Would like your opinions on something.

My son has a friend who met a girl on line more than 8 months ago, they spoke everyday and she finally asked him to travel half way around the country and move in with her, not long after, he sold everything he owned, quit just about the best job he's ever had and he planned on doing just that. When the time came for her to pick him up at the airport, she didn't show up. He went online using his cellphone and waited for her to come online, which took days and when she finally did, she told him that she changed her mind, that they were moving way too fast and she had second thoughts, that's all. He's since found out that she wasn't at all what she said she was, she was married and had no right to get involved with anybody, let alone ruin his life the way that she so horribly did. My sons friend, is currently staying with his mother....he has nothing because he used what he had moneywise on the trip there and back. He tried to get his job back but his postition had been already filled with somebody his exboss says is 'reliable'. He's desperately looking for work and to get his life back.....this whole ordeal really took it's toll on him I'm afraid. Moral of the story..................take a trip and get to know each other in person before you do anything final. Good luck.
 
six6six6six6 said:
Don't worry mate, I'm meeting her shortly. Tell me you could say no to this face :


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yeah she's pretty man but still you need to be smart, don't just like quit your job and sell all of your shit to move in with her, I mean you could go visit her and come to find out she's nothing like what you think, you don't know what someone is REALLY like until you've actually lived with them, not talked to them on the phone or visited for a few days, I'd take this slow if I were you.
 
six6six6six6 said:
Met a girl online, she's very pretty and we have the same interests in just about everything that I could think of bringing up in our conversations, doesn't do any drugs (I'm a former addict), hell we even have the same quirky personalities. I'm going to be visiting her pretty soon to see if we "click" (and have some hot sweaty sex :P ). If we do in fact click (and I know we will) she wants me to move down there (Michigan, I'm in New York State). This is where y'all come in, I'm kinda on the edge about this. Should I stay or should I go. On one hand I don't have anything tying me down here, but I will be miles away from the few family members that still talk to me, and my two close friends. On the other hand I will not be so FUCKING lonely anymore (been a very rough two years for me, wife goin to prison then us seperatin but I won't get into that). Just need some 3rd party opinions from people that aren't close friends or family, sorry if it's a bit long tried to keep it as short as possible while getting the point across.
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Normally I would say no..but this appears to only be a few hundred miles..a days drive.
You dont have anything to tie you down to your location now...Go see her like she wants.
She wants you to come down for a visit and IF you 2 hit off then move in later.
I dont see anything crazy about this at all and would go for it,being you dont have anything to tie you down to your current location..I wouldnt do the final"commit" so fast though
I would visit for a few days then go back to NY for a few etc...hell its only a few hours away.
Perfect to escape you old life but not so far away you cant go visit etc :thumbup
 
dkwrtw said:
yeah she's pretty man but still you need to be smart, don't just like quit your job and sell all of your shit to move in with her, I mean you could go visit her and come to find out she's nothing like what you think, you don't know what someone is REALLY like until you've actually lived with them, not talked to them on the phone or visited for a few days, I'd take this slow if I were you.
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Well my job sucks ass so quitting it would be a pleasure, I know I'll find a better one down there. Ima stay with her for a couple weeks then come back home first. I'm not movin there yet, but when the time comes I've decided that I will.
 
The Man said:
Normally I would say no..but this appears to only be a few hundred miles..a days drive.
You dont have anything to tie you down to your location now...Go see her like she wants.
She wants you to come down for a visit and IF you 2 hit off then move in later.
I dont see anything crazy about this at all and would go for it,being you dont have anything to tie you down to your current location..I wouldnt do the final"commit" so fast though
I would visit for a few days then go back to NY for a few etc...hell its only a few hours away.
Perfect to escape you old life but not so far away you cant go visit etc :thumbup
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Yeah it's like a 4-6 hour drive roughly (drivin back to NY from WV was about 600 miles and a 8-10 hr drive) and shes gonna come and get me, and bring me back as well.
 
six6six6six6 said:
Met a girl online, she's very pretty and we have the same interests in just about everything that I could think of bringing up in our conversations, doesn't do any drugs (I'm a former addict), hell we even have the same quirky personalities. I'm going to be visiting her pretty soon to see if we "click" (and have some hot sweaty sex :P ). If we do in fact click (and I know we will) she wants me to move down there (Michigan, I'm in New York State). This is where y'all come in, I'm kinda on the edge about this. Should I stay or should I go. On one hand I don't have anything tying me down here, but I will be miles away from the few family members that still talk to me, and my two close friends. On the other hand I will not be so FUCKING lonely anymore (been a very rough two years for me, wife goin to prison then us seperatin but I won't get into that). Just need some 3rd party opinions from people that aren't close friends or family, sorry if it's a bit long tried to keep it as short as possible while getting the point across.
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Ok few things....
1. you met her online is it really the person you have seen in the pictures?
2. quirky most times translates to im never gonna let you go and love you for ever and ever until you get a restraining order.
3. You would move to a diff state after having sex with a chick once?
4. I get your lonely but i dunno i wouldnt jump too soon
5. It wasnt really that long i read it at work :p
6. Hope it all works out for you dude :)
 
Dana said:
i wouldnt move unless you been seeing her a while.
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He is going there for a "trial first"....you cant win if you dont play;)
If it pans out then it is worth the risk if it didnt...besides its just a few hours away..isnt like going across country or out of the country

six6six6six6 said:
You and me both mate, I will find out though.
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I think you have weighed the risks..and you 2 seem to have a connection...if it doesnt work out for some reason..you arent that far away from home technically.
Far enough away for a new start but yet close enough for visits back home :thumbup
 
Well, I'm new here and maybe going out on a limb, but I hope not to offend anyone.

I noticed you said you're a former addict. So am I. I also noticed you said you did something similar with your wife.

As a former addict, I have to remember that it's part of my addictive personality and/or included in my addictive behavior to act on impulse and not always think things out clearly. I also have to remember to learn from past mistakes, actions, and/or behaviors. Just sayin'

More generally - meeting someone online can be misleading. Hopefully things turn out wonderful for you, but even if they do on this first meeting, time is important in developing relationships.
 
Keight said:
Ok few things....
1. you met her online is it really the person you have seen in the pictures?
2. quirky most times translates to im never gonna let you go and love you for ever and ever until you get a restraining order.
3. You would move to a diff state after having sex with a chick once?
4. I get your lonely but i dunno i wouldnt jump too soon
5. It wasnt really that long i read it at work :p
6. Hope it all works out for you dude :)
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:24: You're awesome, yeah it's really her we've webcam chatted, and just because I'm a guy doesn't mean I'm doin it for sex :p
 
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