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as much as it would mean for him to have the baby, i don't think it would be appropriate for him to do so. IMO, 3 months is too young for a road trip
 
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I'de like to play devils advocate for a minute... please don't take offense

Doesn't the father of the child have any rights concerning his child? If the roles were reversed and you were the one flying down to see your family after a loved one died, would you leave the baby at home with him or would you take the baby with you?
Your fear of flying shouldn't weigh in on it. It's still safer to fly to Florida with your baby than to drive to the store with her everyday.
At 3 months old, your baby is able to travel with you. Properly bundled up and with the right kind of planning, a baby shouldn't keep you from being able to go places. I'm not suggesting you become a jet set family, but a trip once in a while is ok.
 
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Ok, now my post.....

As the mother you need to do what you feel is best for your child. If you don't think he can care for her on this trip, then tell him that. But that is a very hard conversation to have....
 
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yeah tim i do see the other side of this fence very clearly,

but my persona reservations are to the point taht i don't agree with long distance seperation at that age. trip would be ok if kat went with them. this being thier first child having reservations about his ability to handle the baby solo is natural
 
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I guess this is the reason fathers need to be more involved with their children.

The reason I brough that up, because I was just as involved in both my kids when they were babies. I was AS capable of tending to them as the mother. I spent just as much time with them. So it would have been a toss up for me wheather they stayed or came along. It doesn't sound like this is the case here...
 
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My personal opinion....I dont think a funeral is such a great time and idea to meet the new granddaughter.
And from my own experience, when my 1st child was only 6 months old, she stayed the night with great grandparents (whom lived just down the road) so me and her daddy could have a night alone together....I was miserable the whole time she was gone. All I could don was think about her. I even woke up in the middle of the night so upset because I missed her so much that I was crying.
 
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yeah , the seperation would emotionaly taxing if not for the baby then immensly so for kat. and crystal can vouch even though i was perfectly capable and willing to take care of riley at that age she would still worry.
 
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Mrs Behavin said:
My personal opinion....I dont think a funeral is such a great time and idea to meet the new granddaughter.
And from my own experience, when my 1st child was only 6 months old, she stayed the night with great grandparents (whom lived just down the road) so me and her daddy could have a night alone together....I was miserable the whole time she was gone. All I could don was think about her. I even woke up in the middle of the night so upset because I missed her so much that I was crying.
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I know I will be the same way on this.

and tim yes you do have a point...thats why i was torn on what to do...but the fact is that hes not around much for her cause he has to work so much...so i am with her 24/7 i dont know how she will be without me for 3 days even...considering there are nights when i run to the store and leave her home with him and she is crying 5 mins after I walk out the door until i get home...then when she sees me shes fine again...what will she feel if im not there for her..he does have the right as her dad to take her with him if he wants...but only if I agree to it. I just think me being full time stay at home mom makes it a more difficult situation because she always has me here...plus i dont usually leave her to cry when shes getting too upset to occupie herself...he sometimes does cause he feels i spoil her...our ways are so different of handling her so I dont want her to be without me and the comfort i provide, for 3 days
 
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Kat after thinking about it all night i feel she is to young to go without you i'd have no problem if she was like a year old but 3 months is just to young to go on a trip like that without her mother , believe me i know how hard it is to take care of little ones i'm not saying your husband couldn't do it but has he ever even spent just one day with the baby without you to do all the things that need to be done .
 
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dont let her go on that plane at 3 months old because any sane person would want to commit suicide after listening to her scream and cry the entire flight. do everyone else a favor.
 
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Homer said:
Kat after thinking about it all night i feel she is to young to go without you i'd have no problem if she was like a year old but 3 months is just to young to go on a trip like that without her mother , believe me i know how hard it is to take care of little ones i'm not saying your husband couldn't do it but has he ever even spent just one day with the baby without you to do all the things that need to be done .
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No she hasnt spent one entire day with her dad...I do know he could do it...but to have to deal with that with the funeral...after never having done it before...I dont think this is the time for him to give it a try.

And ali I know what youre saying...its so true even tho I know she wouldnt be crying too much if at all...She barely ever cries...as long as she has a toy and a bottle when she needs it..shes all set...especially when being held by either me or her dad...but I still know what you mean.

I guess I'll be finding out tonight if he was serious when he mentioned taking her...since he leaves tomorrow. I just hope I can handle it in a way that wont make him feel Im attacking him as a dad...or focusing on me and how I dont want her to go...he can be very touchy and take things the wrong way when hes upset about something
 
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Wouldn't he have had to buy her ticket already? Don't airlines require an extra seat to put the car seat?
 
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