guys, would you?

[Kat]

would you be turned off by an ex cutter? would you be grossed out by her scars...even if you claimed to really liked the girl would you ask her to cover them up when going out or accept them as part of her...part of her past and love her in pite of them.

 

[Darkstar]

I have scars too. Its not like I can hide it. If you are embarrassed by it, dont look at it. It reminds of who you were, and who you want to be. At least, it does for me. Its encouragement to put yourself in a better place.

 

[TheOriginalJames]

I'd be surprised, but intrigued by it. Don't think it'd be a turn off for me.

 

[Kat]

I have scars too. Its not like I can hide it. If you are embarrassed by it, dont look at it. It reminds of who you were, and who you want to be. At least, it does for me. Its encouragement to put yourself in a better place.

I cant hide mine either really....im not ashamed or embarrassed by em' actually i dont even think about em anymore...except to think of how proud i am to how far ive come....just wondering how a guy would view

 

[BaggedSplash]

it dont bother me, but id ask how you got them.

 

[Kat]

it dont bother me, but id ask how you got them.

if told they were self inflicted would that bother you then?

 

[TheOriginalJames]

Nope. *since i got ignored*

 

[Darkstar]

You didnt get ignored.

 

[BaggedSplash]

if told they were self inflicted would that bother you then?

nah, whats in the past is in the past

 

[Kat]

Nope. *since i got ignored*

you so did not get ignored...you just gave a great answer hun

 

[Homer]

i think the right thing would be to let the person with scars decide for them selve if they wanted to cover their scars , who am i to decide for someone other then my self.

 

[OUZBnd]

I'm gonna be honest. It would bother and worry me.

 

[Haus]

i used to cut. how about you girls. would it bother you if you saw a guy with scars and asked how he got them and then he said they were self caused.

 

[SilentEyz]

It wouldnt bother me Haus,

Hell I learned the joys of cutting from a BF, It would only bother me if he was STILL doing it.

 

[AUDRAA]

nope wouldnt bother me at all. I would want to know what happened though and if I was dating that person hopefully they would be able to trust me enough to tell me

 

[IntruderLS1]

We all have a past. Some are lighter than others, but we're all the same in that we have to link up with somebody who is going to be okay with it. The bottom line is, that if they're not okay with you, it saves you a step, because like it or not you shouldn't be there.

Have no fear that there is somebody out there for you, but looking too hard isn't a good idea, because we tend to settle.

I don't know you well, as I'm not on much, but from what I've seen and read, I know that there are guys out there looking for somebody just like you.

If the joe-blow you're with now makes you cover up, then he's not the one. Don't let impatients ruin your future.

PS: I'm glad you're better now.

 

[lemon]

hmm - for truth, it would take some time for me. but after a while, i would get used to seeing them, and just start appreciating them, because the scars help define who that person is. (if that makes sense)

 

[Charmer]

Not at all. I've been with girls who have different kinds of scars from different accidents on different parts of their bodies. If I love them for who they are personality-wise, friendly, common interests, whatnot, then their scars wouldn't bother me at all.

Now, if they were still cutting themselves, I would talk to them about it, because obviously something's wrong and I like listening and helping....

 

[Maritxu]

I would be at least a little worried... as a psychologist, I can't help it. But if it is part of that person's pasta, then it's ok with me... actually maybe I'd be happy to see that the overcame that and a lot of other difficulties.

 

[sharpies]

I must admit that there may be a little worry - I would not express it or ask you to cover them up but I would be a little worried, in my own mind, what may happen if anything happened in the relationship.

I suppose that it's about having the peace of mind that you are well enough to cope with the normal ups& downs that relationships throw at you.

In time I'm sure those fears could be alleviated. I hope that I explained myself well enough.

Allan