen parents talk to their kids :eek, so it's case by case.
I'm just being honest and admitting I think it's trashy :\
My dad is also pretty permanently damaged for being hit as punishment (she would whack the shit out of him for embarrassing her doing normal kid stuff), so I was raised to see it as a loss of parental control. Just my perspective.
Beat them often I always say. Any parent that let's their teenage daughter berate them in public and doesn't slap the dog shit out of their mouth on the spot is a fool for thinking they can be a "friend" to their child. You are the parent. Time for friendship comes when they are in their 20s and realize they don't know shit.
I swear, if I saw a parent slap their daughter after she just cussed at them or talked back I'd probably clap and cheer.
I swear, if I saw a parent slap their daughter after she just cussed at them or talked back I'd probably clap and cheer.
Or how about not letting your child turn into a raving cuntwad teenager by teaching her how to act right from the start?
Seriously? It's one thing to give a toddler who's having a tantrum in the supermarket a slap but slapping a teenager? That's very very wrong imo.
I agree with this, mostly.
I can't stand these mothers that would rather be a friend than a role model. A child needs boundaries and if the parent isn't going to enforce them...however they see fit...the kid is going to push the envelope to a point that the parent has lost all credibility and is screwed.
WOW seriously... So if we go by YOUR OWN example and follow this lead, the next time you swear in public any Huge Mother fucker should come over and just bash in your face ?
I mean after all my well behaved kids really don't need to hear your swearing and bad behavior and we really should lead by example..
Have you raised one yet? My guess is no. Sure, I resorted to other means, cutting them off socially from their friends is the best medicine, but I'm just saying, a slap every now and then never hurt anyone.
Really? See, slapping a toddler does nothing, but slapping a teen will prevent that teen from back talking or cursing out that parent.
I don't want to quote the whole image but that green board that portrays discipline and punishment - when did those two become mutually exclusive?
I would think of discipline as sometimes including punishment. Ideally yes, your kids will always respond to logical and calm requests, but they're children. They WILL act out sometimes, that's just what they do. They press against the boundaries to see exactly where they are, which is why if you give them an inch they will take advantage.
Also, I just can't sit with the idea that kids will always respond well to requests for them to examine their own decisions. Maybe that works for older children - I can imagine telling an eight year old that they'll be tired if they don't go to bed, so off they go please. But for a toddler, I can't imagine them having a grasp on life that includes 'if I don't go to bed now, I'll be tired'. Are they capable of making that sort of leap? I feel like it's unlikely.
Sometimes, a child needs to be told, not asked. Parents are there to teach their kids about the world and show them what's acceptable, and give them boundaries. If you make everything into 'please do this' rather than 'do this now' then they're going to have an inflated sense of control and power. Ultimately, I think that's worse than the occasional smack. Kids aren't smart enough to make their own decisions, that's why parents make them for them.
I would think of discipline as sometimes including punishment. Ideally yes, your kids will always respond to logical and calm requests, but they're children. They WILL act out sometimes, that's just what they do. They press against the boundaries to see exactly where they are, which is why if you give them an inch they will take advantage.
Also, I just can't sit with the idea that kids will always respond well to requests for them to examine their own decisions. Maybe that works for older children - I can imagine telling an eight year old that they'll be tired if they don't go to bed, so off they go please. But for a toddler, I can't imagine them having a grasp on life that includes 'if I don't go to bed now, I'll be tired'. Are they capable of making that sort of leap? I feel like it's unlikely.
Sometimes, a child needs to be told, not asked. Parents are there to teach their kids about the world and show them what's acceptable, and give them boundaries. If you make everything into 'please do this' rather than 'do this now' then they're going to have an inflated sense of control and power. Ultimately, I think that's worse than the occasional smack. Kids aren't smart enough to make their own decisions, that's why parents make them for them.
Well, actually I don't agree with slapping toddlers either but from what I gather people do it to give them a fright more than actually hurt them. I would imagine if you're going to hit a teenager, you'd have to be wanting to inflict pain to get any "result". To be blunt, that's fucking disgusting behaviour imo
:24: NEVER?
That post was two stripper midgets and a transvestite McDonald's employee away from a Jerry Springer episode.
Just like everything in life, a middle ground can be reached. Somewhere between babying and public smacking, I'd guess. Plenty of people raise respectful, useful teenagers that don't require being beaten often. I think parenting is a skill, and I commend parents who have it. It can't be easy.
Wrong, you don't hit a teenager to inflict pain. A quick pop in the mouth in public will embarrass the hell out of them and will let them know you aren't going to put up with their mouth no matter the setting. Come on, I didn't say beat your teen.
:24: NEVER?
That post was two stripper midgets and a transvestite McDonald's employee away from a Jerry Springer episode.
Just like everything in life, a middle ground can be reached. Somewhere between babying and public smacking, I'd guess. Plenty of people raise respectful, useful teenagers that don't require being beaten often. I think parenting is a skill, and I commend parents who have it. It can't be easy.
Exactly, this notion that people who don't hit their kids must have spoilt, disrespectful brats is ridiculous.
:24: NEVER?
That post was two stripper midgets and a transvestite McDonald's employee away from a Jerry Springer episode.
Just like everything in life, a middle ground can be reached. Somewhere between babying and public smacking, I'd guess. Plenty of people raise respectful, useful teenagers that don't require being beaten often. I think parenting is a skill, and I commend parents who have it. It can't be easy.
Like I said, cutting them off from their friends (cell phone, internet) is the best treatment plan. The problem is, most parents say, well if I take away their phone, how will I keep up with them? I don't know, the same way your parents did when there was no fucking cell phones? Stupid logic annoys me. Anyway, parenting is a skill and as such, it can be learned and developed. We aren't born with the ability to parent, this is learned.
Sure, there's always 1 out of 100 of everything. You don't get out much I take it.
That's what it sounded like. Either way I think "popping" anyone in the mouth to show them how to be respectful is pretty ironic if you ask me.
I get out plenty thanks very much
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