Why Men and Women Can't be Friends

[Tim]

To be honest I could not just be friends with any of those women. I would want to nail them all!

I think you hit this right on the head.

If any of these girls were 350lbs and homely looking, you might get a different response.

 

[HK]

Do you mean to tell me that some of the guys on here that I consider friends arent really that and just want to get in my pants?

Actually I think the online world is one of the few places men and women can have friendly relationships without the sexual complications - mainly because it's harder to feel a sexual connection with someone that you aren't physically near.

That's not to say there isn't still likely to be an overtone... go to any forums and you still see flirtations and those weird 'are they serious or not?' relationships where no one's really sure if anything's going on but it sure seems like it... but I think friends you make online are more likely to really have no sexual interest (or very little).

 

[NoDak]

I am living proof that it is possible. My best friend is a female. She is engaged to a fella and is committed to him. I am married and I'm committed to my wife. Early on, when we became friends, "Sara" and I talked about the possibilities of things progressing to a point of becoming sexual. We have had many opportunities to cross that line, but, it's understood that it's not going to happen. We both agree that we'd stand to lose way too much if we had sex, including our friendship. Now, if we were, both, suddenly single, we might explore moving up a bit, but, not until then. It's very satisfying this way.

 

[Panacea]

I don't think that's a case, though...because there was a moment when more was discussed, and more is a possibility if things change. When you think of friends, say two straight male friends, they usually don't have that moment where they have to discuss if they'll sleep together or stay faithful to their girlfriends. And if they are ever both single, it isn't likely to turn romantic...no exploring at all. That's platonic. And it's not just heterosexual men and women. Gay friends and lesbian friends often have fights and issues because two people who are potentially sexually attracted to each other cannot ever have a simple, platonic relationship.

Now I'd imagine a lesbian woman and a gay male could be platonic friends just fine hehe

 

[purpledove]

I am a living proof myself that men and women can be friends. My best friends for more than 12 years now are 2 guys whom i trust more than the female friends i have. I had another guy BFF (3rd) whom I'd been friends with since i was in middle school, unfortunately he passed in 2009. At work, i have male friends including hospital police officers/psychologists etc- we hang out and go paint balling etc with no strings attached.

 

[HK]

Now I'd imagine a lesbian woman and a gay male could be platonic friends just fine hehe

I'm not a lesbian so it's not exactly the same, but I did have a gay male friend that I got on really well with.

Like so well that eventually we ended up making out.

 

[HK]

God you know what I'd love to do?


Get loads of male/female 'friends' in to do a big study. Split them all up, tell them everything they said was completely confidential and then find out whether they've ever thought about their 'friend' sexually.


It'd be fascinating to see how many guys or girls then admitted that they've thought about taking it further, or have even tried to but been rejected. I'd also like to see, in those pairs, what percentage of them was one person completely denying any sort of sexual nature to the relationship and being adamant that they were just friends - and the other person saying they wanted more

 

[BleedingBull]

my best mate is a male nearly twelve yrs older then me, and he has put the hard word on a few times but always respects my no, I dont gel with females that well, and its possible to have close friendships of the opposite sex, plus his gf been normal and not jealous helps. lol.

 

[BadBoy]

wow I am suddenly enlightened by a response on here.
anyway..... I dont know why men and women cant be friends. Do you mean to tell me that some of the guys on here that I consider friends arent really that and just want to get in my pants? Seriously gentlemen if thats the case its kind of sad to think that most of you see being a friend with a woman is not possible, there is alot you can learn from a woman if you can stay in the friendzone that could be helpful to you in a relationship with other women potentially.
Oh and one last thing.... anyone seen that new show on MTV called friendzone? Its kind of cute, its about men and women (women/women, men/men) who have been friends for years and have developed feelings or always had feelings for their friend and want to come out of the friend zone so ask them to go on a date with them and make it a relationship.

Way too totally contradict yourself here!

Being friends with a woman is possible, at first, but it almost always leads to one wanting more. This is how work affairs happen, hell, any kind of affair.

 

[teh_fuzz]

wow I am suddenly enlightened by a response on here.
anyway..... I dont know why men and women cant be friends. Do you mean to tell me that some of the guys on here that I consider friends arent really that and just want to get in my pants? Seriously gentlemen if thats the case its kind of sad to think that most of you see being a friend with a woman is not possible, there is alot you can learn from a woman if you can stay in the friendzone that could be helpful to you in a relationship with other women potentially.
Oh and one last thing.... anyone seen that new show on MTV called friendzone? Its kind of cute, its about men and women (women/women, men/men) who have been friends for years and have developed feelings or always had feelings for their friend and want to come out of the friend zone so ask them to go on a date with them and make it a relationship.

There is a huge difference between people you meet online and consider your friend in the realm of the internet, and a friend you have made/met outside of the web (physically)... at least to me that is two very very different kind of friendships.

 

[Staci]

i belive that you can be friends with the opposite sex, and it not be anything sexual. all my life i have had more guy friends than girl friends. unfortunatly the majority of the women that i have met are total backstabbing bitches that will use you and abuse you for their own purpose

 

[BadBoy]

i belive that you can be friends with the opposite sex, and it not be anything sexual. all my life i have had more guy friends than girl friends. unfortunatly the majority of the women that i have met are total backstabbing bitches that will use you and abuse you for their own purpose

Just because you don't want the sex with the male doesn't mean he doesn't/didn't want the sex with you. IJS. I've heard this excuse before but the women I've known to use it in the past just needed the male attention for one reason or another. I'm not saying this is the case with you, I'm just telling you my experience. I know I will never be serious with a women who tends to surround herself with male friends, that's just asking for trouble.

 

[Staci]

Just because you don't want the sex with the male doesn't mean he doesn't/didn't want the sex with you. IJS. I've heard this excuse before but the women I've known to use it in the past just needed the male attention for one reason or another. I'm not saying this is the case with you, I'm just telling you my experience. I know I will never be serious with a women who tends to surround herself with male friends, that's just asking for trouble.

you have the same attitude as fuzz LOL

 

[teh_fuzz]

Just because you don't want the sex with the male doesn't mean he doesn't/didn't want the sex with you. IJS. I've heard this excuse before but the women I've known to use it in the past just needed the male attention for one reason or another. I'm not saying this is the case with you, I'm just telling you my experience. I know I will never be serious with a women who tends to surround herself with male friends, that's just asking for trouble.

If you were a gal, id be your friend
:ninja

 

[teh_fuzz]

you have the same attitude as fuzz LOL

yes indeed...

As Ive said it before... it is the dudes that are not to be trusted, and being that i am a guy, i can tell you that no matter what BS story they give you or me LOL, they all in the end cannot be trusted. *The only exception to the rule is when they are happily married*

 

[hart]

i belive that you can be friends with the opposite sex, and it not be anything sexual. all my life i have had more guy friends than girl friends. unfortunatly the majority of the women that i have met are total backstabbing bitches that will use you and abuse you for their own purpose

Gee Fuzz, what profession do you work in? :eek

 

[Niamh]

Just because you don't want the sex with the male doesn't mean he doesn't/didn't want the sex with you. IJS. I've heard this excuse before but the women I've known to use it in the past just needed the male attention for one reason or another. I'm not saying this is the case with you, I'm just telling you my experience. I know I will never be serious with a women who tends to surround herself with male friends, that's just asking for trouble.

I agree with this. Most women I've met who claim all other women are bitches and back stabbers (not themselves of course) usually just like being the centre of attention and surrounded by men.

 

[BleedingBull]

lol men are just as bitchy as chicks when its one on one backstabbing I dont think all women are bitches, I actually love the female friends I do have like sisters, women should stick together not compete like maggots over a piece of shit... umm a man I just dont like to much feminity thats all. I dont do girly girls.

 

[Niamh]

lol men are just as bitchy as chicks when its one on one backstabbing I dont think all women are bitches, I actually love the female friends I do have like sisters, women should stick together not compete like maggots over a piece of shit... umm a man I just dont like to much feminity thats all. I dont do girly girls.

I agree with you on all counts there

 

[Staci]

Gee Fuzz, what profession do you work in? :eek

im in the health care field LOL but this has gone on since junior high