Dilemma

[Leah Love]

I started Uni. this October. It’s a great experience and I have already met a bunch of guys a couple that I even like LoL

One of those guys, one that I have already known, since we went to high school together, asked me out - I declined. He’s… he’s an idiot to put it nicely, who whines all the time to gain the sympathy of others so he can get through life easier. He had tried to gain my sympathy too but I become wary of him when he told me that he has anger management issues and sometimes it is hard for him to repress the urge to punch something… or someone…

He had known my mobile phone number since a while and had sent me a couple 100 text messages since he had it, to what I rarely bothered replying. Now after I rejected his pursuing attempt he has started insulting me in text messages. -sigh-

Originally we tow live in different towns but my university and his college are in the same town and not that much farther, around 20-30 away form each other. I live just 1 street away form the Uni. building.

I don’t think he knows where I live, but it wouldn’t take long for him to find out if he really wanted to.

 

[The Joker]

Quickly get a BF that will protect you?

Call the police?

Talk with him about it? Nicely..?

 

[wednesday]

What a prat!

Firstly this is a typical example of the male ego being hurt!! You have rebuffed him so he has to hate instead!*rolls eyes*

I suggest you keep all texts from this juvenile idiot and take them directly to the police..this is a form of harassment.

 

[Leah Love]

Quickly get a BF that will protect you?

Call the police?

Talk with him about it? Nicely..?

LoL I have a man who would gladly protect me but he is out of country so that’s kind of tricky. But I was thinking about asking someone to be my bodyguard…

The police is not an option, he didn’t do much… yet.

And I tried to tell him nicely. He just asks “why?” or “why not?”

 

[Leah Love]

What a prat!

Firstly this is a typical example of the male ego being hurt!! You have rebuffed him so he has to hate instead!*rolls eyes*

I suggest you keep all texts from this juvenile idiot and take them directly to the police..this is a form of harassment.

Gosh. It’s the first time I am experiencing something like this.

I hope it doesn’t get out of hand.

 

[The Joker]

In that case, if it gets out of hand. Buy a handgun 8D

 

[Leah Love]

In that case, if it gets out of hand. Buy a handgun 8D

Wow, that’s some advice.:willy_nilly:

 

[The Joker]

Indeed

I'm joking lol.

But, I think you need to talk to him, spoonfeed him shit about how he's really nice, and any girl would be lucky to have him. but either you already have someone or he's just not right for you

 

[Leah Love]

Indeed

I'm joking lol.

But, I think you need to talk to him, spoonfeed him shit about how he's really nice, and any girl would be lucky to have him. but either you already have someone or he's just not right for you

Eh, it’s kind of both. I have my heart set on someone else, and he really, really is not someone for me.

My best friend said that he is like a stray dog. I once fed him some sympathy and now he runs after me all the time.

He didn’t even have a girlfriend before. You can’t imagine how much he wines about the fact. Then in one text message he said he doesn’t want a long-term girlfriend, he just wants to know how it is if he has one. For me that sounds like he’s only out for a lay. And I’m definitely not that type of girl.

 

[The Joker]

Well, you don't HAVE to tell him the truth, just tell him shit, hopefully he'll fuck off

 

[Leah Love]

Well, you don't HAVE to tell him the truth, just tell him shit, hopefully he'll fuck off

I talked to one of the guys who know him since years. He told me that I should ignore his text messages and calls because if I respond, no matter what the response is, he will see that as an encouragement.

 

[The Joker]

Well, do so

 

[Mystic]

I talked to one of the guys who know him since years. He told me that I should ignore his text messages and calls because if I respond, no matter what the response is, he will see that as an encouragement.

:thumbup:nod:best advice, next to letting the police know if it gets worse.

I can't even count on my fingers how many times I had the same kind of issue like you have, back when I was going into and during my college years....its because we are too polite. in stead of telling these freaks to fuck off as soon as we feel it in our gut that they are morons, we keep acknowledging them and thats enough for some of these mentally dependent fools to think they some how have a chance with us....so don't be nice to him, tell him point blank to stop contacting you and to fuck off. If he sends you anything, talks to you anything what so ever, call the police and show them that you have told him to stop. Its a form of stalking and its a mental problem and against the law.

 

[Leah Love]

You are right, I should have blown him off when he started his pursuing. I really am just too darn nice.

I’m still ignoring him but the latest text message just arrived. He is apologizing for insulting me. I bet he’s only out to get a response from me. He wanted to “start over” 2 days ago too, then when I didn’t responded he started with the insults and not he wants’ a fresh start again.

I always show my Mom the messages and she’s the same opinion as I.

 

[Mystic]

theres your chance then... with this last apology of his tell him...." I accept your apology as long as you leave me alone and don't send me any more texts and don't try to contact me again. "...thats what I'd do.

 

[Mystic]

hey heres an idea... can't you like have his number blocked from your cell? then he can't message you?

 

[Leah Love]

I though of blocking him but I don’t think I can do that.

Anyway, I will ignore him further. He’ll have to give up sooner or later. And if we happen to meet then I’ll give him the cold shoulder.

I don't want any kind of contact with him at all.

 

[Mystic]

I don't understand why you want to ignore him and you say you don't want contact with him yet you won't block him??? That doesn't make sense to me.

 

[Leah Love]

I don't understand why you want to ignore him and you say you don't want contact with him yet you won't block him??? That doesn't make sense to me.

It’s not that I don’t want to, it’s that I can’t. My mobile doesn’t have that option.

 

[AUDRAA]

I say ignore him too dont reply back or take his calls at all it will take awhile but he will give up eventually