calling all parents male and female

[Staci]

for those of us that have children i have a very serious question.

do you ever feel jealous of your own children and the time and attention that is shown to them versus you.

 

[jassilem]

Not usually. There are times when I would like to have something be about me but usually I am pretty ok about it for the most part.

 

[AUFred]

Of course I did. My kids had so much better a childhood than I did. My wife and I often had nothing left for each other when the kids were young.

 

[Staci]

i know a guy that literally gets jealous because she will hug and kiss the girls to get them up and ready and when they do get to kiss the kids come and push them apart. now he has also pushed the kids away while he was kissing her.

 

[Staci]

Of course I did. My kids had so much better a childhood than I did. My wife and I often had nothing left for each other when the kids were young.

so i take it that its gets better as we go?

 

[jassilem]

i know a guy that literally gets jealous because she will hug and kiss the girls to get them up and ready and when they do get to kiss the kids come and push them apart. now he has also pushed the kids away while he was kissing her.

I know someone who is like that too.

 

[AUFred]

Being an empty-nester is awesome

 

[Panacea]

This seems like something that could happen pretty easily. It seems maybe one parent usually wants/enjoys kids more than the other at least a little, so I can imagine that plays into it. They're all gung-ho about parenthood and showering the children with attention and you're more on the fence, feeling a disconnection from your partner.

 

[redliner]

When we first had my son I was not ready for it at all. My wife just went with it and seemed so natural. I kinda just started emulating her. Until I found my own way. I work shift work so on week days I have the kids by myself. That is when it totally changed for me. I spend a lot alone time with my kids. Way more then I did when we just had my son. It kinda makes me feel bad for not always being there for my son when he was 1 and 2. Now I just love it. It is second nature to me. I guess what I am getting at is that every takes there time to adjust to parenthood. I was luck to LEARN from my wife. Who is a dam natural.

 

[purpledove]

No, I have never felt that. I like it more actually if others gave more attention to my son than to me. It makes me happy to see him interact with others and show appreciation of the attention given to him.

 

[redliner]

No, I have never felt that. I like it more actually if others gave more attention to my son than to me. It makes me happy to see him interact with others and show appreciation of the attention given to him.

I approve this message :thumbup

 

[Thornless]

Aatention from Bryan: yes, I do occasionally. From people in general no.

I get needy sometimes just like the kids do, and want him for myself.

 

[Aries]

Never once did I feel this way.

 

[Skorpy]

To be honest. I don't know how anyone could be jealous of their own kids.

No matter what. I am proud of my kids, and that means in not being selfish in wanting what they got, just because you haven't.

btw, this isn't directed at anyone on here either....

 

[StripedCat]

I don't have own kids, but currently I envy today's school kids. I'm doing a practical training at a (or rather: my former) school and I realized that school today is so much better, so much more interesting, than at my times.
If I could, I would repeat grammar school - just for fun.

 

[Butterfly]

No jealousy, no.
I doubt either my hubby or I feel jealousy for the attention or affection that the other gives the kids. We do occasionally feel frustration though when the kids stop us from spending some much needed time together, but we work around it. And it has improved for us as the kids get older.

 

[Johnfromokc]

Never once did I feel this way.

:homo:

 

[Veronica]

No I cant say that I do with the kids. I do sometimes get jealous of the way my husband treats his family versus me.. but not the kids.

 

[Niamh]

No jealousy, no.
I doubt either my hubby or I feel jealousy for the attention or affection that the other gives the kids. We do occasionally feel frustration though when the kids stop us from spending some much needed time together, but we work around it. And it has improved for us as the kids get older.

:homo: yeah, this pretty much, I couldn't imagine feeling jealous of my kids though

 

[purpledove]

To be honest. I don't know how anyone could be jealous of their own kids.

No matter what. I am proud of my kids, and that means in not being selfish in wanting what they got, just because you haven't.

btw, this isn't directed at anyone on here either....

I totally agree :nod:

I don't quite get why others would feel jealous about their own kids? Why compete with them for attention when they are their flesh and blood, a part of them. Whatever the attention given to the kids- then becomes a part of the parent too. They should feel proud their kids are getting that attention......I guess, to each their own....