At what point would you have stepped in?

[GoodOlCap]

But if you die trying to save her (we'll use the female in this scenario as an example) and she still gets killed, what good have you done??? I know that some people have the mentality that they can handle anything and blah blah blah, but that way of thinking has gotten many an officer/firefighter/paramedic killed.

Well, if she died anyway, at least she'd die knowing that someone tried to help her. And that's good enough for me.

 

[Natasha]

Well, if she died anyway, at least she'd die knowing that someone tried to help her. And that's good enough for me.

That's very noble. I also believe that calling the police and monitoring until they arrive is HELPING her as well. Just my 2 cents.

 

[Panacea]

I agree with Natasha. Getting yourself killed for a stranger is noble until you consider the loved ones you'd be devastating in the process, when you could have called and done it the safest way for all involved.

 

[Defiant Tuesday]

Well, if she died anyway, at least she'd die knowing that someone tried to help her. And that's good enough for me.

Repped

 

[Alien Allen]

Let em sort it out themselves

It worked for ages

 

[freakofnature]

Let em sort it out themselves

It worked for ages

:homo: If they both seem to be handling each other, which is what it sounds like here, I say mind your own business.

 

[purpledove]

Had not a passersby (neighbor walking his dog) intervened that night when my ex hit me in the driveway and him about to place a knife on my throat when i was down on the ground... I would have died then and have left my son without a mom

Had not this neighbor also reported the incident to the police, I would have never had the guts to report my ex and put a stop to his long term abuse.....

I am very grateful to that guy who sacrificed his life to help 2 lost, helpless souls ( myself and my son) :nod:

 

[Peter Parka]

They both sound as bad as each other. If the bloke was beating the crap out of the woman, then fair enough, I'd jump in but from what you described I'd leave them to it though I might phone the police to report them.

 

[NuckingFuts]

If my kid was with me, no. I would just call the cops.
If the guy was kicking her ass, yes I would help in a heart beat. If my kid was not there. If he was with me, no. Just call the cops.


The way the story is told sounds like the man was just trying to get away from the crazy woman and defend himself.

 

[cam elle toe]

I would and have intervened

Having been in the situation where NO mongrel stepped into help because it was "none of their business"...I would first call the cops, then do something...anything to stop the attack.

WHAT I would do would depend on the situation, parties involved etc

Your case DT...probably not...sounds as though they were as bad as each other and both were on the receiving end. I would have just yelled to them that I HAD phoned the cops and given their details.

 

[Abcinthia]

I probably wouldn't have intervened because they both sound awful but would have phoned the police.

If it was just one of them beating the other, I'd have to seriously think if intervening would be best (I'd definitely phone the police) and just what I could do (eg yelling or actually having to get physically involved). I wouldn't want to put myself in a situation where I could get seriously hurt whilst being no help at all to the person being beaten. Maybe that sounds selfish but I know I'm not strong or much of a fighter and you never know how people are going to react.

 

[itsmeJonB]

The scenario, like peter said, makes each one sound as bad as the other, so stepping in in this situation wouldn't be worth potentially losing my life or limb over. Id rather be around for my son's well being, that's my reasoning moreso than not

 

[Veronica]

I agree w/ what most everybody else has said. It would have to be something severe for me to intervene personally instead of just calling the police and monitoring the situation while they were enroute. For instance, several years ago now we had an officer on a traffic stop that was wrestling w/ the guy on the side of the road. The suspect just about had his gun and, fortunately, a citizen came to the assistance of the officer and helped him get the guy under control. Had it not been for the citizen's intervention, we very well could have buried our officer that week.

I will say that if a child was in trouble I would intervene in a heartbeat. I would gladly give my life up to save the life of a child.

:homo::nod::homo:

 

[Joe the meek]

I could never think like that, not the way I was raised. Honestly, I'd put myself in one of those graves without a second thought.

It's one thing trying to rescue someone due to their environment and the situation they're in, it's a completely different story getting involved in a situation that you have no clue about. Even if you want to save someone from their environment/situation, you better know all the variables at play before you get involved. Victims that have died while drowning or those involved in low head dam fatalities are prime examples.

Helping an LEO who may loose his life due to losing his weapon is a different story than getting mixed up in a domestic dispute IMO.

To the OP, chances are EVEN if you would of gotten involved as some people here mentioned they would, chances are in a domestic dispute if you stop the aggression of one party towards another, there is a good chance YOU will be the subject of aggression by the second party.

 

[AstriaPorta]

both were bad and she continue while he was going away ..maybe call the police thats all

am not a big person to intervene only i will for something serious maybe like a child been hurt or something i will do what i can ..

 

[Natasha]

It's one thing trying to rescue someone due to their environment and the situation they're in, it's a completely different story getting involved in a situation that you have no clue about. Even if you want to save someone from their environment/situation, you better know all the variables at play before you get involved. Victims that have died while drowning or those involved in low head dam fatalities are prime examples.

Just lost a classmate about a month ago that passed away trying to save his son from drowning. I have to admit I would be way more likely to perish in that manner than by intervening in a domestic situation.

Helping an LEO who may loose his life due to losing his weapon is a different story than getting mixed up in a domestic dispute IMO.

I agree here as well. For one, unless the officer hasn't had time to radio in for help or a passerby hasn't called in, there are probably 80000 uniformed officers on the way to the scene w/ lights, sirens, and engines screaming. For two, if you can help the officer regain his advantage the situation will more than likely be controlled.

To the OP, chances are EVEN if you would of gotten involved as some people here mentioned they would, chances are in a domestic dispute if you stop the aggression of one party towards another, there is a good chance YOU will be the subject of aggression by the second party.

Agreed as well. I also would have a serious problem risking my neck to "save" a woman who had a way out of the situation and instead chose to immerse herself back into it.

 

[HottyToddyChick]

My parents came across something very similar to that once. They were fighting in the van going down the highway and pulled off. Next thing my dad knows, he sees the guy lunge out of the driver's seat, and he and his wife go flying out the passenger door. He was choking her. So my dad pulled off and got in the middle of them until the cops got there. Granted, he's a Marine with MP experience, so he was better suited to intervening than I would be. He can be very intimidating, but he is not a big man at all.

I don't know... I'm an idiot. I probably would have done something.

 

[Joe the meek]

I don't know... I'm an idiot. I probably would have done something.

I would like to think everyone would like to "do good" in a bad situation, but the fact is you have to ensure you know what you're getting yourself into and what affect your own actions may on the situation, and realize and accept the fact that in some situations, losing one life is better than losing two life's (domestic disputes are unique unto their own, not like pulling someone from a burning car or something).

I can still recall some idiotic heroic attempts by people to "help" others (or perhaps retrieve some dead bodies) that ended in disaster because the people doing the "rescuing" got in over their heads and made a stable situation worse (or they decided that they couldn't sit by and watch someone die, so they had to do something, which ended up getting other people involved, and instead of only having one person dead, you had two or three people dead).

Perhaps when you try to save someone and they almost kill for the actions you've taken to help them (the victim) gives you a different perspective.

 

[BadBoy]

I would have intervened only if someone got knocked the fuck out. Otherwise, I would have popped some popcorn and hoped for a stray nipple to appear.

 

[skyblue]

if she was giving as good as she got i'd have left it......i do hate men hitting women though