Are You Timid Or Outspoken?

[sidney]

The title pretty much says it all. If faced with a person that rubs you the wrong way, or you don't like what someone has said or done, or even if you found out that people have been nasty behind your back, what would you do? Would you confront that person or would you just suffer in silence? I have always been outspoken, so unless there would be negative consequences that are not in my best interest that would occur if I confront the person (like a boss for example) then I would definitely speak my mind. How about you? Are you timid or outspoken?

 

[Shimus]

I'm outspoken with individuals I do not know/have never seen before, but I tend to cut my interactions/be timid with people I know as to keep the 'homefront' flowing nicely and the gears oiled, even if something bothers me. I would confront them if the issues got out of hand no matter who they are, though.

I suffer in silence a lot in my home living conditions. I wish I could say so much, but I can't because I don't foot the bills and I'd get the boot. So matter if they are authoritarian in their ways, I have to abide by them. And they're not even my parents, which is worse.

 

[Lushlala]

I'm outspoken, I'm not shy at all about coming forward with my opinion or confronting someone with something I don't like. I'm feisty and have a sting to my tail LOL I guess that's the Scorpio in me. I think this shocks people when they're on the receiving end of it for the first time, because on the face of it I'm this petite, very friendly, very cheerful and sometimes described as very sweet person. Cross me, and you'll soon know I don't suffer fools gladly.

I have learnt to bite my tongue more as I've got older. BUT if something bothers me enough, I'll mull it over and then bring it up with the concerned party. I'll often also seek a second, objective opinion to ensure I'm not overreacting. If they said something nasty about me behind my back, whether or not I approach them about it will depend on if I actually have time for them, or if I care enough about their opinion. If I consider them as inconsequential in my life, I brush it off and move right along. If I care, I'll approach them for clarification in a calm manner.

 

[missbishi]

I generally confront people. In the past, I let things fester and this led to me having some pretty serious anger outbursts. These days, I find that saying what's on my mind there and then prevents any explosions further down the line.

Of course, there are times where it's better to keep your mouth shut but on the whole, I'm not afraid to speak out.

 

[gata montes]

I'm very definitely quite the opposite of timid and although not quite as blunt as I used to be I am still very definitely outspoken and especially so if its something that I feel strongly about - but that said - as I am in general fairly placid with a cheerful easy going disposition - rather than be too confrontational - I will - although sometimes extremely hard - generally try to be diplomatic as well as remain reasonably opened minded when confronting someone - regardless of the issue.

Although it is obviously very definitely best to try and bite your tongue in cases where the outcome - could be detrimental to you - I have to say that nothing frustrates me more - than people who suddenly start behaving oddly around you and even start to make life unpleasant - simply because they have either misconstrued something that you have said or made an assumption about something that they think you might have done - especially as these unpleasant situations can usually very easily be avoided if only people were more willing to speak up about whatever issues they have - rather than make judgements or jump to conclusions based on assumptions.

So with that in mind I would just say that - as with anything in life - because its virtually impossible to change a situation or rectify something - if you have absolutely no idea what it is that you need to do in order to change it - I think it is generally way better to discuss whatever it is that is bugging you rather than dwell on it - particularly as doing that usually makes life a whole lot more pleasant not just for you but for everyone - especially as what were once ant hills very quickly become mountains if left to fester.

 

[Mockingbird]

I used to be much more out spoken and direct, but have found that somewhere along the lines I have become much quieter and non-reactive unless you have the misfortune of pushing me to that point. I might go off on you, or if your are annoying, disrespectful or continuously rude I might go for a total different tactic. I have found that I make mental notes, because eventually, the worm always turns, and I will have a much better opportunity to even the score. I am above all patient and learned long ago it is no use arguing with truly stupid people. It's called healthy boundaries and manners.

Funny though, just this week I had a person that should know better, not once but twice make a very disparaging remark about me in an effort to cover their own short comings at the workplace. There was a time my reactions would have been much more explosive and direct. This time, the thought occurred to me that actions can speak louder then words. She fooled no one and in her attempt- looked petty. The joke was she believed she was making herself look better. Such are the things that unravel careers.

 

[Gemma]

Online - I'm pretty much always outspoken. I typically have dual viewpoints and can see the other side of things so I may argue both sides.
In person - I usually try for more diplomacy. I don't hide my opinion but I may be softer about my approach than I would be online. If something bothers me but is not actively harming me (i.e. it's an emotional reaction on my part), I may first try to change my reaction before I talk about the thing. But I believe communication is very important so I will bring up a lot of subjects that many people wouldn't talk about. I do try to be gentle about it though.

 

[joshposh]

I'm the shy type and I don't speak unless it is totally necessary. However, there are times when I do rise up and will speak. These are the extreme times when I know 100% in my heart that I truly believe something is just and needs to be said, I will verbally stand up and make a case. I'm not a trouble maker by any means. I keep quiet as my parent have taught me, but they always taught me to fight for what you believe in.

 

[boombala]

I am neither timid nor outspoken -- I'm either/or depending on the situation. I try not to hurt others feelings or disagree with them too strongly -- if I see them becoming too uncomfortable, I back off (I don't feel I have to win or be a person who is always right because we can learn a lot from others by just listening). Altho, if someone or something I hold dear is being unduly attacked, I don't hold back. I can increase the volume of my voice and cuss like a lumber jack, if need be.

I am not easily intimidated either unless I'm dealing with law enforcement (then it's, yes sir). The one thing that can get my "Italian" temper up really fast is when I'm confronted by a bully. I hate bullies and may go out of my way to stop one from possibly harming a child, a pet or one who disrespects the environment. I can also be very forward -- example is that I make loud beeping sounds when I'm stuck behind someone with a cart while shopping, who is unaware there are others trying to get by. Other than that, I'm fairly easy going.

 

[Joe the meek]

How about you guys join instead of being a visitor/guest?

Guess which one I am?

 

[MainerMikeBrown]

I used to be too timid, as I put up with too much, as I was on medications that made me too nervous to be able to handle confrontation well.

However, I've been on new medication for a long time now. Hence, I've become more calm, and as a result, more confrontational.

But I don't think I'm overly confrontational. I'm kind of in the middle.

 

[RUBESH]

Confrontation may be a beneficial technique in some instances, particularly when it comes to expressing oneself and defining limits. However, it is critical to approach confrontation in a productive and polite manner, and to be prepared for the conversation's various consequences.

On the other hand, there may be instances when an alternative approach, such as seeking advice from a trustworthy friend or counselor, or finding means to remove yourself from the individual, is more constructive.

 

[Springtime]

I am quite outspoken. I enjoy socializing with people, exchanging ideas with them. I am also pretty good speaking in public.

 

[freelancermaria]

When I was younger, I was shy/timid. However, as I grow older, I become more vocal. I have to speak up, especially when others are disrespecting me/my boundaries or when people I care about are going through the same thing. We must speak up for ourselves. Allow no one to bring us down.

 

[Shortie]

I always used to be timid and shy when I was younger but as I got older, my confidence did start to get better, that was until I ended up in a situation that affected me mentally badly.

Now as much as I would love to say something back to someone, I tend to just shut off and not bother as I don't need the extra drama, unless of course it is something pretty serious in which case, I will say something.

 

[relcap23]

I am outspoken. In my work organization I am the most outspoken one. I find it best to speak my mind rather than keeping issues and concerns all by myself. I am never the timid type.

 

[cherry123]

I'm a very outspoken person. it is only on very important things but I'm not timid but maybe a little quiet on things that I don't want to talk about

 

[Stardom22]

I am very timid in life. However I am struggling to move out of that cage still invain.

 

[cherry123]

I noticed that one gain nothing from. being timid it is always good to get out of the shell and be outspoken

 

[Stardom22]

I noticed that one gain nothing from. being timid it is always good to get out of the shell and be outspoken

I think being outspoken is pretty much profitable than being timid. Timids tend to be depressed and stressed