Bi/Lesbian/Gay Parents

[Dana]

1. My contribution for the day.. I know of a few girls and guys who once considered themselves bi and because they had long term relationships with women are now saying they are full on lesbian/gay... Is this right?

2. Once you go bi and you have relations with both sexes. Do you think its right after you've already had sexual relations with a man/woman and been inpregnanated/got someone pregnant to become a full on homosexual? Is it really a responsible action. You have to think about more than your needs once you have a child. Yes two women can take care of a child but its bound to affect the child.

I used to be into this woman online got to know her really well and her ex husband happened to turn out to be gay after having two children and now shes having alot of problems with her oldest because of the father.

I also know plenty of women who have kids and have physical sex with a guy and had feelings for them and considered themselves bi sexual but later on decided because theyd been in a long term relation they guessed they were lesbian. I was good friends with a girl who used to swoon over a friend of mine and had major trouble with the girl she was with because of it...


so your thoughts?

 

[silentbob]

i have no thoughts but what people do is there business.

 

[Dana]

It's the debate forum; whether its their own business or not is irrelevant! opcorn2:

 

[Tim]

I don't think the sexual orientation of the parents will cause problems with the children, just as their religion or race wouldn't.

 

[SRC]

Except for the whole being taunted at school thing. Sexual orientation is still "new" as far as minority issues go. People are still pretty readily against it .. and are harsh towards kids whose parents are gay sometimes.

I think it is something to think about, as a parent. You aren't just "you" .. what you do does affect your children, and it's not exactly fair to them either. They didn't choose to be born.

I'm not saying it's wrong, just saying it is something you would need to weigh heavily before just jumping into.

 

[Boomer]

 

[All Else Failed]

Gay parents > no parents

Except for the whole being taunted at school thing. Sexual orientation is still "new" as far as minority issues go. People are still pretty readily against it .. and are harsh towards kids whose parents are gay sometimes.

I think it is something to think about, as a parent. You aren't just "you" .. what you do does affect your children, and it's not exactly fair to them either. They didn't choose to be born.

I'm not saying it's wrong, just saying it is something you would need to weigh heavily before just jumping into.

Are you suggesting that somehow their gayness would "rub off" on their children? Am I reading you correctly?

 

[Dana]

Gay parents > no parents





Are you suggesting that somehow their gayness would "rub off" on their children? Am I reading you correctly?

she never said that... But it does affect their everyday lives and can emotionally scar them if not handled correctly.

 

[darkcgi]

truth is , is that man needs woman
woman needs man
and that is that in the end

 

[Peter Parka]

I'd much rather see kids brought up by loving and responsible gay parents than some of the fucking idiots I see with kids round my town.

 

[darkcgi]

kids just need to taken care of

 

[Keight]

One of My best friends is a Lesbian and she has a Son from a previous marraige. If anything this child is more open to life and not force fed societies "rules" on the way people are supposed to act etc.

 

[Pudding Time]

i have no thoughts but what people do is there business.

My thoughts exactly. I only wish politicians would understand this.

 

[All Else Failed]

truth is , is that man needs woman
woman needs man
and that is that in the end

Or people just need people.

 

[boxer810]

I was raised in a VERY strict church home. My Dad preached for a time when I was growing up, but we were always at church. We were taught that to have any relations with anyone of the same sex was wrong. HOWEVER...

I believe that sexual orientation can influence a child in a bad way AND in a good way, it all depends on the parents. If a lesbian/gay couple raise their children to believe that all gay people are oppressed and treated unfairly then the child can grow up with a very negative view on homosexuality. If the parents teach the children to have an open mind and to be loving and accepting to everyone no matter what their orientation, then it can be a positive experience for the child.

 

[HisHoliness]

Gay parents > no parents





Are you suggesting that somehow their gayness would "rub off" on their children? Am I reading you correctly?

I don't think gayness rubs off, but I can see how there would be confusion when the child is later exposed (in school or friends) to more traditional gender roles. It's possible that two mommies or two daddies isn't as good as one of each.

I'd much rather see kids brought up by loving and responsible gay parents than some of the fucking idiots I see with kids round my town.

I'm sure there would be just as many irresponsible homosexual parents as there are heterosexual, but I see where you're coming from.

 

[Peter Parka]

I don't think gayness rubs off, but I can see how there would be confusion when the child is later exposed (in school or friends) to more traditional gender roles.

You mean in the same way that kids brought up by straight people might be confused the first time they come across gay people?:humm:

 

[HisHoliness]

You mean in the same way that kids brought up by straight people might be confused the first time they come across gay people?:humm:

It's not quite the same in that gay people do not make up the majority of couples or marriages. And certainly, there are much fewer gay parents. The "culture shock" going the other way is less extreme, in my opinion.

 

[Pudding Time]

I was raised in a VERY strict church home. My Dad preached for a time when I was growing up, but we were always at church. We were taught that to have any relations with anyone of the same sex was wrong. HOWEVER...

I believe that sexual orientation can influence a child in a bad way AND in a good way, it all depends on the parents. If a lesbian/gay couple raise their children to believe that all gay people are oppressed and treated unfairly then the child can grow up with a very negative view on homosexuality. If the parents teach the children to have an open mind and to be loving and accepting to everyone no matter what their orientation, then it can be a positive experience for the child.

Well at least they would be teaching their children the truth.

 

[boxer810]

Well at least they would be teaching their children the truth.

That's not true at all. Not all gay people are treated unfairly. Yes, there are quite a few assholes in this world that base their entire opinions on a person by their sexual orientation, or their color, or what language they speak, but not everyone.