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I don't see what the bg deal is. :unsure: What's wrong with communicating via text? I'd be more upset if no one told me at all.
Really? Seriously?
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It's because it was a text, buddy. I hate that technology has seized control of so many aspects of our lives, that people seem to ignore basic inter-personal skills, and I hate the fact that we are talking about a dead family member, regardless of relationship (good or bad) pick up the damn phone. Yanno?
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My ma phones me for everything, so I can rely on her to phone me if something happens in my family. Which I will admit can be trivial sometimes and I screw my face up and make faces at my flatmate when she does that haha. But I'd rather that than a text for some things.
i hope the next inappropriate text you get is how much you got for an inheritance:tooth:sarcasm
...and ya, texting, facebook updates, etc are so rude when it comes to death dying and overall misfortunes of others....it just desensitizing us all so much more, so i can understand how you feel Darrell. People seem to take the easy way out of communicating to one another these days, this is why i don't text and in most cases never have my cell/mobile on me.
...and ya, texting, facebook updates, etc are so rude when it comes to death dying and overall misfortunes of others....it just desensitizing us all so much more, so i can understand how you feel Darrell. People seem to take the easy way out of communicating to one another these days, this is why i don't text and in most cases never have my cell/mobile on me.
I tend to rely on Facebook and text messages for most of my communicating...I'm stuck on the phone 12 hours a day at work and don't care to be stuck on the phone when I'm at home, too. Having said that...I would NEVER EVER notify someone of a death by text message. I had the unpleasant duty of calling a friend of mine that I hadn't been in touch w/ for a year or so and letting him know that the police officer that trained him had been killed in a motorcycle accident. There's no way I would have done that by text message...and I'm glad I called him b/c I got the chance to talk him through his emotions and help him cope, even though he took that opportunity to yell at me for not having called him in the past year.
It's just common courtesy, IMO. Darrell deserved better.
Just as an aside, it's interesting; 50 years ago this thread would have been about the rudeness of someone calling to tell of a family death instead of coming over and telling in person. In 50 years the etiquette might change again.
My mother told me my aunt had passed away by screaming it in my ear as I slept. That was not at all traumatizing
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My mother told me my aunt had passed away by screaming it in my ear as I slept. That was not at all traumatizing
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That's a good point actually.
:homo: I had not thought of it that way either.
There was probably a time when people got upset that someone had the gall to deliver personal news via that "newfangled telephone" rather than have the courtesy to hitch up the horses and ride over and tell them in person. Now we consider the telephone a MORE personal way to communicate.
Personally, I would rather receive a text which is more discreet and private. In the modern world where your phone is always in you hand, who wants to get bad news while standing in a line at a fast-food joint? I can't stand having to be subjected to other people's personal business because they can't be away from their phone for two freaking seconds. I can see the OPs point if we were still in a time where the phone was in your home and and a phone conversation was a more personal and private matter, but that's no longer the case.
NOTE: I posted this BEFORE I saw Panacea's post saying the same thing. Great minds...
Personally, I would rather receive a text which is more discreet and private. In the modern world where your phone is always in you hand, who wants to get bad news while standing in a line at a fast-food joint? I can't stand having to be subjected to other people's personal business because they can't be away from their phone for two freaking seconds. I can see the OPs point if we were still in a time where the phone was in your home and and a phone conversation was a more personal and private matter, but that's no longer the case.
NOTE: I posted this BEFORE I saw Panacea's post saying the same thing. Great minds...
that is totally fucked up!! When my grandma was (still is) in the hospital in critical condition and on life support, I found out over facebook!
Im sorry that happen. really sucks. And Im sorry for your loss even tho you werent close.
When my grandma was (still is) in the hospital in critical condition and on life support, I found out over facebook! Im sorry that happen. really sucks. And Im sorry for your loss even tho you werent close.
There was probably a time when people got upset that someone had the gall to deliver personal news via that "newfangled telephone" rather than have the courtesy to hitch up the horses and ride over and tell them in person. Now we consider the telephone a MORE personal way to communicate.
Personally, I would rather receive a text which is more discreet and private. In the modern world where your phone is always in you hand, who wants to get bad news while standing in a line at a fast-food joint? I can't stand having to be subjected to other people's personal business because they can't be away from their phone for two freaking seconds. I can see the OPs point if we were still in a time where the phone was in your home and and a phone conversation was a more personal and private matter, but that's no longer the case.
NOTE: I posted this BEFORE I saw Panacea's post saying the same thing. Great minds...
Fair enough that times change... But when not everyone is using a system of communication that is considered acceptable yet I think there is a point where common sense should prevail..
50 years ago people did not text and while it probably was true that at one time it would have been rude not to get on a horse and ride over, you did not ride 3000 miles away for the most part, to tell someone a person died and come back home right away. Those who did more than likely never found out.. All the telephone did was give access to be able to talk without sight, a big difference from text, which you have no idea if it was received by the intended person.
So what is next.. Sending telepathic messages and if someone didn't receive them to bad for them.. :sarcasm
My comment was neutral; merely social commentary, not intended to diminish the offense.
No worries I was just pointing out that there are limits and times for everything and perhaps someday it will be acceptable to use this type of communications to inform people of such stuff.
I remember when i got into my car accident I told my brother, who visited me in the hospital, that if he posted the pictures of me face all bloody on Facebook he would be next.. It would have been the type of thing he would have done.. Not like I wanted a reminder of the accident I had just been when I would finally get released from the hospital with no way to remove it..
And my point was that for some people it may already BE acceptable. Who is to determine what is acceptable and is not? Personally, I would not be offended by receiving bad new via text, depending on who it was from and the circumstances. I use text messaging a lot in communication with my family members, mainly because they know when I am at work (which is A LOT) my cell doesn't get much of a signal in inside the kitchen area, yet texts come through. If it was an emergency or serious, someone would probably say "XXX has happened. Call as soon as you can" I wouldn't be upset by that.
Now the OP's circumstances are clearly different and he WAS bothered. I am not trying to diminish that either. Just saying we're all different and have different reactions.
I'm actually surprised at the number of you who are okay w/ being given a death notification by phone. It's such a delicate thing that our law enforcement agencies make the supervisors take care of it instead of letting regular patrol units do it. Aside from there being absolutely NO other way to notify someone, I find notification by text repulsive. I think it's a sad commentary on the way things are these days that not everybody sees it that way.
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AstriaPorta
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I dont know what to say it is only take few seconds to press the numbers on the phone maybe take longer to type the msg ..even if you are busy you can find few seconds to call
That's fine if that's what you prefer.. Again it falls at this point under personal preference..
I just don't think it should be assumed..
Don't you think it's a quite different scenario though, when you are talking about law enforcement notifying next of kin about a death as opposed to a family member communicating to another?
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