I can say i have never felt jealous of my son and the attention he receives. I feel very happy when i see people making a fuss over him. I love seeing his happiness and the love people have for him.
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I can say i have never felt jealous of my son and the attention he receives. I feel very happy when i see people making a fuss over him. I love seeing his happiness and the love people have for him.
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Same here.
Yeah I feel the same way.
I want my daughter to feel happy and I've never felt jealous of her getting attention or anything.
It's funny I'm a step mother times two. With my first husband, I felt sorry for the two kids. If anything came up that Patrick would rather do he'd cancel the kids. He also would fight against any extra money items. So basically Jane (his ex) and I became friends and worked together for the good of the kids. I became more a friend of my step daughter who was only 12 years younger than me anyway.
With my stepson Evan-Joe's son, I felt such love instantly, have know him since he was 6 and he was a reader with a big imagination and he and I related real well together and he was/is such a sweet kid just instantly felt love.
I don't like his mother at all she and me are polar opposite and I do resent her sometimes and her wanting things that I think she should provide as she makes more money than Joe. But that's a different kettle of fish-more about resenting her than anything to do with Evan.
With my stepson Evan-Joe's son, I felt such love instantly, have know him since he was 6 and he was a reader with a big imagination and he and I related real well together and he was/is such a sweet kid just instantly felt love.
I don't like his mother at all she and me are polar opposite and I do resent her sometimes and her wanting things that I think she should provide as she makes more money than Joe. But that's a different kettle of fish-more about resenting her than anything to do with Evan.
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I suppose I need to explain my response.
I married my wife 28 years ago. For the first 3 years she was my wife and my bestfriend and my lover. When children came along although we both loved them she took the role of mother to a new level. For the next 20+ years she was the woman I slept beside who was the mother to my children. We rarely had time for each other. We ran our kids to all their extra-curricular activities and she mothered them non-stop. We found when we were finally alone we talked about the kids or were too tired to even spend time with each other. We never had date nights without the kids and we rarely had sex as she felt pulled on constantly by the kids, when they were finally in bed she did not want me tugging on her too. I now have my wife back. We talk and enjoy each other's company and yes even re-found our sex life. Looking back, was I jealous of my kids yes I was.
I married my wife 28 years ago. For the first 3 years she was my wife and my bestfriend and my lover. When children came along although we both loved them she took the role of mother to a new level. For the next 20+ years she was the woman I slept beside who was the mother to my children. We rarely had time for each other. We ran our kids to all their extra-curricular activities and she mothered them non-stop. We found when we were finally alone we talked about the kids or were too tired to even spend time with each other. We never had date nights without the kids and we rarely had sex as she felt pulled on constantly by the kids, when they were finally in bed she did not want me tugging on her too. I now have my wife back. We talk and enjoy each other's company and yes even re-found our sex life. Looking back, was I jealous of my kids yes I was.
Fred, I don't think you have to explain your response at all. I think that you are being honest and that sometimes people need to remember they have more than one role in life. I have seen many marriages fail because of a wife forgetting she is a wife too. I commend you for sticking it out and glad it all worked out.
Others were saying they could never be jealous of their children so I felt I needed to explain. We never had a lot of money so hiring a babysitter and paying for a nice meal just did not happen. We ended up making friends with the parents of our children's friends or we probably would have had no friends. My wife was a stay at home mom while the kids were in school. I worked in an office alone 20 miles away most of the time. I did move my office closer to home later and now into our home but still our daily lives were so different. I spent far too much time completely alone and craved her attention when we were together. When both children were in school she volunteered at the schools which served the purpose of getting her out of the house. Looking back I think we had several rough stretches but we were always a stable influence on our children. I hope we were a good influence as well.
It is just our opinion. It is not a fire attack or anything at you. You also have your opinion too. That is what these forums are for
Nothing wrong in you explaining how you feel and to talk about it, and I ma sure you are not the only one.
pinkporridge
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im too selfish to have children. i think i would be jealous of attention given to them from my partner, if i wasnt getting some too :/
Where were ya 15 years ago.I was looking for a someone that didn't want kids.I love mine more than anything,but if I had a do over,I would have at least waited until my 30's.
pinkporridge
V.I.Pinkporridge
i didnt want children. I bought a bunny instead. my bf doesnt really give attention to pets so im quite happy
thank you for your honesty. i guess that some men really do feel this way. that is one of the problems i am having. after working all day, doing the stuff around the house, paying attention to the kids and their needs, i guess i dont have energy for anything else. as some have pointed out maybe as they get older it will get better.
My wife and I always complemented each other. Our individual strengths made us the perfect match. I had to remind myself we are/were a team. We both did things around the house and shared many duties but she provided far more nurturing than I did. We reminded each other often that we loved each other. Human nature is what it is and I craved her attention when she really did not have anything left to give. When the children can drive themselves and are more social outside Mom and Dad it does get better.
I can offer Fuzz a few of pieces of advice. Enjoy the children they do grow up quick. When your wife needs to talk, listen. She does not necessarily need you to fix what she has on her mind but caring enough to listen means more to your wife than you can imagine. Hang in there everything now was worth the wait.
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